I'm getting ready for work so I have to post and run but I will leave ypu with this. FFFC- I can't remember all the names of the people i've had sex with.
Uh...me too...and until this moment, I never stopped to ponder that that might be weird.
I hope my FFFC doesn't gross y'all out too much... Backstory: I have been constipated for last few days ever since I had that minor food poisoning so I took some of DD's Miralax last night. I got up feeling just fine this morning and went for a run around 4:30. About 10 minutes in, I had to go to the bathroom SO BADLY, and I was already more than a mile away from my house, so I crouched behind some shrubbery and prayed that no one would drive by. It was really early and dark and the homes are far apart so I thought I was in the clear. Thank GOD I always carry tissues. UUGGHHHHHHH.
If it makes you feel any better, this is a common common common problem with runners. You aren't the first and you certainly won't be the last!
Ok good, because it happened more frequently when I ran in college but it hasn't happened since I started up again. I changed my diet (for the better) the last month or so, and I imagine it might start up again.
Someone (Daisy) once put my phone number down on their resume. I was fielding calls from potential employers for months. Finally I got so fed up, I told them that this was the wrong number, and that while it was their choice, I certainly wouldn't hire anyone whose attention to detail was so lax that they couldn't even put their correct phone number on their resume. Two days later, I got a call from Daisy asking me if I was telling people not to hire her!
I think it is clearly rude for people to not ask whether you are willing to be a reference. But, is it truly okay to give bad references? Most places I worked for pre-Academia had rules about these things and basically would only verify that you had been employed there. I thought saying much more (especially negative things), opened you up to lawsuits?
In HR, I am very limited on the information that I give out, but that is as me being a representative of the company. If someone uses me as a personal reference, I am much more willing to give out actual information. I would not ever slander someone though, because I don't want to worry about being sued.
On the other side, I try to get as much information from a reference as possible. And, it is pretty easy to tell someone's opinion pretty quickly based on what they don't say.
Someone (Daisy) once put my phone number down on their resume. I was fielding calls from potential employers for months. Finally I got so fed up, I told them that this was the wrong number, and that while it was their choice, I certainly wouldn't hire anyone whose attention to detail was so lax that they couldn't even put their correct phone number on their resume. Two days later, I got a call from Daisy asking me if I was telling people not to hire her!
I think it is clearly rude for people to not ask whether you are willing to be a reference. But, is it truly okay to give bad references? Most places I worked for pre-Academia had rules about these things and basically would only verify that you had been employed there. I thought saying much more (especially negative things), opened you up to lawsuits?
I have no idea about the legality of it, but usually truth is an affirmative defense. I think most employers/companies just don't want to open themselves up to lawsuits, even if it is one they could win/defend against. That said, never met Daisy before in my life, and all she knew about me was the my phone number, so I'm not terribly worried!
Someone (Daisy) once put my phone number down on their resume. I was fielding calls from potential employers for months. Finally I got so fed up, I told them that this was the wrong number, and that while it was their choice, I certainly wouldn't hire anyone whose attention to detail was so lax that they couldn't even put their correct phone number on their resume. Two days later, I got a call from Daisy asking me if I was telling people not to hire her!
I think it is clearly rude for people to not ask whether you are willing to be a reference. But, is it truly okay to give bad references? Most places I worked for pre-Academia had rules about these things and basically would only verify that you had been employed there. I thought saying much more (especially negative things), opened you up to lawsuits?
From a legal standpoint (but this is not.legal advice) it is better to confirm various facts, ie. they did work here. If you share anything you're opening yourself up to liability. I've understand that being asked if you would hire them again and responding with a simple no is best. You aren't lying. But you also aren't opening yourself up to a lawsuit.
icequeen, I have luckily never had to poop in a shrub, but I have definitely had runs that were "I have to find a bathroom in next 3 seconds, or it will be BAD." One time I walked half a mile sweating like a pig from the effort of not exploding. Lovely, huh?
I accidentally put on lotion with glitter in it all over my body before work and I have a work meeting to attend today. Hope no one notices my stripperesk shimmer. Ps I love glitter more than any adult should.
Someone (Daisy) once put my phone number down on their resume. I was fielding calls from potential employers for months. Finally I got so fed up, I told them that this was the wrong number, and that while it was their choice, I certainly wouldn't hire anyone whose attention to detail was so lax that they couldn't even put their correct phone number on their resume. Two days later, I got a call from Daisy asking me if I was telling people not to hire her!
I think it is clearly rude for people to not ask whether you are willing to be a reference. But, is it truly okay to give bad references? Most places I worked for pre-Academia had rules about these things and basically would only verify that you had been employed there. I thought saying much more (especially negative things), opened you up to lawsuits?
I'll jump in here just because I work in this field, but technically, if you're in HR, you only *legally* have to verify dates on employment (and maybe job title...I forget). Generally HR won't give any info regarding salary or performance. NOW, as a personal reference, you can say whatever the hell you want. Most of the time people are either positive or indifferent, but yea, sometimes not so much. I mean, you don't have to say anything really, but there's nothing stopping you.
I accidentally put on lotion with glitter in it all over my body before work and I have a work meeting to attend today. Hope no one notices my stripperesk shimmer. Ps I love glitter more than any adult should.
FFFC- I am judging the shit out of the wife that made enough cake for 300 people for her husband to bring to work for his birthday. It isn't elementary school, he doesn't have to bring in a treat for his birthday.
*I am unsure why it bothers me*
Omg! That is a crap ton of cake!
Seriously, I've made wedding cakes that haven't fed that many people!
And I also now want cake.
I promise to post my own FFFC, as soon as I can think of a good one (that doesn't involve House of Cards, I feel like I've been a broken record about that lately lol)...
More H job-stuff. While I miss him like crazy, I hope that this travel schedule is at least a little hectic through the end of April. My IUD comes out April 9, and we are TTA until May 1, and I really REALLY don't want to use condoms.
I think I just confessed I would rather he was gone and we don't have sex than have to use condoms. That is not right...
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I love to bake. It usually isn't stressful at all. Also, I make H sample everything I bake. I almost never eat the finished product, even if it is something I would normally want. I don't know why...
UO I guess, but I don't think millimeter314 did anything wrong.
I'm not saying taking time for yourself is wrong, I do it often. It was what she said. Please to read my previous statements for clarification.
I get both sides. I think we all agree that taking the time for yourself is okay, even necessary sometimes. I chose to read some sarcasm into what she said, I guess, and not see any actual malicious intent.
icequeen, I have luckily never had to poop in a shrub, but I have definitely had runs that were "I have to find a bathroom in next 3 seconds, or it will be BAD." One time I walked half a mile sweating like a pig from the effort of not exploding. Lovely, huh?
Yes, I was sweating bullets and trying to hold it as long as possible until I found a "safe" spot. It is a HORRIBLE feeling!!
I am a straight woman who prefers to have my orgasms while watching girl on girl lesbian porn. Bonus points if my husband is present.
BAM
Yep.
Porn with dudes is just too aggressive (?) not sure if that's the right word - but it just stresses me out - all I keep thinking is "ah, that looks like it hurts"
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FFC - I have asthma and was in the middle of a coughing fit when I had to get something from upstairs. I reached my room upstairs and needed my asthma pump, but I forgot where I put it and my backup ran out yesterday. MH tried looking but at this point I was crouching on the ground struggling to breathe and couldn't even say a word. So he set up the nebuliser machine. I felt so embarrassed about my asthma getting to that point (forget that I could have passed out from not breathing) that I broke down in tears. And I could not stop crying for a good 5 min. I don't know how else to explain this. :/
This isn't a confession. It's a crappy thing that happened. I have asthma, too... I know exactly how you were feeling. It's okay to feel that way and you shouldn't be embarrassed or feel ashamed of it in any way.
FFC - I have asthma and was in the middle of a coughing fit when I had to get something from upstairs. I reached my room upstairs and needed my asthma pump, but I forgot where I put it and my backup ran out yesterday. MH tried looking but at this point I was crouching on the ground struggling to breathe and couldn't even say a word. So he set up the nebuliser machine. I felt so embarrassed about my asthma getting to that point (forget that I could have passed out from not breathing) that I broke down in tears. And I could not stop crying for a good 5 min. I don't know how else to explain this. :/
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