Running away

[happymama]

First, this is totally normal behavior at this age. That being said, it's never too early to start reinforcing obedience, just so long as you don't set your expectations too high.
Personally, DD obeying me when I call her to come IS a big deal to me. I don't want her running from me in front of a car someday. I try to use a very serious tone when I mean it, and if she does run I get her immediately and tell her seriously that "mommy said to come, you can't run away when mommy says to come". I want her to know that when I use that tone, it's not a game. I also make a point to tell her during times when it is important. When I get her out of the car and stand her next to me while I grab the diaper bag I tell her in my serious voice to stay there and not move. Obviously I don't trust her to always obey so I watch her carefully and if she starts to go I correct it immediately so that she knows. DD's favorite game right now is to be chased and tickled, so I want to make very sure that she knows that there are times to run and play and times when mommy means business.

[redfraggle]

Sounds like what I do. It is developmentally appropriate behavior at this stage to test the boundaries and what the consequences of their behavior will be. It can be hard to stay calm when they disobey like that. I usually make a point to say something like "You need to stay by me/get your diaper changed/sit in your high chair/etc. You can either come on your own/hold my hand or I can carry you." Probably 3 out of 5 times, my kids choose to comply on their own terms. The other times, I get them to comply on my terms. That way, they are still in control of their actions even though I'm in control of the general situation.

[redfraggle]

Mar 23, 2015 13:18:04 GMT -5 happymama said:

First, this is totally normal behavior at this age. That being said, it's never too early to start reinforcing obedience, just so long as you don't set your expectations too high.
Personally, DD obeying me when I call her to come IS a big deal to me. I don't want her running from me in front of a car someday. I try to use a very serious tone when I mean it, and if she does run I get her immediately and tell her seriously that "mommy said to come, you can't run away when mommy says to come". I want her to know that when I use that tone, it's not a game. I also make a point to tell her during times when it is important. When I get her out of the car and stand her next to me while I grab the diaper bag I tell her in my serious voice to stay there and not move. Obviously I don't trust her to always obey so I watch her carefully and if she starts to go I correct it immediately so that she knows. DD's favorite game right now is to be chased and tickled, so I want to make very sure that she knows that there are times to run and play and times when mommy means business.

What I really love about this is how respectful happymama is of her LO's need to explore while still expecting her to make the right choices. This kid is growing up knowing her boundaries!

[legitsince86]

We don't really have a problem in public. She always holds my hand (even at home too sometimes). Not looking forward to when she realizes she can get away.

She does run away as soon as it's time to change her diaper. I bribe her though. I hold a toy out and she'll come over and look at it while I change her.

[wowcheezits]

Evelyn does this just about a lot. Sometimes when I call her name she will look, but then see that I have my arms out for her and then she'll go the other direction. If she doesn't come right away, I'll grab her hand and walk her to where I need her to go. Most of the time she'll allow that or sometimes she'll drop her weight and start fussing. It's normal at this age they don't come when being called. 

[girlonfire]

I'll ask dd " where is the changing table'? She will then point to it. Then I'll ask her where her clean diaper is, again she'll point. Then I tell her 'it's time to change your diaper, can you hold the clean one for mommy'? This engages her and she'll go along with it. I do this with everything. When I need to cook and get her off of me for a min I'll ask 'Where's daddy? Can you give daddy your stickers and ask him to help you put them in your sticker book'? When walking into daycare and she wanders the wrong way I'll ask "where's the door? (She points). That's, right! It's time to go through the door". Works like a charm almost every time. The lady who owns her daycare taught me this a couple of months ago and it has made a huge difference.

[redfraggle]

Mar 23, 2015 19:48:43 GMT -5 girlonfire said:

I'll ask dd " where is the changing table'? She will then point to it. Then I'll ask her where her clean diaper is, again she'll point. Then I tell her 'it's time to change your diaper, can you hold the clean one for mommy'? This engages her and she'll go along with it. I do this with everything. When I need to cook and get her off of me for a min I'll ask 'Where's daddy? Can you give daddy your stickers and ask him to help you put them in your sticker book'? When walking into daycare and she wanders the wrong way I'll ask "where's the door? (She points). That's, right! It's time to go through the door". Works like a charm almost every time. The lady who owns her daycare taught me this a couple of months ago and it has made a huge difference.

BRILLIANT!

[littlefoot]

Mar 23, 2015 19:48:43 GMT -5 girlonfire said:

I'll ask dd " where is the changing table'? She will then point to it. Then I'll ask her where her clean diaper is, again she'll point. Then I tell her 'it's time to change your diaper, can you hold the clean one for mommy'? This engages her and she'll go along with it. I do this with everything. When I need to cook and get her off of me for a min I'll ask 'Where's daddy? Can you give daddy your stickers and ask him to help you put them in your sticker book'? When walking into daycare and she wanders the wrong way I'll ask "where's the door? (She points). That's, right! It's time to go through the door". Works like a charm almost every time. The lady who owns her daycare taught me this a couple of months ago and it has made a huge difference.

I've been trying this since you posted it and it is GENIUS. 

[jlprybs927]

Mar 23, 2015 19:48:43 GMT -5 girlonfire said:

I'll ask dd " where is the changing table'? She will then point to it. Then I'll ask her where her clean diaper is, again she'll point. Then I tell her 'it's time to change your diaper, can you hold the clean one for mommy'? This engages her and she'll go along with it. I do this with everything. When I need to cook and get her off of me for a min I'll ask 'Where's daddy? Can you give daddy your stickers and ask him to help you put them in your sticker book'? When walking into daycare and she wanders the wrong way I'll ask "where's the door? (She points). That's, right! It's time to go through the door". Works like a charm almost every time. The lady who owns her daycare taught me this a couple of months ago and it has made a huge difference.

Must start this tomorrow!!! Brilliant indeed!