For the less bashful: DTD

[mands1125]

6 weeks PP and have done it twice. Didn't even finish the second time it was so painful. Ugh miss having good sex with my husband

[misshart00]

Before you read mine, keep in mind that I have a super high sex drive.

The first time was 3.5 to 4 weeks after giving birth. Since then, we have done it on average about 4-5 times a week. I'm currently 7 weeks PP. This morning, we did it twice. Once after he got the baby back down at 4 and once at 7 before the kids got up.

[boxerrrmama85]

We had sex 6 weeks pp, and it was ok-- like some pizza, it wasn't great but still ok. I was very emotional and self conscious that my husband wasn't going to enjoy pp sex. Now 9wks out and it's definitely feeling better and in a crazzzzzzy way much better than before. I'm relying on lube to ease things along, and feel more comfy wearing a bra because leaky boobs and sex are not my thing.

[misshart00]

Yes to lube and a bra. If I'm empty, I may try without a bra but not usually.

[boxerrrmama85]

Danggggg misshart00 good on you! ☺️Just curious-- not judging-- were you already cleared for sex? Even if I had been cleared I was too much of a wreck to even attempt having sex!

[cougarette]

Only 4 weeks pp and haven't been cleared by by Dr yet, so no sex here.

I'm sure we'll need lots of lube. Good point about the leaky boobs too.

Eta: and I'm sad that I haven't been cleared yet since Saturday is our anniversary

[cloe111479]

We dtd yesterday at 6wks and 2 days. It was all fine. Again not amazing but not hurting either. I had lube but we ended up not needing it.

I was fearful so we took it slow and all was ok.

[cloe111479]

And yes to leaving bra on. DH missed the girls but got over it.

[misshart00]

Mar 25, 2015 19:38:00 GMT -5 boxerrrmama85 said:

Danggggg misshart00 good on you! ☺️Just curious-- not judging-- were you already cleared for sex? Even if I had been cleared I was too much of a wreck to even attempt having sex!

Technically, no. But since my doctor knows my history, she has told me in the past to just wait until I stop bleeding, then I'm good to go.

[misshart00]

Mar 25, 2015 19:38:28 GMT -5 cougarette said:

Only 4 weeks pp and haven't been cleared by by Dr yet, so no sex here.

I'm sure we'll need lots of lube. Good point about the leaky boobs too.

Eta: and I'm sad that I haven't been cleared yet since Saturday is our anniversary

Our anniversary was also 4 weeks PP.

[missys]

Technically not cleared to DTD but we had sex at 4 weeks PP (emergency c section and had stopped bleeding by then). Even though it was a c section I am still amazed at how painful it is when we first start....like virgin territory. It ends up being great but the first few minutes are taken very carefully.

[dacora]

Obviously a different situation than most ladies, C-section and not breastfeeding. We DTD at 4 weeks PP (without clearance, bad me) and it was uncomfortable for about a minute until things, well, stretched out a bit. We've done it about four times in the last two weeks. Sex is just about back to normal, really.

[mishka29]

8 weeks PP and we've done it twice. I only had one stitch so it wasn't too bad at all.

[abb1701]

We are 7 weeks pp and still haven't yet. I know I'm being ridiculous but I don't want to do it with LO in the room. But my interest is growing so maybe this weekend while DS is napping in his room.

[misshart00]

For all you that haven't yet, don't worry. I read somewhere that on average, it takes 11.4 weeks pp to try to start.

[dreemkin]

7 weeks pp and had sex twice. First time was actually really good (except that I am self conscious about my body). This is my second baby though and I remember it being more painful in the beginning last time.

[firelizard8367]

We have done it once at 5 wks pp. I had a c-section and had actually been pretty raring to go for a while. I had no drive at all during the whole pregnancy though. We fooled around a few times first and that all felt fine, but then when we finally did it, I was super nauseous the whole time. No pain, but I really wanted to puke...so now I'm afraid to do it again too soon. Is that a weird thing to feel?

[mamabutt2]

DH and I tried at 4 weeks pp. Horrible idea. I cried because I felt bad for DH. It was definitely worse than losing my virginity. But, I had a second degree tear and while I thought everything down there was healed, it was not. At all. I was still insanely sore. I cried because A) it HURT and B) I felt bad for DH. We hadn't DTD for 6 weeks at that point so I know how bad he wanted it. Yet he never pressured me.
Then at 6 weeks pp, to the day actually, we DTD. Condoms and TONS of lube were used. It was not the best, but it was bearable. TMI maybe, but it felt raw inside. Like, I'd been scrubbed with sandpaper or something. But, it was still bearable. The the morning of my 6 week checkup we DTD again. It almost felt normal

Hang in there ladies! The best advice I have is to listen to your bodies and don't feel bad to shove DH or SO off of you if it's too much. It will get better.

[modernfairytale8709]

I'm 6 weeks PP this Thursday, and I've been jonesing for a fix for 3 weeks. DH won't consider it until I'm cleared this week, so I've been, ahem, flying solo.

My birth was very easy on my lady parts.

[babycfeb2015]

Just got cleared at 6 wks but im still bleeding so im not trying it yet. Not to mention I have zero desire. Im really nervous that taking the boobs out of the equation is going to make it hard to be enjoyable-that was a big part before.

[lilyelayne]

3 wk pp tomorrow so haven't DTD. I super want to but 1) I'm still bleeding 2) I want my doctor's okay. I had an episiotomy and tearing so tons of stitches. I'm pretty sure I'm not done healing, but hope to be by 6 weeks out. I miss having sex with my husband.

Our anniversary was St Patrick's day. We showered together before bed, cuddled, made out, blow job. It just made me want sex more, but I was glad to connect that much.

[mmarie]

Nope. 7 weeks and still bleeding. it makes me nervous and really pissed off.

[aggiebug]

Yes just after my 6 week pp check up. I did it for H not for me and honestly it sucked. The 2nd time we used lube it still sucked. I swear I can still feel where the stitches were and that is the source of my pain although I know they are gone.

[babycfeb2015]

Mar 25, 2015 21:41:57 GMT -5 mmarie said:

Nope. 7 weeks and still bleeding. it makes me nervous and really pissed off.

Did your dr check for retained placenta? Thats why I am still bleeding

[mmarie]

Mar 25, 2015 21:57:30 GMT -5 babycfeb2015 said:

Mar 25, 2015 21:41:57 GMT -5 mmarie said:

Nope. 7 weeks and still bleeding. it makes me nervous and really pissed off.

Did your dr check for retained placenta? Thats why I am still bleeding

She said because it's not painful and not heavy, she's not worried about it. it's just random and F thinks that he's going to hurt me or something. how do they check for retained placenta?

[cloe111479]

Was it just my DH but he didn't want to do anything once I hit like 7 months pregnant but two weeks after watching dd come out my lady parts he was ready to go.

Let's just say he got some handjobs because I wasn't up for anything else.

Once I was cleared it was another story.

[allonsy221b]

4 weeks Ppu after a ç section, still bleeding. Can't wait to DTD I usually have no drive but I've been wanting it bad. Can't wait to stop bleeding and get cleared.

[cougarette]

Mar 25, 2015 22:35:40 GMT -5 cloe111479 said:

Was it just my DH but he didn't want to do anything once I hit like 7 months pregnant but two weeks after watching dd come out my lady parts he was ready to go.

Let's just say he got some handjobs because I wasn't up for anything else.

Once I was cleared it was another story.

Haha, mine was the same way. Though I did convince him to do it the weekend before DS was born saying it may help bring on labor. I'm not sure if it did help the labor thing, but it was nice to reconnect with DH (even though that one did kind of hurt and was a bit awkward).

[xoxolicia]

As of today, I'm cleared to DTD. I told DH she sais it would be another week. I'm trying to mentally prepare for "my first time". I have to admit, I'm scared.

[babycfeb2015]

mmarie with vaginal ultrasound