Not sure how I feel about this:
Mar 26, 2015 9:41:31 GMT -5
Post by 20thirteen on Mar 26, 2015 9:41:31 GMT -5
Alright you guys, so I have not seen BD since last January. He last sent me a message on DD's birthday, not to say happy birthday but to ask if he could buy her a bond.
BD's mom informed me the other day that BD has repeatedly asked her and his dad what he should do, and they told him to not contact me. Ever. I mean, if anything else was said, BD's mom didn't say. She just told me that (mostly by BD's dad) BD was told to just not contact me.
The only reason why I've been thinking about this so much is that I have not told him to stop contacting me. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the radio silence, but I did tell him after she was born that I was allowing him to have a relationship with DD. Because I wanted her to have her own opinion of him, and not be biased by either of us (mostly me, since I have sole custody and also I want nothing to do with him and I can honestly say I have nothing positive to say about him). I don't want to be cast as the villain here, because I have not told him to stop contact. His parents did. And wtf to them because why would they tell him that?
I mentioned this to a co-worker who said this was a blessing in disguise, but is it really? I like that DD thinks of BF as daddy, and I like that I don't have to deal with BD's bullshit. So, with that, I'm glad he hasn't contacted me, but it's not because he decided to drop contact, its because his parents told him to drop contact.
Am I just driving myself mad? Should I just forget about this? My only concern is my DD being told that I kept her away from him when I haven't.
BD's mom informed me the other day that BD has repeatedly asked her and his dad what he should do, and they told him to not contact me. Ever. I mean, if anything else was said, BD's mom didn't say. She just told me that (mostly by BD's dad) BD was told to just not contact me.
The only reason why I've been thinking about this so much is that I have not told him to stop contacting me. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the radio silence, but I did tell him after she was born that I was allowing him to have a relationship with DD. Because I wanted her to have her own opinion of him, and not be biased by either of us (mostly me, since I have sole custody and also I want nothing to do with him and I can honestly say I have nothing positive to say about him). I don't want to be cast as the villain here, because I have not told him to stop contact. His parents did. And wtf to them because why would they tell him that?
I mentioned this to a co-worker who said this was a blessing in disguise, but is it really? I like that DD thinks of BF as daddy, and I like that I don't have to deal with BD's bullshit. So, with that, I'm glad he hasn't contacted me, but it's not because he decided to drop contact, its because his parents told him to drop contact.
Am I just driving myself mad? Should I just forget about this? My only concern is my DD being told that I kept her away from him when I haven't.