I'm struggling to think of who got BFPs recently, but people like fuzzylogic, hobbesgal, frankenboom, and everyone else should be able to stick around. They are valuable members that know their shit and contributed to the group.
Is this the criteria? Or anyone who wants to? *worries that this might become like posting a BFP on the main board in terms of murkiness*
I don't think anyone should be turned away. You have the option of turning off siggies, if you are having a hard 3TIF day. But there is a reason those boards exist. I'm not trying to be insensitive, but this was the home board for a lot of people for a long time. Telling them they don't belong anymore is crazy.
Is this the criteria? Or anyone who wants to? *worries that this might become like posting a BFP on the main board in terms of murkiness*
I don't think anyone should be turned away. You have the option of turning off siggies, if you are having a hard 3TIF day. But there is a reason those boards exist. I'm not trying to be insensitive, but this was the home board for a lot of people for a long time. Telling them they don't belong anymore is crazy.
I'm not suggesting we turn people away, I actually was hoping your answer was "stay if you want to stay" -- I just worry about having categories of grads...
Post by anonymouseliza on Mar 19, 2015 14:59:28 GMT -5
For me, if someone posts a BFP and I know them, I love-tit them. If I really liked them, I congratulate them. If I don't know them, I don't open it or I close it. I really, really hate to see a BFP thread filled with "I don't know you" and "Who the hell are you?" and "You suck for posting this here." It's just not nice. And I really do understand - we had the same issue on TB on BOTB before TTGP was a real place that didn't suck. I hated it then too. While I totally get what people are saying, it's just a place where rudeness stands out to me. I'd rather that post be ignored and have 10 responses than 12 pages of "You suck." May just be, that's ok. I honestly don't expect everyone to live to my particular standards.
Beyond that, the bottom line is this - you want traffic and activity? Stop limiting where people post. More threads = more traffic. Period.
Question from someone who wasn't on TD long before it imploded - when you guys (bunnyfungo and treble) say you got kicked out, did people really tell you to stop posting when you got pregnant? That's so awful!
Yes. We were kicked out. And anyone that was pregnant and posted on TTGP outside of the grad thread would be flamed to all hell. (Unless they were tagged or summoned for some specific reason.)
I think, for me, it's more odd that someone who hasn't been very active at all would feel the need to tell a bunch of strangers that they got knocked up. I may have welcomed you, but why would I be over the moon excited for you if I don't know you beyond that? Furthermore, why would you want to tell me your news if we don't really know each other?
I get that we can choose not to open threads and I understand that "being recognizable enough" to post a BFP is subjective...But I guess I personally feel like if someone has only posted 17 times and it's all in the TWW thread, they probably didn't offer anyone much support and it's hard for me to feel invested in the status of a stranger's ute. But, that's just me.
But you want them to go to another board with that exact same news? That's kind of how this whole internet thing works.
If you don't recognize a BFP, just roll on by to the next post. If they weren't active, there won't be many responses and it will be buried soon enough.
No one is asking you to be invested in people that haven't been around much. We are asking that you not be a twat to someone because you don't happen to recognize them or because they don't fit your definition of not a newb. For the most part that doesn't happen much, but once in a while it does. The number of times "We're not your personal Google" has been said to people asking questions that aren't easily Google-able or searchable on the site has been much higher than necessary.
And I also have to remind myself that a number of you haven't been through a board blow up before and it's going to leave you leery of a few things that I brush off at this point.
I realize now this makes me sound like a hypocrite. Everyone participate unless bunny says it's okay!!1! Maybe this is something we need to lighten up about. GDI, GM, now I don't know where I stand. What are you doing to me?!?
Question from someone who wasn't on TD long before it imploded - when you guys (bunnyfungo and treble) say you got kicked out, did people really tell you to stop posting when you got pregnant? That's so awful!
Yes. We were kicked out. And anyone that was pregnant and posted on TTGP outside of the grad thread would be flamed to all hell. (Unless they were tagged or summoned for some specific reason.)
Question from someone who wasn't on TD long before it imploded - when you guys (bunnyfungo and treble) say you got kicked out, did people really tell you to stop posting when you got pregnant? That's so awful!
Once upon a time many moons ago, there was a reg that got pregnant and she stated that she wasn't leaving. We all kind of giggled and laughed, and she had a good amount of knowledge to share, so no biggie.
And then the daily pregnancy bitchfests/AWs started. It just takes one person to ruin it for everyone. After that for a while if you posted anywhere other than the grad check in shit went down.
I would hope most people would get why this isn't the appropriate board for those kinds of posts- those are good things for grad check ins or link to your BMB post in the randoms thread or whatever. Many that have gotten pregnant do have a good amount of knowledge to share and have built relationships and there isn't a reason that they need to be voted off the island. Not even frankenboom.
I'm struggling to think of who got BFPs recently, but people like fuzzylogic, hobbesgal, frankenboom, and everyone else should be able to stick around. They are valuable members that know their shit and contributed to the group.
Harsh Bunny, harsh.
I knew I was forgetting people!!! This week has been ridic with BFPs. Lucky bitches.
Post by anonymouseliza on Mar 19, 2015 15:03:37 GMT -5
Look, this happened back on BOTB in the good ole days too.
There is a line where meanness/rudeness are masquerading as snark. I don't personally find that pleasant. I work to conduct myself in a certain way, which is sometimes described and P&R, but I don't insist others do. I will try to be helpful to a legitimate question until someone is rude to me. Then, gloves off. Disagree, flame, whatever. I just don't like outright rudeness, personally. I don't think it makes for a fun environment.
Snark though - fine, well-crafted snark is always appreciated. I just don't think enough people understand the distinction.
Yes. We were kicked out. And anyone that was pregnant and posted on TTGP outside of the grad thread would be flamed to all hell. (Unless they were tagged or summoned for some specific reason.)
Holy shit - that is crazy!
It wasn't then. It was normal. Which is why I am jealous of now.
Question from someone who wasn't on TD long before it imploded - when you guys (bunnyfungo and treble) say you got kicked out, did people really tell you to stop posting when you got pregnant? That's so awful!
Once upon a time many moons ago, there was a reg that got pregnant and she stated that she wasn't leaving. We all kind of giggled and laughed, and she had a good amount of knowledge to share, so no biggie.
And then the daily pregnancy bitchfests/AWs started. It just takes one person to ruin it for everyone. After that for a while if you posted anywhere other than the grad check in shit went down.
I would hope most people would get why this isn't the appropriate board for those kinds of posts- those are good things for grad check ins or link to your BMB post in the randoms thread or whatever. Many that have gotten pregnant do have a good amount of knowledge to share and have built relationships and there isn't a reason that they need to be voted off the island. Not even frankenboom.
Question from someone who wasn't on TD long before it imploded - when you guys (bunnyfungo and treble) say you got kicked out, did people really tell you to stop posting when you got pregnant? That's so awful!
Once upon a time many moons ago, there was a reg that got pregnant and she stated that she wasn't leaving. We all kind of giggled and laughed, and she had a good amount of knowledge to share, so no biggie.
And then the daily pregnancy bitchfests/AWs started. It just takes one person to ruin it for everyone. After that for a while if you posted anywhere other than the grad check in shit went down.
I would hope most people would get why this isn't the appropriate board for those kinds of posts- those are good things for grad check ins or link to your BMB post in the randoms thread or whatever. Many that have gotten pregnant do have a good amount of knowledge to share and have built relationships and there isn't a reason that they need to be voted off the island. Not even frankenboom.
How am I forgetting who this was? Probably because it was pre-treble. I need to know though. Kthanks.
Post by anonymouseliza on Mar 19, 2015 15:08:01 GMT -5
Oh, and regarding Newbie Playdates, here is my suggestion, which you may take or leave:
The original got super long and people got hesitant about posting in it. But if it's not pinned, it gets buried. Could we get a regular post pinned to the top from a mod that explains what the newbie playdate is, but which gets unpinned/replaced after, say, 20 pages?
Oh, and regarding Newbie Playdates, here is my suggestion, which you may take or leave:
The original got super long and people got hesitant about posting in it. But if it's not pinned, it gets buried. Could we get a regular post pinned to the top from a mod that explains what the newbie playdate is, but which gets unpinned/replaced after, say, 20 pages?
I'm still curious what somebody counts as a "Newb". I'd like to think that I'm not a newb per say, since I've been here since the beginning but I'm not active every day. So, what counts as a newb?
I don't think there can be set parameters for this. Especially, since the switch to TCF has eliminated post count as a determining factor. Now, I think it comes down to quality over quantity. Do people recognize you as someone who contributes in a positive way or only as a PW? But of course, there are some people here who I will always consider to be "the regs", regardless of how long I am on here.
Oh, and regarding Newbie Playdates, here is my suggestion, which you may take or leave:
The original got super long and people got hesitant about posting in it. But if it's not pinned, it gets buried. Could we get a regular post pinned to the top from a mod that explains what the newbie playdate is, but which gets unpinned/replaced after, say, 20 pages?
See, I don't think a Newbie Playdate is necessary at all.
This is a Trying to Conceive Board. It's built for asking questions. All those kind of questions should be in threads. And then when they're in threads, they become searchable.
Even calling it "The Newbie Playdate" is troublesome to me. It's not at all describing what it is.
I liked them when they came around once every four months.
Oh, and regarding Newbie Playdates, here is my suggestion, which you may take or leave:
The original got super long and people got hesitant about posting in it. But if it's not pinned, it gets buried. Could we get a regular post pinned to the top from a mod that explains what the newbie playdate is, but which gets unpinned/replaced after, say, 20 pages?
See, I don't think a Newbie Playdate is necessary at all.
This is a Trying to Conceive Board. It's built for asking questions. All those kind of questions should be in threads. And then when they're in threads, they become searchable.
Even calling it "The Newbie Playdate" is troublesome to me. It's not at all describing what it is.
I liked them when they came around once every four months.
Once upon a time many moons ago, there was a reg that got pregnant and she stated that she wasn't leaving. We all kind of giggled and laughed, and she had a good amount of knowledge to share, so no biggie.
And then the daily pregnancy bitchfests/AWs started. It just takes one person to ruin it for everyone. After that for a while if you posted anywhere other than the grad check in shit went down.
I would hope most people would get why this isn't the appropriate board for those kinds of posts- those are good things for grad check ins or link to your BMB post in the randoms thread or whatever. Many that have gotten pregnant do have a good amount of knowledge to share and have built relationships and there isn't a reason that they need to be voted off the island. Not even frankenboom.
How am I forgetting who this was? Probably because it was pre-treble. I need to know though. Kthanks.
I'm blanking as well. And I'll probably feel dumb when I remember or when someone says it.
Is this the criteria? Or anyone who wants to? *worries that this might become like posting a BFP on the main board in terms of murkiness*
I don't think anyone should be turned away. You have the option of turning off siggies, if you are having a hard 3TIF day. But there is a reason those boards exist. I'm not trying to be insensitive, but this was the home board for a lot of people for a long time. Telling them they don't belong anymore is crazy.
I think pregnant posters should hide their siggies when posting here. There is a simple button to hit before posting.
Honestly, I just wanna tag all my pregnant friends. "BATSIGNAL: GKU ISN'T COCK BLOCKING YOU ANYMORE, COME BAAAAAAAAACK."
I can't get over how awful I think it is that people who developed close bonds with others would get booted and told to never come back. That is just so cruel!
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