cloe111479, get all the baby snuggles today!! I am so worried about my meltdown when I go back to work bc I know there will be one! (Or many.....)
toadandbuggie, yesterday must have just been an off day, DH and I were at each other's throats. Much of my frustration comes from he doesn't offer to help until I have a meltdown. He also is the worst at doing things-he wants to work out-sure, I don't mind-but then he walks in circles for 15 minutes (seriously, it drives me crazy) so 30 minutes to work out turns into close to an hour of him jerking off when I just want an uninterrupted shower.
Part of the issue yeterday was also that I brought up timing for kid 2 and all of a sudden he is like we should be one and done. I really wanted 3 and backed off to 2 to compromise on him wanting 1. So that made me cranky
Haha. It does seem like my H is a better sport about baby duty when M is a happy baby.
Very jealous of all you moms with semi-decent sleeping babes. Why does it seem like my baby is the only baby still struggling even with going 3 hours between waking up? If it's not to eat he's up just to fuss, max 2 hours. I'm at my wit's end!
If that makes you feel better, the Boss here only sleeps 1.5 hr stretches. At least younger 2-3, hours. He ALWAYS wakes after 1 sleep cycle and is not able to sleep thrunthe light sleep transitions. The only way for him to get 3 hr stretches is to let him sleep in my arms or on my chest or in an infant carrier. But then, I don't get to sleep at all. I don't know what to do and am just hoping he'll grow out of this funk.
So glad I'm not the only one. I have the exact same problems with LO. He won't fall back to sleep on his own when he wakes up after 1 cycle.
@holachica yes I have a 2 year old, a newborn, and a dog. This happened sooner than I was expecting (the ol' "we are just gonna look at what's out there"). We'll be moving less than a mile away from where we are now in the burbs. In the Naperville area.
It can be hard coming to terms with a csection. I struggled with my first for a long time. I have since had two more and I can tell you in my experience, when they're planned it's an entirely different experience. My 2'nd and 3'rd were actually very positive experiences and recovery was SO much easier. If a vbac is what you want I hope you get it but a csection can be a good experience too.
My spam is that today was my first day back to the gym and it was glorious! It felt so good to be back and I'm very glad I got cleared for exercise sooner than I was expecting.
Hugs toadandbuggie this is a hard transition for both of you which can be tough on a relationship. H and I have struggled a bit too so I know how you feel. Things that I have found that helped with us.
1 validate H's struggles. "I know you are so tired and working long days, I appreciate you working so hard for our family". Telling H I appreciate what he does has actually helped him relax at home and be receptive to my stressors.
2 rant here and praise him. So I tend to vent my frustrations here first to get out the emotions then when I discuss it with him it's rational and not an emotional attack. Along with number one I tend to praise him. "thanks for taking care of LO's diaper" yes he should be sharing responsibility of caring for DD but acknowledging when he does again helps validate his help.
3 use the "I" statements. So instead of "I need you to take LO when you get home" something like " I really need a 15 minute break before bed to collect myself and unwind." or "I would like to get out for a walk alone 2-3 times a week". That way he doesn't go on the defensive but rather can see what you are trying to accomplish and can initiate helping.
4 create a plan in advance. So when H goes to work he knows the plan today is he gets home unwinds for a bit then takes LO while I go for a walk, read upstairs. He gets the 9pm bottle and I get her in the middle of the night etc. Make sure to try and add some time for the two of you when LO is asleep too. On this same sense I also try not to count down to when he comes home because then I just want to pawn off LO instead I try hard to act like I am happy to see him (because I am) and not that he is my relief.
Post by GeekBeagle on Mar 23, 2015 12:24:58 GMT -5
Hi! I've been quite MIA since LO was born 3 weeks ago. I'm going to try and lurk/post more. I'm catching up on some older threads and am finding some comfort since many of you dealt with things I'm going through weeks ago.
Today is day 3 home alone with DS since DH went back to work. Day 2 resulted in one of my dogs digging his way out of the yard, so today has to go better, right?
Hugs to all of the tired sleep deprived moms. I am with you! And extra creepy internet hugs to moms preparing to go back to work. Its so hard but you can do this!
Today I took DD to a children's play centre to have some fun together without the baby brother. He stayed home with DH. We had a great morning and had lunch with my friend and her kids. She knows a few girls off on leave or who work part time and he is going to try and get a monday play group organized. I am really looking forward to it, DD loves to play with other kids.
DS is only taking his first nap right now! So I am hoping for a longer sleep tonight!!
PikoPiko, Hopefully things turn around quickly for your LO and he starts feeling better and starts giving his mama a break!
We are set to close on our new condo this afternoon, yay. We've been packing up this place and it is a major PITA. I really hate everything about moving, but I'm excited to have a new place to decorate and I can't wait to get settled into our new location and explore in the upcoming weeks.
I am a huge klutz. DH and I were putting stuff in DH's car trunk and I slammed the trunk shut to close it. I didn't realize he had put the bike rack on earlier so it hit me on the head/side of the neck on its way down. I'm totally going to bruise on the side of my neck/shoulder area. Eeek, stupid me.
Post by lotsofdotts on Mar 23, 2015 16:03:50 GMT -5
I'm sorry for all my momma who aren't getting sleep or going back to work. I'm on mobile so tagging is hard.
Our renters are being crazy. We don't really make any money on this house. We rented it because selling wasn't a possibility when we got married and consolidated houses. Anyway, the heat went out and they are acting like they are freezing to death during the day. It is in the 60s here during the day. We bought space heaters for them and called to get it fixed when they told us about the issue on Friday. The repair people didnt have an appointment until today and that pissed off the renters. I can't make them come any faster. Now they are pissed that the repair man wasn't there at the beginning of the 1-5 appointment window. I'm over it. I hope it gets fixed quickly so the renters will quit bitching.
I need to vent about DH. He came home from work, made dinner, and has been in the bathroom playing video games for at least an hour now. I'd really like just an hour of "me" time, as I have been alone with DD all day. So frustrated.
I need to vent about DH. He came home from work, made dinner, and has been in the bathroom playing video games for at least an hour now. I'd really like just an hour of "me" time, as I have been alone with DD all day. So frustrated.
In the bathroom???
Passive aggressive me would put LO in a bassinet right outside the door and walk away. Me that likes my H and our relationship would knock on the door and ask him to come out so you can talk/ be a family.
I need to vent about DH. He came home from work, made dinner, and has been in the bathroom playing video games for at least an hour now. I'd really like just an hour of "me" time, as I have been alone with DD all day. So frustrated.
In the bathroom???
Passive aggressive me would put LO in a bassinet right outside the door and walk away. Me that likes my H and our relationship would knock on the door and ask him to come out so you can talk/ be a family.
Lol I ended up bringing her upstairs as she was having a meltdown. He did take her from me and attempt to calm her which is good.
I am dreading waking up tomorrow. It is my 6 week appt. (well 7 week at this point) at 9 in the morning... who the hell schedules a pp appt that early in the morning?? How the hell am I gonna get out of the house with a newborn by 8 am?? I live a half hour away from the clinic and they want you there 15 minutes early And I need a little wiggle room with the baby.. hopefully she sleeps good tonight!
So I moved the RnP into the nursery tonight and I'm laying here listening to her wimper. I just don't see how this whole crib transition is going to work. I know I need patience and it's only night 1 but I'm stressing out about this.
Does anyone else's baby's have days where the just don't want to sleep at all? Do you try and fight it and get them to sleep or just roll with it? LO would only take very short naps all day. Normally he has one big one in the morning of a few hours and then sometimes in the afternoon one as well. Hoping tonight he sleeps ok. He was in a good mood at least all day, just very very awake.
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