H is my hero. Last night was my night to get the MOTN feeding. Nbd until she won't go back to sleep without bring held. He heard my frustrations and took her downstairs he slept down there and I got some glorious sleep once I finished crying because I was so frustrated.
Today I pack! DD and I are flying to see my parents. I am so excited that finally have get to meet her.
Today is the day for me to purchase a washer and dryer. I will have to go to a few places and look at the different models.
Our poor dog, something is up with him. He's had a little bit of blood in his poop past couple of days and he's been on the chicken, rice and cottage cheese diet. I'm praying that his poops are better tomorrow. On top of it, I think the dog is dehydrated from this weekend. We stayed along the coast and he was playing in the ocean. DH forgot to give the dog water the entire weekend. What the heck!? Poor doggie. Hope he is better today and we can avoid going to the vet.
I'm up early today to try and get used to waking up again because tomorrow... I go back to work. . I wish I had more time. This is going to suck. But I don't really have a choice so I know I need to just suck it up. I know in the long run I will be happier working but I just wish I had a little more time.
Ugh... Going to try and stop having my own pity party today and enjoy my day with lo.
cloe111479 I too am dreading going back to work. Soak up all the snuggles!
I think I am waking LO up when he is just being noisy during his active sleep. The thing is though, I'm also dealing with engorgement and waking up in pain when he chooses to sleep longer. Not to mention LO has a stuffy noise so I'm worried about him not being able to properly breathe.
I want him to sleep longer than 3 hours in between feeds, but I think my worries about his grunts, my painful boobs, and his stuffy nose are causing me to wake him before he is ready.
How do you guys know when they are ready to get up in the MOTN?
cloe111479 I am so sorry. I am dreading going back to work. I have been working with HR to finalize my return to work date and it is making me sad. Hubby definitely makes enough for me not to work but, we need my job for all of the benefits.
missys I typically wait to see how much he is fussing before I get up. Usually, he is starting to wake up and he will kick his legs quite a bit. If I think he just startled himself and he will fall asleep, I will just watch him for a couple minutes to see if he falls back asleep on his own. If he doesn't then I start with the diaper change and proceed to BF if it's been about 3-4 hours.
Post by boxerrrmama85 on Mar 23, 2015 6:40:46 GMT -5
cloe111479 pity party it up. I sobbed hysterically the morning I went back to work-- telling my husband I CANT do it and I just need more time. I was about 10 minutes away from calling my boss because I was a fucking wreck-- no cute way of saying that. It is still the most painful thing ever and I definitely get some crazy Sunday blues, but I live for my after work snuggles and I even bought a carrier so that when I'm home at night I never have to put her down.
To all you ladies going back to work, I really am thinking about you. One thing that helped me was the thought of giving my daughter the life she deserves and that includes me working to make that happen.
My SPAM:
Baby girl slept through the night!!!! 9:00p to 6:00a! I'm a new person! (Granted I woke up at 4a because my boobs were angry!)
LO finally unlatched himself from my boob! Freeeeeeedom!
We're having a difficult night. DH overfed him, xaused him to have tummy issues all nght and overtired. He's finally asleep, but he's shifting around wildly in my arms. I hope he will go in his crib without waking. I'm tired, been up all night and it's almost 5.
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 23, 2015 6:51:33 GMT -5
last night H and I got into one of the biggest fights we've ever had. Please tell me we're not the only ones struggling with the adjustment of a new baby. We're not on the same page - H thinks because I am home from work I should be on baby duty 24/7 even when he's home. He's stressed from work and is gone 14 hours a day so when he gets home he wants some me time. Which I can understand but what he doesn't understand is just because I'm home doesn't mean I don't deserve a break.
The argument started because I wanted to go to bed early and asked him to watch LO (who was sleeping) so if he starts fussing I can sleep peacefully at least for a little bit. H thinks I should just take the baby to bed with me and "get used to doing this 24/7."
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 23, 2015 6:53:28 GMT -5
Very jealous of all you moms with semi-decent sleeping babes. Why does it seem like my baby is the only baby still struggling even with going 3 hours between waking up? If it's not to eat he's up just to fuss, max 2 hours. I'm at my wit's end!
last night H and I got into one of the biggest fights we've ever had. Please tell me we're not the only ones struggling with the adjustment of a new baby. We're not on the same page - H thinks because I am home from work I should be on baby duty 24/7 even when he's home. He's stressed from work and is gone 14 hours a day so when he gets home he wants some me time. Which I can understand but what he doesn't understand is just because I'm home doesn't mean I don't deserve a break.
The argument started because I wanted to go to bed early and asked him to watch LO (who was sleeping) so if he starts fussing I can sleep peacefully at least for a little bit. H thinks I should just take the baby to bed with me and "get used to doing this 24/7."
I was right to be livid, right?
You are totally right to be livid. You are working too, just because what you do doesn't earn a paycheck doesn't mean you don't deserve a little time to sleep! He is being completely unrealistic, and I'm sorry he isn't being kind enough to give you some support. The baby is his child too, and it's very sad that he wants no part in taking care of him.
You say 'home from work', are you on leave or a SAHM? If you're on leave, what is he expecting it to be like when you go back to work?
last night H and I got into one of the biggest fights we've ever had. Please tell me we're not the only ones struggling with the adjustment of a new baby. We're not on the same page - H thinks because I am home from work I should be on baby duty 24/7 even when he's home. He's stressed from work and is gone 14 hours a day so when he gets home he wants some me time. Which I can understand but what he doesn't understand is just because I'm home doesn't mean I don't deserve a break.
The argument started because I wanted to go to bed early and asked him to watch LO (who was sleeping) so if he starts fussing I can sleep peacefully at least for a little bit. H thinks I should just take the baby to bed with me and "get used to doing this 24/7."
I was right to be livid, right?
You are totally right to be livid. You are working too, just because what you do doesn't earn a paycheck doesn't mean you don't deserve a little time to sleep! He is being completely unrealistic, and I'm sorry he isn't being kind enough to give you some support. The baby is his child too, and it's very sad that he wants no part in taking care of him.
You say 'home from work', are you on leave or a SAHM? If you're on leave, what is he expecting it to be like when you go back to work?
I'm going to go back to work part time (if they let me, still have to talk to them). I asked that question - and he said it would be different then. How, I'm not sure - just more difficult as we both would have to get adequate night time sleep to function during the day? He does take care of LO, but a lot of times I have to ask. If I didn't ask, he would come home from work and have his 'me' time.
The argument finished with him saying how sorry he was and how right I am. But I'm still sad because I never thought he was the kind of person who would think that because I am home with the baby he is completely off the hook and anything he does do is out of kindness and not because he has to. I can't believe it.
Very jealous of all you moms with semi-decent sleeping babes. Why does it seem like my baby is the only baby still struggling even with going 3 hours between waking up? If it's not to eat he's up just to fuss, max 2 hours. I'm at my wit's end!
You are not alone! I am thrilled to get 2.5 hours at once. I had a breakdown last night because it took me an hour to put the baby down without him waking up and then he was awake again 45 minutes later. There should be some kind of rule against that.
He's 5 weeks old today. I'm mobile and don't see everyone's sigs, so I'm choosing to believe all the sleeping babies are older than mine.
We also think LO is colicky, so the nightly scream fest doesn't help things either. Holding strong for 6 weeks when things are supposed to start turning around...
You are totally right to be livid. You are working too, just because what you do doesn't earn a paycheck doesn't mean you don't deserve a little time to sleep! He is being completely unrealistic, and I'm sorry he isn't being kind enough to give you some support. The baby is his child too, and it's very sad that he wants no part in taking care of him.
You say 'home from work', are you on leave or a SAHM? If you're on leave, what is he expecting it to be like when you go back to work?
I'm going to go back to work part time (if they let me, still have to talk to them). I asked that question - and he said it would be different then. How, I'm not sure - just more difficult as we both would have to get adequate night time sleep to function during the day? He does take care of LO, but a lot of times I have to ask. If I didn't ask, he would come home from work and have his 'me' time.
The argument finished with him saying how sorry he was and how right I am. But I'm still sad because I never thought he was the kind of person who would think that because I am home with the baby he is completely off the hook and anything he does do is out of kindness and not because he has to. I can't believe it.
This was exactly my spam yesterday and no, you are not alone! Dh ended up being very nice and helpful the rest of the day after I was super pissed in the morning. We will see how long that lasts...
My spam...3 days out of the past 4 or 5 lo has skipped one of his motn feedings. It's fantastic especially because I have a cold.
he gets his shots later this week. I'm hoping he doesn't get the cold...will they put them off if he has it? Next weekend or the one after (what's the date? No idea) we are going to passover with a ton if people including 3 todler and 3 teenagers so I really want him to get the shots and have time for antibodys to start up before that.
toadandbuggie We've been on 1.5 hour cycles day and night the last 3 days. I cried while trying to get G down at 4 this morning. There also seems to be no correlation to how much he sleeps during the day or how much he eats.
I'm a bit all over the place today. I'm still having trouble with having needed the c-section, feeling like my body failed in one of its basic dunctions, and the fact that I'm likely not going to be a good candidate for VBAC with a second. I'm going to talk to my OB about it next week, but I poked the internet because apparently I wanted to cry in the shower this morning.
We're still waiting on our marriage certificate to get here from South Africa so we can get G his paperwork and get off island at some point.
And after my phone's update, my nook app doesn't work, so we can't read during feedings right now.
On the plus side, my young girls rugby have their first tournament today with a visiting team from New York and we're going to go watch that tonight.
last night H and I got into one of the biggest fights we've ever had. Please tell me we're not the only ones struggling with the adjustment of a new baby. We're not on the same page - H thinks because I am home from work I should be on baby duty 24/7 even when he's home. He's stressed from work and is gone 14 hours a day so when he gets home he wants some me time. Which I can understand but what he doesn't understand is just because I'm home doesn't mean I don't deserve a break.
The argument started because I wanted to go to bed early and asked him to watch LO (who was sleeping) so if he starts fussing I can sleep peacefully at least for a little bit. H thinks I should just take the baby to bed with me and "get used to doing this 24/7."
I was right to be livid, right?
Yes. You are absolutely right to be livid. I would be pissed. so sorry about the fight. My F and I are also still getting the hang of this parenting thing. Sometimes, usually when she's calm and content, he is really good about helping out. Then times when she's fussy, I haven't showered or been able to eat or nap all day because she needs to be held, he has had a rough day at work and just needs to relax. i have been really lucky with my mom being able to help out as much as she has even though she drives me crazy sometimes.
I do not want to go back to work. I graduated with my RN degree in December and passed my boards in January just 2 weeks before LO was born. I quit my job knowing that I wouldn't go back to that job and I would find an RN job. My plan was to start sending applications and resumes after 2-4 weeks so that I would have a job to start after at least 8 weeks. I have done absolutely nothing! I still have some bleeding here and there almost 7 weeks later so that is my excuse when F asks me when I'm gonna start working. Really it's because I can't go much more than an hour away from LO and I can't stop crying. We really can't afford for me not to work and it makes me sad..
I've been up since 6 with LO. my husband is still sleeping. Not fair! (He had last night off) now she is sleeping on my arm and I don't want to wake her up so I'm just lying here dreaming about food. I'm so hungry
I woke up today and thought it was Christmas. Lol. Alec slept 4.5 hrs straight at night! It was glorious. He also went back to sleep after both the 6 am and 9 am feeding. I'm a happy mommy.
I'm at 3 weeks post partum and the visitors are about to start. My sister was here this past weekend, then my cousins are coming next week and then right after my MIL will be here for a week. I am excited to see everyone but not super excited to play host for 2 weeks.
I am jealous of those of you with sleeping babies. I can't wait for the day we can put both our kids to bed and know we will get a night of rest. The day will come I know, it just may be a while.
DS slept from 10:30 - 2 on my chest, after he ate I was able to get him in the swing. Then was able to sleep on our very uncomfortable couch till he woke up at 7:30.
I have so much stuff to do around the house but I just dont have the energy. Oh well netflix it is.
cloe111479 big hugs for going back to work. Enjoy today with your LO.
missys DS is only 18 days old, but I wait and see if he's just fussing a little or if he's really waking up. I also check to see if his mouth/tongue are going or if he's got a hand to his mouth and sucking it like crazy. Sometimes I'm exhausted and wait for him to actually wake & cry before I get up. If it's been 3.5 hours or more since his last feed I'm more likely to go ahead and get up with less fussing.
pitdigger Internet hugs - sorry you're having a rough time.
@holachica Baby 411 book recommends trying baby probiotics for colic. Something to ask your pedi about maybe?
High fives to the mamas with sleeping babies! Hugs to those without sleep!
As for me, the sun came out! I'm so excited! Not sure how DS and I are going to celebrate but we so are. Thankfully my fever is gone.
The menu planning thread makes me want to get back to cooking. Fortunately my sister stocked my freezer & deep freeze with meals, so it hasn't been all take out
cloe111479, get all the baby snuggles today!! I am so worried about my meltdown when I go back to work bc I know there will be one! (Or many.....)
toadandbuggie, yesterday must have just been an off day, DH and I were at each other's throats. Much of my frustration comes from he doesn't offer to help until I have a meltdown. He also is the worst at doing things-he wants to work out-sure, I don't mind-but then he walks in circles for 15 minutes (seriously, it drives me crazy) so 30 minutes to work out turns into close to an hour of him jerking off when I just want an uninterrupted shower.
Part of the issue yeterday was also that I brought up timing for kid 2 and all of a sudden he is like we should be one and done. I really wanted 3 and backed off to 2 to compromise on him wanting 1. So that made me cranky
@holachica I thought we were done with this white B.S.
I was mia this weekend because I was super busy. On friday we signed a contract on a new house. Sat was a family party. Sunday we spent all day packing/cleaning to get our house "sell ready" in a few weeks. Tomorrow is our home inspection so I'm hoping that goes well, although now with the snow he probably won't go on the roof.
I love our new house. It's well taken care of, very updated, bigger...everything we wanted. BUT, I'm having a hard time being excited about it. I think I'm sad to leave this house. And I know I don't like change. I hope we made the right decision :/
Thanks to everyone yesterday with all my pumping questions! I love the advice I get here.
cloe111479 Going back to work is so hard. I never thought before my son was born that I would want to be a SAHM, but once he was here I couldn't imagine leaving him. It's hard but we need my income, and I know it will be better once I get a routine down. Hugs for all those going back to work.
pitdigger I still have trouble with the fact that I ended up with a c section. I felt like my body let me down. If we decide to have more kids I hope I can attempt VBAC, but on another hand I don't know if I can go through all that again.
My spam: I came home from my first day back at work to a very sick DH. So I got to cuddle with LO for a short nurse, then I had to take DH to the urgent care. Three hours later, Doctor says it's not strep or influenza, but probably a flu like virus. So then we had to drive 30 minutes to the only 24 hr pharmacy in the area, which was packed. Over an hour there, 45 minutes to home, then I had to try and get DS to sleep. Right now, DH watches DS while I'm at work, so I had to call in sick because DH is miserable and probably contagious.
Very jealous of all you moms with semi-decent sleeping babes. Why does it seem like my baby is the only baby still struggling even with going 3 hours between waking up? If it's not to eat he's up just to fuss, max 2 hours. I'm at my wit's end!
you are not alone. DS goes a maximum 2 hours between feedings.
keep in mind the age of babies though too. DS is only 4 weeks 5 days and some people talking about their LOs consistently STTN are usually older.
My baby is 8 weeks 5 days and has seem to regressed rather than progressed. I was hoping for a little bit of progress my now, but oh well: hopefully soon,
Very jealous of all you moms with semi-decent sleeping babes. Why does it seem like my baby is the only baby still struggling even with going 3 hours between waking up? If it's not to eat he's up just to fuss, max 2 hours. I'm at my wit's end!
If that makes you feel better, the Boss here only sleeps 1.5 hr stretches. At least you get 2-3, hours. He ALWAYS wakes after 1 sleep cycle and is not able to sleep thrunthe light sleep transitions. The only way for him to get 3 hr stretches is to let him sleep in my arms or on my chest or in an infant carrier. But then, I don't get to sleep at all. I don't know what to do and am just hoping he'll grow out of this funk.
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