The other day, I think it was the the TWW thread that asked about how adventurous you are, which got me thinking. Will any of the following hurt one's chances of getting KU.
1. non-TTC approved lube (not spermicidal obviously, but not preseed either), used only on the outside bits for external stimulation.
2. vibrating double looped cock rings - the type where one ring goes around the twig, and the other ring goes around the berries. Maybe we shake his swimmers up too much, and they get all confused and disoriented.
3. The order of the O. Me first, him first. Multiple O's etc.
FWIW, I think this is a good thread. It will give some good results for people who have questions and want to use the search function.
1 & 2 would only negatively impact conception if you have male factor infertility issues.
1. Externally only shouldn't impact much, if anything. 2. No idea. I mean, I seriously, seriously, seriously doubt it, but I can't say I've ever researched that, so. 3. Nope. Not really. There is some evidence that you O'ing last can help move sperm along into the cervix faster, but fundamentally, they are designed to swim no matter what and will go whether you O first, second, several times or not at all. Really, it's about your comfort level. Some people are too sensitive and/or done after O and so try to go last (anecdotal from way tmi conversations with friends during the first rounds of ttc).
I want to tag onto your question #3. Do it hurt my chances if I don't O?
Others covered it. Just wanted to say I love your doggie. We've got an almost 10 year old schnauzer named Jonah that is the best dog ever (apart from a big too much barking).
Another stupid question: will charting give you any valuable info if you are breastfeeding? LO is 18 months, AF started with she was 3 months.
I'm charting while breastfeeding. I'm not sure I quite understand your question. If you've had your period back for that long you should be fine temping and charting as usual. Maybe you can be more clear and I can offer more help.
Post by diamondsndaisies on Jan 21, 2015 12:28:18 GMT -5
Ok so I hope this hasn't been asked already but I can't for the life of me find the answer on the FF website FAQs. What are the blue dots above your temp dots mean? I have one on my chart this month and I have no idea what it is supposed to mean.
Another stupid question: will charting give you any valuable info if you are breastfeeding? LO is 18 months, AF started with she was 3 months.
I'm charting while breastfeeding. I'm not sure I quite understand your question. If you've had your period back for that long you should be fine temping and charting as usual. Maybe you can be more clear and I can offer more help.
I have read that it doesn't mean you are ovulating just because you have your period back and that BF could interfere with temps. I still wakeup every ~2 hrs to nurse.
Ok so I hope this hasn't been asked already but I can't for the life of me find the answer on the FF website FAQs. What are the blue dots above your temp dots mean? I have one on my chart this month and I have no idea what it is supposed to mean.
Blue dots ABOVE your temp dots? I've never seen that before. The only blue dots I have are my temp dots.
Ok so I hope this hasn't been asked already but I can't for the life of me find the answer on the FF website FAQs. What are the blue dots above your temp dots mean? I have one on my chart this month and I have no idea what it is supposed to mean.
Blue dots ABOVE your temp dots? I've never seen that before. The only blue dots I have are my temp dots.
I'm charting while breastfeeding. I'm not sure I quite understand your question. If you've had your period back for that long you should be fine temping and charting as usual. Maybe you can be more clear and I can offer more help.
I have read that it doesn't mean you are ovulating just because you have your period back and that BF could interfere with temps. I still wakeup every ~2 hrs to nurse.
Its possible to have anovulatory cycles. Temping and charting will show you if you are ovulating. If you see a shift in temps you'll know that you've ovulated. This far out, I would guess you are ovulating, but you can't be for sure without charting.
As for nighttime waking influencing your temps, it's possible. Again, you'll have to temp and see. I was able to see a clear shift with breastfeeding, bedsharing, and waking every 2-3 hours.
Blue dots ABOVE your temp dots? I've never seen that before. The only blue dots I have are my temp dots.
Do you have a link to your chart?
yes in my siggy.
No idea how I didn't see that...
If you're referring to the dot on CD5, that means the temp is marked as "discarded" in FF. It shows you the dot on your chart anyway, but that temp is not being included in FF's analysis.
If you look at the data input screen for CD5, is the checkbox labeled "Discarded" next to where you enter your temp selected?
If you're referring to the dot on CD5, that means the temp is marked as "discarded" in FF. It shows you the dot on your chart anyway, but that temp is not being included in FF's analysis.
If you look at the data input screen for CD5, is the checkbox labeled "Discarded" next to where you enter your temp selected?
I have read that it doesn't mean you are ovulating just because you have your period back and that BF could interfere with temps. I still wakeup every ~2 hrs to nurse.
Its possible to have anovulatory cycles. Temping and charting will show you if you are ovulating. If you see a shift in temps you'll know that you've ovulated. This far out, I would guess you are ovulating, but you can't be for sure without charting.
As for nighttime waking influencing your temps, it's possible. Again, you'll have to temp and see. I was able to see a clear shift with breastfeeding, bedsharing, and waking every 2-3 hours.
Thank you! It's sounds like our circumstances match.
If you're referring to the dot on CD5, that means the temp is marked as "discarded" in FF. It shows you the dot on your chart anyway, but that temp is not being included in FF's analysis.
If you look at the data input screen for CD5, is the checkbox labeled "Discarded" next to where you enter your temp selected?
ETA: changed Discard to Discarded
Thank you!!!!!
You're welcome!
If you haven't already, I would uncheck the Discarded box. Typically it is not recommended to discard temps. Plus CD5 is early enough that the high temp shouldn't impact FF detecting ovulation.
I want to tag onto your question #3. Do it hurt my chances if I don't O?
Others covered it. Just wanted to say I love your doggie. We've got an almost 10 year old schnauzer named Jonah that is the best dog ever (apart from a big too much barking).
Aww thanks. He is a mini schnauzer. Only 10 months old, so still in the puppy phase. But he is seriously so sweet.
Post by thatgirlrachel on Jan 21, 2015 13:19:50 GMT -5
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
THIS IS WHY THIS NEEDS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE NEWBIE BLOG.
Ahem - it can vary widely. I don't have a more specific region of time without googling it myself.
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
I'm a newb myself but it is different for everyone. Some people start normal cycles right away and others have to go to the doctor to jumpstart their period. I came off the pill mid-October and my cycles have been 14 days, 24 days, and 32 days. Who knows what yours will do. The first period you had was just a withdrawal bleed, since your uterine lining doesn't actually build up while you are on the pill. If you get to 60 days without a +HPT or period, you should contact your doctor. Until then, its just a waiting game.
ETA: Do you temp/chart? This would give you an idea of if/when you are ovulating and a ballpark time frame of when to expect your period. You should check on the newbie blog.
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
For me it took 39 days for my first post BCP cycle, but it is different for everyone. My second cycle was 35 days and FF is predicting my third one is going to be 36 days.
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
Mine was 49 days. Then 47. Then 29-34 for a long time. Then one horribly mean cycle where it was 56 days. Then it went to 28-29.
If you haven't already, I would uncheck the Discarded box. Typically it is not recommended to discard temps. Plus CD5 is early enough that the high temp shouldn't impact FF detecting ovulation.
Ok I will go in and fix that. Do you think I ovulated yet? I am thinking I did on the 17th or the 19th. What do you think?
Post by thatgirlrachel on Jan 21, 2015 13:52:59 GMT -5
lazyreader - yes! I have lurked for a while and read the newbie blog a few times so I don't ask a stupid question. I know it can differ for everyone, but some sort of info would be helpful on there.
GoBigOrGoGnome - I have not started charting/temping yet. I tend to stress/worry over the smallest things and I don't want to obsess over anything yet. I will probably start doing that soon so I can understand my body better.
@metalmoliver - Thanks for the info! Luckily, I have my yearly gyno appt on Friday, so I can address any conerns then. But, I know you ladies are all experienced so I figured it wouldn't hurt to get some first-hand input.
If you haven't already, I would uncheck the Discarded box. Typically it is not recommended to discard temps. Plus CD5 is early enough that the high temp shouldn't impact FF detecting ovulation.
Ok I will go in and fix that. Do you think I ovulated yet? I am thinking I did on the 17th or the 19th. What do you think?
It will probably be one of those two days, I lean more toward the 17th.
If you haven't already, I would uncheck the Discarded box. Typically it is not recommended to discard temps. Plus CD5 is early enough that the high temp shouldn't impact FF detecting ovulation.
Ok I will go in and fix that. Do you think I ovulated yet? I am thinking I did on the 17th or the 19th. What do you think?
Hard to tell right now. If you get another higher temperature tomorrow, my guess would be that FF will give you crosshairs on CD 21.
Even though you had fertile CM around the 17-19, I don't think your temps show enough of a shift to think you ovulated around then. The general rule (under FAM) is ovulation is confirmed when you have 3 temps higher than the previous 6. If you get a higher temp tomorrow, you will have 3 temps (CD 22-24) higher than the previous 6 (CD 16-21) indicating you most likely ovulated on CD 21.
Keep temping and see what happens to your chart after tomorrow's temp.
ETA: I am now questioning my above explanation since ghostmonkey replied before I hit post saying the 17th or 19th looks like a possibility. I'm curious to see what FF ends up doing.
Post by GoBigOrGoGnome on Jan 21, 2015 13:59:25 GMT -5
thatgirlrachel - I thought the exact same thing about charting when I first started TTC- that it would be stressful, I would obsess, etc. So, I didn't do it. Then I had that random 14 day cycle and I had no idea what was going on so I started and it has been a godsend. I just take my temp every morning and forget about it, and I know exactly when I can test, when to expect my period, if my luteal phase is long enough, etc. I love it. You could always try it out and then stop after a month if you find it stressful?
Edit: I had to search to figure out how to tag you- did you take the "ginger" out of your screen name because gingerlady? LOL.
Post by icaughtfire on Jan 21, 2015 14:16:30 GMT -5
I've been having the hardest time waking up in the mornings, to the point that my alarm would go off & I'd hit snooze without realizing it and completely oversleep. I moved my alarm clock to the top of a tall bookshelf that's next to my bed so when it goes off I physically have to get out of bed & stand up to hit snooze another time or so turn it off. I get up, turn the alarm off & lay right back down to take my temp..I wouldn't even say I'm up a full 30 seconds. Will this affect me temping? FF still gave me (dotted) CHs this month doing it this way, but I'm still curious if it makes a difference. If I take my temp before getting up to turn off my alarm, I can't hear my thermometer go off.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
I've been having the hardest time waking up in the mornings, to the point that my alarm would go off & I'd hit snooze without realizing it and completely oversleep. I moved my alarm clock to the top of a tall bookshelf that's next to my bed so when it goes off I physically have to get out of bed & stand up to hit snooze another time or so turn it off. I get up, turn the alarm off & lay right back down to take my temp..I wouldn't even say I'm up a full 30 seconds. Will this affect me temping? FF still gave me (dotted) CHs this month doing it this way, but I'm still curious if it makes a difference. If I take my temp before getting up to turn off my alarm, I can't hear my thermometer go off.
Truth? I now get out of bed, walk to the bathroom, and temp while I pee in the morning.
It works perfectly for me.
DISCLAIMER: I've temped for over 25 cycles. I know myself pretty well and didn't start doing the temp/pee thing until cycle 23 or something. I was ready for it to be a mess and was pleasantly surprised that it worked. I wouldn't recommend this to anyone, especially if you're just starting out temping, but I will admit this to ease your fears, icaughtfire.
Newbie here, with what is probably a typical newbie question...
I finished my December BCP and didn't start the next pack, as we are now TTC. AF came right on time that month. Fast forward to Monday when AF was supposed to show this month and no luck. I have done 2 HPT, both BFN. I know it can take some time for AF/your body to regulate after coming off of BCP, but I am curious to hear from other people this has happened to. How long did it take your first post-BCP AF to show?
For me it took about 40 days. My cycles after that normalized to about 28 days.
thatgirlrachel - I thought the exact same thing about charting when I first started TTC- that it would be stressful, I would obsess, etc. So, I didn't do it. Then I had that random 14 day cycle and I had no idea what was going on so I started and it has been a godsend. I just take my temp every morning and forget about it, and I know exactly when I can test, when to expect my period, if my luteal phase is long enough, etc. I love it. You could always try it out and then stop after a month if you find it stressful?
Edit: I had to search to figure out how to tag you- did you take the "ginger" out of your screen name because gingerlady? LOL.
I'm glad I'm not the only worry wart on here! Should I wait until my first post-birth control AF to start temping? Or start now? I need to head over to FF to watch some tutorials.... I did see that about gingerlady and didn't want any confusion, hahaha. I'm still learning about screen names, profile names, etc. Is there something I can do/update to make it easier to tag me?
Ok I will go in and fix that. Do you think I ovulated yet? I am thinking I did on the 17th or the 19th. What do you think?
Hard to tell right now. If you get another higher temperature tomorrow, my guess would be that FF will give you crosshairs on CD 21.
Even though you had fertile CM around the 17-19, I don't think your temps show enough of a shift to think you ovulated around then. The general rule (under FAM) is ovulation is confirmed when you have 3 temps higher than the previous 6. If you get a higher temp tomorrow, you will have 3 temps (CD 22-24) higher than the previous 6 (CD 16-21) indicating you most likely ovulated on CD 21.
Keep temping and see what happens to your chart after tomorrow's temp.
ETA: I am now questioning my above explanation since ghostmonkey replied before I hit post saying the 17th or 19th looks like a possibility. I'm curious to see what FF ends up doing.
Me too. I will update when I get them. Thank you so much LadyNymeria and ghostmonkey I really appreciate all of your help.
thatgirlrachel - I thought the exact same thing about charting when I first started TTC- that it would be stressful, I would obsess, etc. So, I didn't do it. Then I had that random 14 day cycle and I had no idea what was going on so I started and it has been a godsend. I just take my temp every morning and forget about it, and I know exactly when I can test, when to expect my period, if my luteal phase is long enough, etc. I love it. You could always try it out and then stop after a month if you find it stressful?
Edit: I had to search to figure out how to tag you- did you take the "ginger" out of your screen name because gingerlady? LOL.
I'm glad I'm not the only worry wart on here! Should I wait until my first post-birth control AF to start temping? Or start now? I need to head over to FF to watch some tutorials.... I did see that about gingerlady and didn't want any confusion, hahaha. I'm still learning about screen names, profile names, etc. Is there something I can do/update to make it easier to tag me?
thatgirlrachel I don't blame you, I wouldn't want to be associated with her either! You can put in your siggy or in the status that shows up under your avatar for people to tag you at your username instead of your screen name.
Someone with more extensive charting knowledge might have additional insight (paging joy), but at this point I would probably wait until your next CD1 to start temping. The tutorials on FF friend are a great idea, too.
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