What Would You Tell Past You?

[dawnfire]

If you had a time machine and could tell the You of exactly one year ago something (but let's go by Back to the Future II rules and not include any sports scores or lucky lotto numbers), what would it be?  

[dawnfire]

I'd tell Past Me that even though everyone tells you that you're going to love this baby so much and want to sacrifice anything for him--and you don't really believe that because how can it be so?--IT'S TRUE. You worry about the sleep-deprivation that comes with a newborn. You will get through it. You won't know how, but you will. Your superpower is to get by on as little sleep as possible, and you can do this.

P.S. Past Me--opt for the C-section before you are in labor for 28 hours. TRUST ME ON THIS.

[soon2bmrsn]

Sleep train your two year old NOW.

Be ready -- five is a rough age.


These boys of mine...I tell ya!

[hurricanerek]

The baby will be born 10 days past due. Just be prepared.

Knowing that would have alleviated a lot of stress.

[dawnfire]

Mar 19, 2015 17:35:26 GMT -5 hurricanerek said:

The baby will be born 10 days past due. Just be prepared.

Knowing that would have alleviated a lot of stress.

I forgot that.  Yes, I'd tell myself the baby will NOT come before or on the due date, no matter what hopeful delusions I may have about the matter.

[jnnfrrose6]

Your fluids wi be low. Go ahead and schedule the RCS so it doesn't happen on your parents' anniversary and a day before the hubs's birthday.

[bigrock74]

Funny, I was just telling myself this last night. It's not pregnancy related. I would tell my younger self to go to college or university. I got a job right out of high school (big mistake) and stayed there for 15 years working my way from receptionist to management. I really regret not going to school and missing the experience. Now I'm depressed again...

[littlemissmarla]

I'd tell myself to take even more pictures and videos that I already do of DD, take more pics with the 3 of us and that her first year will be the best year of your life!

[Lola]

Mar 19, 2015 17:35:26 GMT -5 hurricanerek said:

The baby will be born 10 days past due. Just be prepared.

Knowing that would have alleviated a lot of stress.

Yes! This! And that I should have been more insistent on a growth ultrasound when I was measuring 4 weeks ahead....instead of 10lbs 14 oz and a c section.

[isolemnlyswear]

I'd tell myself she is going to be late and to not go to the hospital until contractions got painful. I could have had at least 5-7 more hours of home time... that would have been nice. I also would tell myself that's you won't push a kid out in 30 minutes like your mom and sister... that it will take 3hrs and that's okay.

[Leapinglizards]

I would tell myself don't get pushed into an induction. I think I would have been alright if it had happened naturally. I would have been able to experience all the firsts I got robbed of IMO

Found out the doc was on vacation the next week and would have loved to know that beforehand

I would tell myself to arrange food and snacks to be brought to the hospital.

I would tell myself the baby blues are short lived and you will stop sobbing every night

[huggabunch]

I would tell myself to stop spending money like an asshole in my 20's. That is my biggest regret. I could be nearly out of debt and working far less if I hadn't spent all willynilly (sp?, real word?)
I also would tell myself to be kinder to myself in my teens and 20's. Body issues and low self-esteem are such a huge waste of time and energy.

[honeybee434]

I would have told myself to use my vacation days before my maternity leave to have had extra time off with DD. I could have planned like a week and a half of vacation right around my due date and then started my FMLA after that and had another week and a half off when she was born.

[anotherdreamer]

I would tell myself that me and the babies would make it to the RSC. I was so terrified of them coming early, then I had the labor scare at 28w when my second round of stomach flu triggered contractions, and then I worried about them scheduling it so late because my injections needed to be timed PRICELY before the spinal, otherwise I would be under general... I would have told myself that it was going to be okay.

[lea]

This baby is going to be super good-natured and an easy newborn so don't stress about having to go through the first 3 months again.

Prepare for DH to be gone more than ever before for work.

Buy a new snowblower and a roof rake because winter is going to be really freaking snowy.

Your boys are going to show love for each other earlier than you even thought possible. Enjoy every moment of that. (To future self in a couple years: remember these sweet, sweet moments when the boys are fighting and beating each other up).

[huahine]

Hey young one, date fewer assholes.

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places just because your dad is a jerk.

Treat you sister well, because in the end, she is going to be the one who is always there for you.


ETA: Just read the fine print (I had a late distribution last night - please excuse my lack of reading comprehension).

Hey - one year ago me: don't bother with the VBAC attempt.  Just do the c-section, your recovery will be much easier.  

[mamanorris]

That there is really is room in your heart for two beautiful boys. Stop being so anxious about Jack making the transition from being a only child to big brother, he's the best big brother around!
Also breastfeeding is going to suck again. Your bewbs are broken and don't make milk, move on and be happy you have a healthy baby. He will thrive on donor milk and formula, he will even have thigh rolls. Thigh rolls are the best.

[bullybutt]

I would tell myself a year ago to get the court stuff settled NOW, don't wait and don't think that ex will maybe prove you wrong about being a prick. Stay away from him, he will take your best friend away from you. Save your money and yourself!

[lablover13]

I would tell myself to relax. We found a house and got moved in a full month before DD was born, there was just enough time to get everything set up.

Stop eating ice cream every night... you will not be happy when your baby is 6monthd old and you still have 20lbs of "baby weight" to lose.

Your labor will not be too bad, but pushing is going to be dramatic. Stay relaxed because getting worked up will only make it worse. Get the interfecal before you are at 10cm.

Take more pictures.... we still have 0 pictures of the three of us other than the one from the delivery room.... where I look like a train wreck.

[sararl07]

-Your baby doesn't need that many clothes....(I now have 2 boxes of clothes filled of things she has out grown).
-Make more freezer meals
-Don't stress about your large family wanting to come down to see the baby and having to entertain it will work itself out
-Don't blow off work because you are stressed and miss staying at home with dd
-Take more pictures with your nice real camera rather than your phone
-Put the phone down and enjoy the moment
-go ahead and take a mini trip while on maternity leave you won't have any vacation time when you go back to work
-Get help earlier regarding your tear
-vocalize that you appreciate DH more...its hard on him as well and just tell more often that you appreciate everything he does
-1st time sex it hurts but it's more of a mind thing let it go and it will become more enjoyable

[rlb]

To love and snuggle your damn cat even more (if it's even possible) because she's going to be gone in September.

Dammit I miss that cat.

[stellabunny]

I'd tell myself that those long pains in your upper thighs and lower hips that leave you breathless actually IS labor and that you better get your in-denial self to the hospital ASAP.

I'd also tell myself that being a mom is so much fun. I expected to feel a lot if things but I never knew it would be this much fun!