Spanking
Mar 25, 2015 13:50:04 GMT -5
Post by billyhorrible on Mar 25, 2015 13:50:04 GMT -5
Mar 25, 2015 13:11:49 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:
So what do you do when your kid is being particularly difficult? bendherova, any insight?This weekend LBB woke up from a nap too early. He was still tired and therefore very labile. He was getting frustrated with everything, and when he's frustrated he engages in a lot of unwanted behaviors. On Saturday, this included trying to turn over the table, throwing wooden coasters across the room, and other destructive acts we don't tolerate. But you know what? I've had those moments. Where you just want to throw something. I'm an adult, so I know of other ways to channel that feeling. He's 3.5. I went up to him and gave him a big hug and asked if he was feeling "rough" to which he nodded. And we talked about alternatives - like throwing/punching/biting pillows, because it's okay to feel frustrated, but it's not okay to be destructive.
When he went through his hitting phase, we removed ourselves from the situation until he could learn to be nice and gentle. Kind of like a time-out without really calling it that, he didn't have to go anywhere, but we left the room. Because in real life, no one wants to be around someone who can't play nicely.
Toy throwing? Toys get taken away.
Unlocking the front door and running out? Now you can't play in the front room.
Not listening to set rules regarding where you can play? (Sunday night he wouldn't stay in the part of the driveway where I could watch from inside) Then you can't play outside.
Can't behave at a mealtime? The mealtime's over.
Not listening when out in public? We go home.
We already get a lot of "You're mean" and last night "You ruined my day" which I guess means we're effective.