Free health care too! Do you gals get baby bonuses over there?
Yes around here it's called welfare (flame away)
C - I want a glass of wine SO bad but I don't mostly because of peer pressure to NOT do anything like that even though my Dr. says NBD.
Apparently I only have confessions today. I've thought a few times and wallowed in self pity that my DH doesn't make enough for me to be a SAHM if I wanted to and be able to keep a fairly similar lifestyle. Then I feel like a big jerk because money isn't everything and I don't even know that I'd make a good SAHM but I want the choice dang it. I think I just mostly dread having to drop this tiny creature off at 6 weeks with some stranger who will get to snuggle her all day instead of me.
I am definitely guilty of the 'mommy needs a drink' thing! I was the same way before kids, if I had a stressful day of work I would look forward to going to HH and blowing off steam. I find caring for my toddler all day way more stressful than my job was, so I constantly wish I could have many many drinks, but instead stuff my face with chocolate Today DS had an epic meltdown on the sidewalk when I wouldn't let him eat a small round rock. Laying on the ground thrashing around, trying to run away and kick me all at once in the middle of a hail/sleet storm outside a post office with people staring out the window. My hands were full with my bag, the hat he refused to wear, and a bunch of important papers from the meeting we had gone to, and he is big and I have a hard enough time corralling him without the giant belly and full arms. Really thought about just leaving him there and heading to the bar for a screwdriver or seven! Instead I had to drag him by his arm while he was hanging limp and screaming and come home to make lunch that he would mostly refuse to eat. Much chocolate has been consumed today!!
This made me laugh - not at you, but at the situation because I have totally been there done that. It is funny how you have things pictured in your head and then a day like this happens and you are like WTF this is not how it is supposed to be!
I've clogged the toilet 2x in the past week while going #2 and DH has had to use a plunger to get it down. In my defense, I truly believe someone else clogged it with wayyyyyy too much TP (DH) and that's what's causing the occasional backups. But yeah, embarrassing.
On a side note, ever noticed either of these things regarding poops and TP? #1 ask you DH how much TP (squares) he uses for a clean up, and how many times he wipes. It will probably be 1 million times as much as you. This also correlates to wiping your LOs behind. He will use an obscene amount of wipes. Ridiculous. #2 Do you wad up your TP into a ball when wiping, or fold it? Again, note differences between you and spouse
Carry on folks.
Omg yes this!! My DH uses so much tp it's insane!!! Like seriously babe do you have to go through a whole damn roll every time you take a shit!?!? I bought him wipes but told him you absolutely can not flush them. I don't give a fuck what it says on the package ! That shit stays in our pipes. We have to snake out the main sewer line twice a year due to shit flooding my laundry room!! Main culprit- fucking wipes!! And roots. Our old house sucks balls sometimes..
Most babies say Dada first anyway but I am going to push for this LO to make sure it is his first word so he will call for daddy in the middle of the night.
I am definitely guilty of the 'mommy needs a drink' thing! I was the same way before kids, if I had a stressful day of work I would look forward to going to HH and blowing off steam. I find caring for my toddler all day way more stressful than my job was, so I constantly wish I could have many many drinks, but instead stuff my face with chocolate Today DS had an epic meltdown on the sidewalk when I wouldn't let him eat a small round rock. Laying on the ground thrashing around, trying to run away and kick me all at once in the middle of a hail/sleet storm outside a post office with people staring out the window. My hands were full with my bag, the hat he refused to wear, and a bunch of important papers from the meeting we had gone to, and he is big and I have a hard enough time corralling him without the giant belly and full arms. Really thought about just leaving him there and heading to the bar for a screwdriver or seven! Instead I had to drag him by his arm while he was hanging limp and screaming and come home to make lunch that he would mostly refuse to eat. Much chocolate has been consumed today!!
It's like I'm reading about my own life. Got to love irrational kid behavior. I think it's cute when I hear people say "My kid will never have a tantrum in public, they'll just know better." HAHAHAHA.
I hope this doesn't sound too braggy but my kids have never had a melt down/ tantrum. In public or at home. I know my kids are magical unicorns and this one will probably be the exact opposite. My dad told me my kids aren't normal considering they have never even told me no and are seriously well behaved. I have had it way too easy and I feel this one will make up for that and probably give me so much hell!!! I probably deserve it after have two freaking angel children. Edit cause words.
Most babies say Dada first anyway but I am going to push for this LO to make sure it is his first word so he will call for daddy in the middle of the night.
I've clogged the toilet 2x in the past week while going #2 and DH has had to use a plunger to get it down. In my defense, I truly believe someone else clogged it with wayyyyyy too much TP (DH) and that's what's causing the occasional backups. But yeah, embarrassing.
On a side note, ever noticed either of these things regarding poops and TP? #1 ask you DH how much TP (squares) he uses for a clean up, and how many times he wipes. It will probably be 1 million times as much as you. This also correlates to wiping your LOs behind. He will use an obscene amount of wipes. Ridiculous. #2 Do you wad up your TP into a ball when wiping, or fold it? Again, note differences between you and spouse
Carry on folks.
Omg yes this!! My DH uses so much tp it's insane!!! Like seriously babe do you have to go through a whole damn roll every time you take a shit!?!? I bought him wipes but told him you absolutely can not flush them. I don't give a fuck what it says on the package ! That shit stays in our pipes. We have to snake out the main sewer line twice a year due to shit flooding my laundry room!! Main culprit- fucking wipes!! And roots. Our old house sucks balls sometimes..
I have told my DH a million times that a double flush would be good. Come on!
I hate the "mommy needs wine" culture. Not because I think having a glass (or more) of wine is a bad thing but because it just sounds so stupid. This is partially why I don't think I could ever be a full time SAHM...because I picture it being full of suburban women, having their playdates scheduled out weeks in advance, only talking about their children's milestones, and constantly talking about how they need a drink. I know this is not how all SAHM's are (my mom was one and wasn't like that AT ALL) but it's just how I picture it in my head. I'm way too sarcastic and bitchy to fit in well with a mommy group.
This is the first time I've ever heard of the "mommy needs wine" culture.
Same here. Without kids in the picture, my girlfriends and I have always been pumped up for a glass of wine at the end of the work week!
Lol honestly I started very early with saying no and a swat on the hand/ bottom as age appropriate. I never gave in. Not even once when I told them no. And I didn't pick them up whenever they cried. If they weren't hungry dirty or anything else they cried and it changed nothing. Other then that I have always loved spending time talking to them about everything. We have conversations about everything and anything. I have seen lots of my friends tell their kids to just go play when they had a question or wanted to show them something. Maybe the starting out early helped, maybe their just freaks of nature. I really don't know. I guess I will find out when this one is born because I plan to do everything the exact same way. This little girl will probably make me eat my words!! Lol
hbanana18, haha I knew that might get me the boot. But I guess I'll give an actual confession now.
FFFC: DH and I have been married about nine and a half months and this LO is due just shy of two months after our first anniversary. We were NTNP when I got pregnant and have been really excited. However, lately I've been thinking "maybe we should have waited a little longer and enjoyed it being just the two of us for awhile." I don't have the heart to tell DH that though, and not that it really matters now.
We were married in Aug and conceived in September (my sister thought baby was a honeymoon baby until yesterday - nope!). I'm terrified that we didn't have enough time as just us but we've been together for 7+ years, we've lived together 2+ of those, so that has to count for something right? I'm still worried that this baby will come and we'll just drift apart. I'm already seeing him doing this "I have to take care of everything and bring home the bacon, you take care of baby" mentality that we've talked about, and he doesn't want (he wants to do midnight feedings... how I don't know, since we also want to breastfeed - sure I can pump but at midnight wouldn't boob be easier?). Im worried that in 5 years we'll suddenly just be roommates with kids. And then the kids will leave the house and we don't know each other. I've only seen a few friends survive after kids and I'm worried that we've made a huge mistake.
And I know most people on here probably don't agree but I do spank. I don't have to anymore because I started early. Never a beating but yes if I had to a swat or spanking on the butt I did. Because I started early I don't need to spank at all anymore.
I HAVE ONE -- Finally (I usually get one on Monday and forget by Friday). I cannot stand Bicyclists. I know it's a great way to get around, and I know it's great for the environment BUT here in the CA Bay Area, the Bicyclists are assholes. Just some background Bicyclists are a small fraction of all bicyclists. They totally don't abide by vehicular rules, and they don't abide by pedestrian rules either, and they think that they are better than you, in your car, you horrible person you. So at a 4 way stop, when you've stopped, as have other cars, and it's your turn and you start to roll out - a bicyclist who was half a block away a second ago, will zip by (not stopping as they're supposed to)- YELLING INTO YOUR WINDOW THAT YOUR AN ASSHOLE WATCH WHERE YOU"RE GOIN - even though they a) don't have the right away and b) holy shit that was dangerous. I hate it. My BIL just complained about getting a ticket for because he made a rolling stop on a bike. GOOD - you live in the heaviest bike used city in the Bay Area. You should get a ticket when you break the rules of the road. I'm glad. You're a sweet guy, and I love ya, but dude, I have NO sympathy for you (def. not enough to bring back the occupy movement ... what the fuck? why because you got a ticket?) I wish Bicyclists got more tickets (you are a vehicle -- GET OFF THE SIDEWALK, STOP AT THE STOP SIGN AGHHHHHH)
That might have been more of a vent/rant. But hey - any bicyclist want to flame at me bring it on.
And I know most people on here probably don't agree but I do spank. I don't have to anymore because I started early. Never a beating but yes if I had to a swat or spanking on the butt I did. Because I started early I don't need to spank at all anymore.
I admit DS has gotten an occasional swat on the butt. Always over clothes, never more than one, and usually when his damn ears are broken and it's an imminent safety thing...actually, the only two I can think of are about not going in the street when there are cars coming. He knows better, but sometimes kids just don't listen, and when a car is flying down the road, if my voice isn't getting through, a quick swat on his butt sure as hell gets his attention because we NEVER do it, and it shocks him into stopping in his tracks.
Having said that, I still don't agree with spanking as a usual punishment. Maybe because DS just isn't the type of kid that we have ever felt the need to go beyond other methods, but deep down I know I could never do it anyway and I'd flip if someone else--DH included--took a hand to DS (or the baby).
And I know most people on here probably don't agree but I do spank. I don't have to anymore because I started early. Never a beating but yes if I had to a swat or spanking on the butt I did. Because I started early I don't need to spank at all anymore.
I admit DS has gotten an occasional swat on the butt. Always over clothes, never more than one, and usually when his damn ears are broken and it's an imminent safety thing...actually, the only two I can think of are about not going in the street when there are cars coming. He knows better, but sometimes kids just don't listen, and when a car is flying down the road, if my voice isn't getting through, a quick swat on his butt sure as hell gets his attention because we NEVER do it, and it shocks him into stopping in his tracks.
Having said that, I still don't agree with spanking as a usual punishment. Maybe because DS just isn't the type of kid that we have ever felt the need to go beyond other methods, but deep down I know I could never do it anyway and I'd flip if someone else--DH included--took a hand to DS (or the baby).
I was spanked as a kid - and I deserved it. Never hard, always through clothing. It was more of an embarrassment thing. DH is against it and while I agree with him, I totally remember the reasons I got a swat and I could see giving them to my kid. Usually it was for not listening in a really dangerous situation or I had done something like kick my brother in the balls. After telling him to stand still.
I don't like my younger nephew. He's a manipulative, violent little bully, and I just can't handle being around him. It's probably 90% my sister's fault he is like that, because he is on a fucking pedestal above her other kids and has NO rules. He's 8 now, and just out of control. I don't want him around DS, period.
And I know most people on here probably don't agree but I do spank. I don't have to anymore because I started early. Never a beating but yes if I had to a swat or spanking on the butt I did. Because I started early I don't need to spank at all anymore.
I spank as well. Only when it is very well deserved and I always give a warning beforehand.
Exactly. They get a warning and it has to he deserved. I think it makes a huge difference in how they behave. And I believe there is a very big difference between discipline and just straight up punishment. You have to be in control of your emotions and not just go crazy and beat them.
I just made one of those ridiculous paper ring countdown chains for how many days of work I have left. I should have probably picked up the house or got dressed but whatevsssss. Ps it's 36 days of work. 10 hour days but 36 is doable.
I was raised to believe that gifts are not an entitlement, that they're just like a little bonus from someone who wants to celebrate with you or do something nice for you. I have a registry (and did for my wedding), but I genuinely don't care if someone who wants to get me a gift buys off the registry or goes off on their own to get something. And no matter what the gift is, I smile, thank profusely, and write a nice note afterwards, because again, I like to think my mother raised me well.
However.
If you know I'm having twins, and you buy me one onesie, I'm going to think you're cheap. I won't say it to your face, of course, but there will be some giggles and eye-rolling behind closed doors.
I have another one! Women who won't sit on public toilets, but squat, and then don't clean up after they've sprayed the seat.
1) use the seat protector or make one with toilet paper 2) your skin is doing an awesome job keeping germs away ... You don't need a seat protector in most because the toilet seat isn't that dirty (usually!) and if it is see #1 3) if 1 and 2 don't do it for yah, then at least clean up after yourself! I don't want to.
I have another one! Women who won't sit on public toilets, but squat, and then don't clean up after they've sprayed the seat.
1) use the seat protector or make one with toilet paper 2) your skin is doing an awesome job keeping germs away ... You don't need a seat protector in most because the toilet seat isn't that dirty (usually!) and if it is see #1 3) if 1 and 2 don't do it for yah, then at least clean up after yourself! I don't want to.
Ya I don't squat but always use a seat protector or make one with tp. I have a serious problem with public bathrooms and will avoid one like the plague if I can but being pregnant I don't have the luxury anymore. But seriously, ya clean up your urine!!! That is disgusting!!
FFFC: I work in a small office of about 25 people and of those there are about 11 females. One woman in particular, our office administrator, blows up the bathroom daily, sometimes twice a day. All of the other women know it's her. My office is right across from the bathroom and they always ask if "you know who" has been in there before they enter. Even though it really is her most of the time, I've definitely let her take the fall for some of my terrible smelling pregnancy bathroom breaks.
Other women come out going "OMG why didn't you warn me?! She made it impossible to even go in there!" and I'm all "Ugh, I know so gross...."
Mine is really shameful. On Wednesday DS and I were walking down our neighborhood street and he started running ahead of me. I told him several times to stop (I'm envisioning a car backing out of a driveway and not seeing him) and he wasn't listening. So I had to run to catch up to him and when I finally did, instead of grabbing his arm, like I should have, I grabbed the hood of his zip up hoodie and yanked. I was so angry and in-the-moment. It choked him for a brief second and there is a little tiny scratch on his throat where the zipper got him. It didn't even phase him, he kept right on laughing and trying to get away. I sat him down in the middle of the sidewalk and we talked about the cars and how he needs to listen so he stays safe, etc. But the whole time I just felt awful for basically clothes-lining him. I won't ever make that mistake again.
This board has been pretty tame so far today so I'll provide something flammable. IRL I always refer to the baby's 'gender' instead of 'sex.' I know the reasoning behind 'sex' being an important distinction and call me immature, but I just hate saying it out loud. It just feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I'll love the baby for whoever he or she becomes, I just don't like the word.
I was spanked as a kid - and I deserved it. Never hard, always through clothing. It was more of an embarrassment thing. DH is against it and while I agree with him, I totally remember the reasons I got a swat and I could see giving them to my kid. Usually it was for not listening in a really dangerous situation or I had done something like kick my brother in the balls. After telling him to stand still.
Nothing to add here but the fact I burst out laughing reading the last line, and also laughed through writing this
@hazeldublin, the back story (because it's kinda funny and kinda mean)- Mom had given me the "when you are in trouble kick a stranger here and scream and run" talk and she said you can kick a boy in the balls, it hurts. But she didn't describe it well enough to me what it would do, so I stood my brother against the wall and tested the theory. He was like 3. Poor kid. I can still see his smiling face because he thought it was a game. (He's fine thankfully - I have a lovely nephew). I don't feel bad about it (that's sorta a FFFC too).
bruunk not so funny imagining him being 3 . I had three brothers growing up (eldest passed 10 years ago) two of which were younger. I stuck a compass in one once(maybe he was about 7). I don't really know why but I shit myself afterwards luckily he forgot about it by the time my parents got back from the shops.
It was totally mean at the time (and I still cringe at it) but we giggle about it too. It's been 20+ years and there was no permanent damage (he holds it over my head and I let him). I feel like we siblings would beat up on each other all the time and at a certain age (like around 7) we stopped telling on each other - it totally became the three of us in a weird self governing gang. My parents must have known, but we never mentioned it.
C - I want a glass of wine SO bad but I don't mostly because of peer pressure to NOT do anything like that even though my Dr. says NBD.
Apparently I only have confessions today. I've thought a few times and wallowed in self pity that my DH doesn't make enough for me to be a SAHM if I wanted to and be able to keep a fairly similar lifestyle. Then I feel like a big jerk because money isn't everything and I don't even know that I'd make a good SAHM but I want the choice dang it. I think I just mostly dread having to drop this tiny creature off at 6 weeks with some stranger who will get to snuggle her all day instead of me.
Everyone gets it, regardless of income. It's $120 a month until their 6th birthday.
What?? I get more and more jealous of you people who don't live in the states. Between your maternity leave and your baby bonuses, we suck.
This board has been pretty tame so far today so I'll provide something flammable. IRL I always refer to the baby's 'gender' instead of 'sex.' I know the reasoning behind 'sex' being an important distinction and call me immature, but I just hate saying it out loud. It just feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I'll love the baby for whoever he or she becomes, I just don't like the word.
I find gender to be the weirder word, I have never heard anyone IRL say do you know what gender the baby is? It's always did you find out the sex.
Honestly, that's probably why I say gender. Around here no one uses the word 'sex.' Even my doctors have asked if I want to know the gender or if I found out the gender.
This board has been pretty tame so far today so I'll provide something flammable. IRL I always refer to the baby's 'gender' instead of 'sex.' I know the reasoning behind 'sex' being an important distinction and call me immature, but I just hate saying it out loud. It just feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I'll love the baby for whoever he or she becomes, I just don't like the word.
I think it irks me more that you know the importance and make the decision to use the wrong word, then when people unknowingly do it. It is like calling a situation or object 'gay' using it for a negative connotation.
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