I've clogged the toilet 2x in the past week while going #2 and DH has had to use a plunger to get it down. In my defense, I truly believe someone else clogged it with wayyyyyy too much TP (DH) and that's what's causing the occasional backups. But yeah, embarrassing.
On a side note, ever noticed either of these things regarding poops and TP? #1 ask you DH how much TP (squares) he uses for a clean up, and how many times he wipes. It will probably be 1 million times as much as you. This also correlates to wiping your LOs behind. He will use an obscene amount of wipes. Ridiculous. #2 Do you wad up your TP into a ball when wiping, or fold it? Again, note differences between you and spouse
Post by lunalovegood on Mar 20, 2015 10:08:41 GMT -5
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
I just told H last night I feel more connected to this baby than DS when I was pregnant with him, and that made me feel awful.
I compare myself way to much to my older sister. She's the total opposite of me and is absolutely stunning.
Also, I feel like such a shit wife, I've been slacking on cooking because nothing sounds appealing and the cleaning isn't up to par with my normal standards because I lose all motivation/energy about 15 minutes into cleaning...
Don't beat yourself up about cooking and cleaning... I know your gamer hubs probably needs a little encouraging
My shower is going to be SEMI co-ed. If we invited people from out of town (some are about a 2 hour drive), then the husbands are invited as well. DH was going to go get food with them and then come back to help me open gifts. Otherwise the only men that will be there are family. Though that should be interesting because my MIL and FIL cant stand to be in the same room as each other (NASTY DIVORCE) and my sister is having it at her house which is not very large. Every time we have had a family event like this my FIL has yelled at my Father for one thing or another. I have no patience for his yelling right now, the second he starts something I will be telling him and his new wife to leave. Dont care who starts it or how much they spent on a gift for me. You start a fight with anyone at my shower get the F out. Also going to be telling the Nurses at the hospital the same thing. First person to start yelling at the other person kick them out and tell them they are not allowed back in.
Post by wegrowsheep on Mar 20, 2015 10:24:25 GMT -5
DH is a teacher (3rd grade), and sometimes, I hate that he still teaches. He spent a year trying to get into law enforcement while subbing, but decided to go back to teaching when one of the local schools called and offered him a one year sub opening. He has never received a COL increase (because WA doesn't love education), and I get so tired of not having anything extra for savings.
And some of the stories about kids and their parents... Holy cow, how the hell do people just not have a clue??? WHY IS YOUR 12 YEAR OLD SPENDING 35 HRS A WEEK PLAYING VIDEO GAMES???
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
For me, it's a presence thing. When he gets here, it'll happen. Mostly, I'm just looking forward to not feeling like shit. Until then, I have a lot to do. SIL is expecting her 5th, and she's a bit the same. Don't stress
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
For me, it's a presence thing. When he gets here, it'll happen. Mostly, I'm just looking forward to not feeling like shit. Until then, I have a lot to do. SIL is expecting her 5th, and she's a bit the same. Don't stress
I keep telling myself that once the baby is born it will be different, but of course all the worst what-if's pop into my head and that makes me feel even more terrible. I need to stop stressing. I think I see some prenatal yoga in my near future.
I just posted a snarky ranting vent about my DH behaving like a special snowflake, complete with a crude generalization about men being drama queens, and saying he needs to adjust his nuts and get over it on my FB wall, when I thought I was posting it in a private group of girlfriends. It was only up for about two minutes before I realized and deleted it but FML anyway. I think I need to step away from the interwebz today.
The other night I has such bad BH and stomach pains, I was on the toilet and I thought it was going to be like an episode of 'I didn't know I was pregnant' where I think I have to poop, but give birth. When I did finally go, I double checked to make sure I didn't have a butt baby.
I had a dream almost exactly like this last night!! I woke up and had to poop so bad and was scared of what would happen.
I half-joked to my sister yesterday (during conversation about how our mom was pregnant for like 5 years with very small gaps) that I need at least a year of drinking before I can think about getting pregnant again. Kind of makes me feel like an alcoholic/terrible mom, although I know I am/will be neither of those things.
Post by ThePalindromicOne on Mar 20, 2015 11:27:25 GMT -5
My FFFC (which probably isn't really all that flame-worthy, but all I got right now) is that I have NO idea what to expect from contractions... Not one clue on what they *might* feel like when the time comes.
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
I feel the same way, and this is my first.
And my FFFC related to that is that I love my dog so much, that it's kind of hard for me to comprehend that it's possible to love this baby more. I know there's different kinds of love and all that jazz, because I feel like I love DH differently than I love my dog so I don't feel guilty at all in that case. But since baby and dog are both going to be kind of dependent on me, I feel like the type of love will be more similar, if that makes any sense.
I devised the most perfect maternity leave plan - I am hoping the US government decides to implement it in place of FMLA. Okay - so beginning with the third trimester every pregnant person gets paid maternity leave that lasts for a year - so you go back to work when the baby is 9 months. Brilliant, right? Makes me sad that it will never happen though.
I am having a hard time feeling a connection with this baby. We very much wanted to have another one and it was planned, but it just seems different than my other pregnancies and I don't feel a connection like I did with the others. I feel like a horrible mom.
I feel the same way, and this is my first.
And my FFFC related to that is that I love my dog so much, that it's kind of hard for me to comprehend that it's possible to love this baby more. I know there's different kinds of love and all that jazz, because I feel like I love DH differently than I love my dog so I don't feel guilty at all in that case. But since baby and dog are both going to be kind of dependent on me, I feel like the type of love will be more similar, if that makes any sense.
I don't feel like I can let this go flame-free, but I have no words. I'm pretty sure you won't have that problem once baby arrives, and this is coming from a FTM dog owner.
DH and I have had pretty much awesome sex this entire pregnancy. I've only had to take Tums once. Also, I sleep well without any extra pillows.
Not even sure if this is flame free, but there it is.
Sounds more like humble-bragging than a FFFC but I'm with you.
Weeks 6-10 were hard on me but it didn't affect our sex life too much. Aside from that, sex has been awesome...maybe even a little better than usual the past couple of weeks.
And aside from a few nights earlier in pregnancy, I sleep really well through the night.
And my FFFC related to that is that I love my dog so much, that it's kind of hard for me to comprehend that it's possible to love this baby more. I know there's different kinds of love and all that jazz, because I feel like I love DH differently than I love my dog so I don't feel guilty at all in that case. But since baby and dog are both going to be kind of dependent on me, I feel like the type of love will be more similar, if that makes any sense.
I don't feel like I can let this go flame-free, but I have no words. I'm pretty sure you won't have that problem once baby arrives, and this is coming from a FTM dog owner.
Oh, I know it will change, it's just to wrap my head around that much love. Believe me, I'm not one of those people that will quit watching a show because they show an animal getting killed, but have no problem watching countless numbers of people get killed. I know there's a big difference between people and animals, but he's my first dependent, so it's just such a bittersweet change to think about.
My FFFC (which probably isn't really all that flame-worthy, but all I got right now) is that I have NO idea what to expect from contractions... Not one clue on what they *might* feel like when the time comes.
Different for everyone. I got a week 30 preview with my first (not recommended). But I knew when they were real, like "Woah, time to take a shower. It's go time." My mom thought she was just having cramps and figured a bowl of cereal would help her feel better, lol.
I'm Canadian so it's totally different. I'll get EI until my due date. Then my employer will pay my full salary for the first 17 weeks, then back on EI for the remaining 35 weeks. It's a pretty good deal.
My FFFC (which probably isn't really all that flame-worthy, but all I got right now) is that I have NO idea what to expect from contractions... Not one clue on what they *might* feel like when the time comes.
Same. I'm not even sure I've had BH ones and I feel like when I ask people think I'm some kind of dumb ass.
Post by honeybunches101 on Mar 20, 2015 12:31:57 GMT -5
I am definitely guilty of the 'mommy needs a drink' thing! I was the same way before kids, if I had a stressful day of work I would look forward to going to HH and blowing off steam. I find caring for my toddler all day way more stressful than my job was, so I constantly wish I could have many many drinks, but instead stuff my face with chocolate Today DS had an epic meltdown on the sidewalk when I wouldn't let him eat a small round rock. Laying on the ground thrashing around, trying to run away and kick me all at once in the middle of a hail/sleet storm outside a post office with people staring out the window. My hands were full with my bag, the hat he refused to wear, and a bunch of important papers from the meeting we had gone to, and he is big and I have a hard enough time corralling him without the giant belly and full arms. Really thought about just leaving him there and heading to the bar for a screwdriver or seven! Instead I had to drag him by his arm while he was hanging limp and screaming and come home to make lunch that he would mostly refuse to eat. Much chocolate has been consumed today!!
I never participate in HDBD because I'm too lazy to take a picture of myself and share it. DH and I do a weekly picture, but I only take the time to upload them from our camera on the occasional weekend, so even friends and family get to see about a month's worth at once. It actually ends up kind of cool because you can see the change all at once.
I'm still a complete child in the sense that I am obsessed with Sailor Moon. They just recently started a new series in honor of the 20th anniversary and I watch it every Saturday morning it's on like I did when I was a kid, Japanese subtitles and all. I'm even an admin on a FB fan page for the show
I love being a SAHM in my community, I live in a super small town/prairies/farmer land. Even though I live 'in town' we're at the edge and I'm surrounded by fields/pastureland lol. We're all pretty real with each other, genuinely friends prebaby (or getting to be better since having kids the same age if we didnt hang out much before) and if we haven't known each other forever we know the men they married. ETA- in summary, they are just as lucky to see me in makeup as you guys are on HDBD ha. I grew up on a farm near here and this is just my personality/life so I guess I'm lucky in that sense!
I have a silly not really serious but maybe a little bit confession. DS has looked like H since he was born. And if it's not that, it's my brother and often my sister. Dont get me wrong, it's great, and he's a perfect combination of all their beautiful features to me, and being his mom I think he's the cutest kid ever haha. But a tiny superficial side of me hopes this one (or a future one) looks SOMEWHAT like me, Gah! I have never heard 'oh he looks just like you!' And I think it would be a sweet feeling! Haha! Let me stress, I realize the superficialness in thinking that and I really deep down don't care, but there is a tiny twinge of it that goes through me once in awhile.
hbanana18, haha I knew that might get me the boot. But I guess I'll give an actual confession now.
FFFC: DH and I have been married about nine and a half months and this LO is due just shy of two months after our first anniversary. We were NTNP when I got pregnant and have been really excited. However, lately I've been thinking "maybe we should have waited a little longer and enjoyed it being just the two of us for awhile." I don't have the heart to tell DH that though, and not that it really matters now.
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