BTDT moms...I should probably let go, huh?
Jan 20, 2015 8:34:23 GMT -5
Post by jabs on Jan 20, 2015 8:34:23 GMT -5
Sorry if this is an AWish post, but I could use some reassuring words. Also, this is going to be long.
A bit of a back story, up until a few months ago we lived just minutes away from our families, but recently moved two hours away.
MIL and FIL are wanting to come visit this weekend and I'm pretty sure she'll ask to take DS back home with them to stay a few days. It makes me so nervous! I know he'll be taken care of and that he'll have fun, I can't really think of a solid excuse not to let him go. He has stayed with people overnight, multiple times. But not more than one night at a time and not so far away.
What worries me most, MIL not making sure the car seat is properly secured and that he's strapped in right. Long story short she was helping me move the car seat once and I was so frustrated because no matter what I did the car seat would move back and forth with the slightest touch. She was ok with just leaving it that way. I do not half ass car seat safety.
I'm afraid of DS being around SIL. She's not mentally stable and she gets physically violent with MIL. A while back when my MIL was watching DS my SIL went off on MIL and though she didn't get violent she still scared him. MIL still let her around him a couple of times after that and after I told her that I did not want SIL around him without DH or I there as well. My SIL doesn't live with them anymore but I'm worried that SIL will show up and MIL won't do anything or let us know about it.
Lastly I'm afraid my mother will see them around town and get pissed off, I just don't want to have to deal with that. That might sound ridiculous, but you don't know my mom (she once threw a fit and threatened my sister with legal action because she didn't think my sister was letting her see her kids enough.) It's highly likely she has a few of her own mental issues going on. There's no way in hell I'd let my mother drive with DS let alone spend a few days with her, but that's another long story.
There's also the fact that MIL lets DS do whatever the hell he wants and would let the kid live off of cheetos and candy. She tends to forget every rule I set. But I think that's a grandma thing, grandmas seem to think they can do whatever they want with their grandkids, so I don't think I could use that as a valid excuse.
Anyway, DS is 4 and I know he'd have a great time. Would you let your kid(s) go? Should I just express my concerns to DH and have him stress them to MIL?
A bit of a back story, up until a few months ago we lived just minutes away from our families, but recently moved two hours away.
MIL and FIL are wanting to come visit this weekend and I'm pretty sure she'll ask to take DS back home with them to stay a few days. It makes me so nervous! I know he'll be taken care of and that he'll have fun, I can't really think of a solid excuse not to let him go. He has stayed with people overnight, multiple times. But not more than one night at a time and not so far away.
What worries me most, MIL not making sure the car seat is properly secured and that he's strapped in right. Long story short she was helping me move the car seat once and I was so frustrated because no matter what I did the car seat would move back and forth with the slightest touch. She was ok with just leaving it that way. I do not half ass car seat safety.
I'm afraid of DS being around SIL. She's not mentally stable and she gets physically violent with MIL. A while back when my MIL was watching DS my SIL went off on MIL and though she didn't get violent she still scared him. MIL still let her around him a couple of times after that and after I told her that I did not want SIL around him without DH or I there as well. My SIL doesn't live with them anymore but I'm worried that SIL will show up and MIL won't do anything or let us know about it.
Lastly I'm afraid my mother will see them around town and get pissed off, I just don't want to have to deal with that. That might sound ridiculous, but you don't know my mom (she once threw a fit and threatened my sister with legal action because she didn't think my sister was letting her see her kids enough.) It's highly likely she has a few of her own mental issues going on. There's no way in hell I'd let my mother drive with DS let alone spend a few days with her, but that's another long story.
There's also the fact that MIL lets DS do whatever the hell he wants and would let the kid live off of cheetos and candy. She tends to forget every rule I set. But I think that's a grandma thing, grandmas seem to think they can do whatever they want with their grandkids, so I don't think I could use that as a valid excuse.
Anyway, DS is 4 and I know he'd have a great time. Would you let your kid(s) go? Should I just express my concerns to DH and have him stress them to MIL?