Speaking of snoring DHs...

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Anyone already deal with a snoring DH and a baby that slept in the room with you?   DH very much wants to be in the room with baby and me once baby is home, but honestly, I don't know if that will be possible. DH snores so much and so loudly that 3-4 nights a week I get frustrated enough to kick him out to the guest room.   Unless this baby is the best sleeper ever, DH is going to constantly wake him up during the night too.   But we also don't want me to end up with all the night time work.  

Thoughts?  Suggestions? 

ETA:  starting baby in his own crib in the other room isn't ideal either because it would be more likely to wake up DS1 since it would take longer for us to get to him.

[mathistm]

Does he snore all the time or only under certain circumstances? My DH snores if he's been drinking, has a cold or sleeps on his back. The first two are guaranteed but at least if he is sleeping on his back I can nudge him until he rolls over or plug his nose. He tells me it doesn't wake him but he stops snoring!

[mathistm]

And the sleep rite nose strips do work for him as well!

[Deleted]

We've tried everything over the years and nothing has worked. He uses the nose strips, nasal spray, allergy meds. It's definitely worse if he drinks or is on his back, but he snores no matter what. What we haven't tried is one of those sleep number beds where I can raise him up, but there isn't $3000 extra in the budget right now.

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Oh, and he's such a sound sleeper that nudging him does nothing but make him sleep yell at me. And then he stays in the same position and keeps on honking.

[mathistm]

Ugh. That's no fun. If I can't get him to stop i put in earplugs but that's not really possible with a baby. I'm sorry, I've got nothing besides sleeping separately. It may not bother an infant as much as it bothers you but you need to sleep too!

[billyhorrible]

It's so hard to tell over the internet, but to me, if it's that bad it sounds like more than a normal snoring problem. It sounds like you've tried a lot of OTC solutions, but has he spoken with a doctor about it?

[fuccimama]

My DH snores loud and LO did not wake up, in fact LO got so use to it that the baby pnp went on DH side of the bed! Since I was with baby at home all day, DH bonded with LO at night for a few weeks.

[bruunk]

DH snores, sleep talks, and walks. All of these are increased by illness, drinking, and stress - so some what controllable. I have asked him to do a sleep test since I'm worried about it, especially since we live in a big open loft - no other room for kiddo . I'm hoping kiddo just sleeps through it. DH and I are both heavy sleepers, but since dealing with his fun sleep habits I'm really good at dealing with him half awake. Hopefully the baby just considers it normal - from what I've been told, babies usually find it comforting like a white noise.

[missjenniebean]

I was wondering the same thing. I am hoping the kid finds it soothing since (s)he has been listening to it for a while now.

[wegrowsheep]

I can hear my husband snoring in the next room. Both our kids spent most or all of their first year in our room, and did fine. I, however, can't stand it!

[turtletyme]

Great question! My concern is that I usually get up and leave the room if he keeps me up for any length of time, which I can't really do if the baby is in a cosleeper in the room. I kinda hoped I would be tired enough to sleep through it. If not, maybe she will end up in the crib sooner...

[mrskblack11]

My dad was a terribly loud snorer. Finally went to the doctor and they made him do a sleep test. He is now on a breathing machine for sleep apnea. My mom now gets the best sleep of her life!

My dad may have had some type of nasal surgery too but I can't remember. Pregnancy brain, yo.

[leenziepops]

My DH decided to become a snorer over the last month. Not happy

[Deleted]

DH snores when he is 5-10 lbs heavier which he is right now (still looks great to me!!). For now, he's pretty much banished to our guest bedroom with the fur baby (who also snores....). He always starts running again in the spring and the snoring stops.

If it doesn't, we will do breathe right strips because I'm not doing the newborn in our bedroom thing alone!!

[megeliz1]

We used a white noise app on my phone, worked really well.

[wormgerm]

I'm with mrskblack11. My dad was the worst and he finally went and had a sleep study done and now sleeps soundly with a CPAP. He sleeps better, my mom sleeps better. She actually slept on the couch or in another room for a few years and is finally back in the shared bed now that he's fixed.

[brennaz]

DH snores, but not usually super loud and generally only when he's on his back. Honestly, it used to be so much worse...and we tried everything. Then on a whim at the fair one day we bought these pillows that are supposed to help with snoring, and apparently they really do.
I hadn't thought about how his snoring would affect the baby's sleep, but we'll see I guess...

[wifedeangel]

The baby will most likely consider it white noise, and it will help them sleep.

**edited to add that your baby can most likely hear him snoring in utero, so it will be a familiar and comforting sound.

[txngrl31]

Ugh, DH has a major snoring problem too! It's so bad that when he falls asleep on an airplane, I can hear him over the jet engine and music/ tv on my headphones. The guy can fall asleep and snore anywhere, anytime. Since I've been pregnant, he gets banished to the couch or guest room. We sleep with a humidifier and air purifier going, so I can't hear him from the other room.

[ktbear]

My husband used to snore. He recently lost 100 lbs so doesn't anymore, but he did when DS was brand new. DS never had any issues waking up with the snoring, and I agree that I think it was like white noise/ comforting for him. He is a great sleeper now so maybe the snoring contributed to that? Who knows.

[honeybunches101]

Another vote fora CPAP machine. A good friends husband snored so loudly it woke my friend up several times a night. When she was in her third tri she made him do a sleep study and found he had terrible sleep apnea. The CPAP changed their lives! She sleeps so much better as does he. He said he never realized he wasn't getting enough rest, he actually lost 50 pounds because he had so much extra energy and felt so much better that he didn't crave carbs and sweets as much.

But if you don't want to go that route, I think the snoring will bother you more than baby. But I can't imagine having to wake up several times a night with a baby, and then add in extra wake ups for the snoring!

[laurenlou83]

DH snores, but he is only loud when he sleep on his back or if he has been drinking. I have ear plugs that I use some nights if he is really bad. I've already told him he is banished to the other room if he keeps baby, or me, awake while we are all in the bedroom together at first. Unfortunately, I can't wear the ear plugs once the little guy gets here.

[Deleted]

I could never sleep with the ear plugs in. If I put them in far enough to block the noise it hurt my ears. If I didn't they were useless. I'm just happy to know I'm not the only on sleeping in a chainsaw factory.

[jcprn]

A sleep study sounds like a good option for your own sanity.

DH snores usually when he's on his back. He doesn't wake up when I nudge him but when I whisper to him to roll over he'll do it. Sometimes I have to do it a few times a night. It's interesting what some of you have said about gaining weight/being a little overweight because he never used to snore before.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Im in that chainsaw factory! Ive been in the hospital the past few night ( long story, update another better time, short story, baby is fine and momma is BEYOND EXHAUSTED). Anyway poor DH in all his loving kindness wanted to stay in the chair overnight with me and I woke his butt up and asked him to please for the sake of me and everyone on the L&D floor to just go sleep at home. He's freakin loud. Its probably apnea and he probably needs a machine. I probably need my own bedroom!!!!

[trixi282]

My H snores pretty much every night. He doesn't sound quite as bad as your H, but I have to physically move my H's face or shove him to rollover to get him to stop sometimes and he doesn't even remember it the next morning.... Even when he apologizes for snoring, in his sleep....

That said, we had our LO in our room, in a basinet, for the first 3 months or so. (Her room in our apt was clear across the apartment, very inconvenient). I think in the long run it helped her become a really good sleeper. I also was NOT the type of mom that said "quiet, the baby is sleeping". She sometimes napped in the LR while I watched TV and cleaned as a newborn. She also slept in her room (door & wall shared with the LR - the wall with the TV) while I vacuumed and didn't wake up. To this day loud noises typically don't startle her too much while sleeping.

[pghtruelove]

I also agree with the seeing of the dr. I used to have an extreme snoring problem where I would wake everyone in my house up. I did a sleep study and went to see a dr and found out I needed my tonsils and adenoids taken out. I can breathe so much better and I sleep so much better now! Hopefully you can both get some peace soon!

[nicolec78]

My DH needs a sleep study too I am sure he has sleep apnea. I cannot sleep in the same room as him anymore. On vacation I use ear plugs. My daughter never gets woken up by his snoring not even as an infant. She told me its comforting to her.