That said, I'm not 100% ready to say I'm done. I didn't get the tubal with my c-section last time because I cant say, without a doubt, that I wont change my mind in a couple of years.
Yup!! My husband wants to start trying this fall. He wants to have the kids 1.5 to 2 years apart. It took us over a year to get pregnant though, so I'm thinking we may be trying for a while. We are really hoping to not have a January baby again. Maternity leave in NE in the winter is brutal! Glad we aren't the only crazy couple already thinking of another one!
Yes. I want all the babies. Luckily this is our first and we are planning on 4
Same here!!! Especially because DS has been the easiest baby, even during pregnancy. I'm fully expecting serious morning sickness and extreme colic the next time around because of how chill this baby is.
I think I want at least one more. And DH is mostly on the same page. But right now it's hard to imagine having another when the first one turned out absolutely perfect. (Can you tell I'm still in the baby bubble?)
DH has always been one and done but he said he could always change his mind. I've always wanted 2 children but even after my easy pregnancy and surprisingly easy labor (thank you epidural) I might be done as well. I just don't know if I'd be able to handle two, not play favorites, etc.
Plus there's the whole if the first ones perfect the second ones a nightmare thing.
Yup!! My husband wants to start trying this fall. He wants to have the kids 1.5 to 2 years apart. It took us over a year to get pregnant though, so I'm thinking we may be trying for a while. We are really hoping to not have a January baby again. Maternity leave in NE in the winter is brutal! Glad we aren't the only crazy couple already thinking of another one!
This is where I am at too. I'm thinking winter. We had to go through fertility treatments to even get pregnant, so I'm guessing I'll have to go through that again. Yay. But I'm 39 as of next month, so we don't have a lot of time. DD is mine and from a previous "relationship" and DH would like to try for another, hopefully a girl. DH has two other sons from his previous marriage that his ex-wife doesn't let him see. So, his "swimmers" no matter how crappy they are (we are MFI- due to low count/motility) seem to only produce boys.... But I'd be happy either way.
Post by seamonster on Mar 29, 2015 13:25:59 GMT -5
We're discussing trying for another one in a year or so to have a 2 to 2.5 year spacing because we do want 2 kids fairly close in age. But the logistics of a toddler and a baby is frightening. Just a baby is hard enough. Definitely will be preventing for a while.
I don't know how parents of multiples do it. Another board I lurk there are a number of women already pregnant again, most on purpose. Could not do that at all.
Post by lizjennings81 on Mar 29, 2015 16:43:15 GMT -5
This tugged me out of lurkdom. At the moment: good god, NO. I love her, but this newborn stage is hard (and I did not cry when I put away her NB stuff; all I could think was "Grow, grow into a cute, smart-ass kid!").
That said, we know how nice it is to have siblings. We plan to reevaluate six months down the road when I'm cleared to TTC again.
We definitely want another, but we have no fever here. There are a few logistical things, but we probably won't start trying again for another 18 months or so.
DH has threatened to get the snip. He's done at 2. I'm not necessarily against stopping at 2 but I guess I haven't put much thought into it bc what's the point?
I do like having more disposable income for trips and whatever plus most things are planned around a family of 4.
Post by kaydee0402 on Mar 29, 2015 19:39:00 GMT -5
Yes, I'm all ready for another! But the husbandman and I have agreed to wait until April 2016 to try again. I'm one of four, so we're definitely having at least two, at most four.
It's interesting how many of us agree that the newborn stage is hard. I kept hearing "oh you forget all about it" but I can't see how?!
I think it depends on how far out you are & how hard it actually was for you. SIL's sons will be 3 in June and 2 in August and she clearly remembers how stressful & tiring having a newborn was. Both her babies had awful GI issues including reflux so feeding was hard, sleeping didn't happen, and there were far too many trips to the pedi.
It's interesting how many of us agree that the newborn stage is hard. I kept hearing "oh you forget all about it" but I can't see how?!
The newborn phase with my first was the most difficult time of my life. But when it came time for another all I could recall was that it was tough but not that bad lol. The Memory is an amazing thing!
Everyone would always say 'enjoy it, it goes so fast' which I found to be totally obnoxious as I fantasied about taking my LO to the midwife office and telling them I changed my mind about having a baby. But it is true and this time I've tried to embrace that a bit more since it is our last.
I'm not quite ready to have one now, but I think I want to have a second. I grew up as one of six and my siblings are very important to me. I want this LO to have that experience. However, DH is not really on board. He kept telling LO how he was our only child when LO was crying or fussing or being difficult. But really LO hasn't been that bad compared to other babies. We need to make sure LO isn't going to have further complications from the bleeding in his brain before were try for another one, and I think I'd like to space them between 3-4 years, but we will see if I can get DH on board.
No. But I'm happy for all of you that are considering more! We shook on one and done before we got married and this newborn BS has solidified that decision
Amen, sister! Camp one and done. LO is adorable and I wouldn't trade him for my old life back, I even cried yesterday as I packed away his preemie and newborn clothing; but make no mistake, there's no fever here, not even lukewarm. DH had always wanted 2, even he is shaking a bit on that. If we ever get a 2nd one, it will not be due to baby fever but because DH really wants one, I'll remember how bad delivery, recovery and newborn care are.
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 30, 2015 10:20:52 GMT -5
I have crazy baby fever. Which is odd because right after delivery I was all "I don't know if I can do this again" and during PG I just wanted it to be over already. Also, my H was always the one to say he wanted 4 and I thought he was crazy. Now I want 4. Even though having such a little baby to take care of gives me anxiety sometimes, it's the most rewarding thing I've ever experienced.
toadandbuggie, I am right there with you. I feel like a crazy person.
We went to see our friends' baby who was born last week. LO looked like he was 3x her size when they were held side-to-side. I seriously couldn't remember him being so tiny (and he was even smaller than her at birth). I actually teared up a little while I was holding her.
No. But I'm happy for all of you that are considering more! We shook on one and done before we got married and this newborn BS has solidified that decision
Amen, sister! Camp one and done. LO is adorable and I wouldn't trade him for my old life back, I even cried yesterday as I packed away his preemie and newborn clothing; but make no mistake, there's no fever here, not even lukewarm. DH had always wanted 2, even he is shaking a bit on that. If we ever get a 2nd one, it will not be due to baby fever but because DH really wants one, I'll remember how bad delivery, recovery and newborn care are.
Write it down. When people joke that I'll forget about all of this, I shake my head and say "Oh no, I wrote all of it down."
Amen, sister! Camp one and done. LO is adorable and I wouldn't trade him for my old life back, I even cried yesterday as I packed away his preemie and newborn clothing; but make no mistake, there's no fever here, not even lukewarm. DH had always wanted 2, even he is shaking a bit on that. If we ever get a 2nd one, it will not be due to baby fever but because DH really wants one, I'll remember how bad delivery, recovery and newborn care are.
Write it down. When people joke that I'll forget about all of this, I shake my head and say "Oh no, I wrote all of it down."
Oh honey, I had all that time up at night to sit with LO, that sh!t was written down long ago!!! My biggest pet peeve these days are all those "just you wait, you'll forget and have a 2nd kid". No f u. If I do have a 2nd kid, I'll surely remember and it'd either be an accident or because my husband reeeeeeeeeeally wants one or I lose a bet.
Post by abseptember on Mar 31, 2015 6:33:25 GMT -5
Definitely no baby fever here! Having twins is hard.... twins plus a toddler is crazy! 2 was my number and now we have 3 I told H he needs to look into getting snipped asap. Truly you do forget the newborn stuff but being back in it definitely brings those memories back! I keep reminding myself it gets easier!
Post by hollydfromtn on Mar 31, 2015 8:33:06 GMT -5
Not necessarily baby fever yet but we will most likely start trying in the next year or so. DH was actually against me getting on any birth control. He said we can be safe until we decide to officially try.
I'm not quite ready to have one now, but I think I want to have a second. I grew up as one of six and my siblings are very important to me. I want this LO to have that experience. However, DH is not really on board. He kept telling LO how he was our only child when LO was crying or fussing or being difficult. But really LO hasn't been that bad compared to other babies. We need to make sure LO isn't going to have further complications from the bleeding in his brain before were try for another one, and I think I'd like to space them between 3-4 years, but we will see if I can get DH on board.
Was the bleeding in his brain during delivery?
I had bleeding in my brain during delivery and they diagnosed it as a stroke. I had to go to appointments until I was 5 to make sure I was ok. Well, I turned out fine. My OB told me it's common for this to happen while going through the birth canal. Hope this is the case for your LO and everything will be okay.
I had bleeding in my brain during delivery and they diagnosed it as a stroke. I had to go to appointments until I was 5 to make sure I was ok. Well, I turned out fine. My OB told me it's common for this to happen while going through the birth canal. Hope this is the case for your LO and everything will be okay.
The neurologist said that it was too deep in the brain to be caused by labor according to the MRI. Glad you turned out ok though. Hopefully LO is going to get through this with no more complications.
I don't have full on baby fever yet, BUT I haven't been overly motivated to open that pack of birth control yet. We planned to start trying again spring of 2016, but I wouldn't be opposed to starting this fall. we have a fairly easy baby though, so I think that helps
Helllllll NO!! I'm not falling for all that cuteness again!
I have two teenage boys from a previous relationship who are a year apart and had my tubes tied ten years ago when I was 26. I was DONE! Both were very easy babies but even though I really wanted a daughter I was not in a relationship that was secure and I "knew" I was done. No matter what. Without a doubt. Then I got remarried 2 years ago to a man who desperately wanted his own children and I wanted a baby with him. I had my tubal ligation (unsuccessfully) reversed and then went thru ivf to have our daughter. She is amazing but she is not the easy newborn my sons were. No joke, it was easier having a one year old and a newborn than it is caring for this little diva. Luckily my husband is SO overwhelmed he does not want anymore (LOL!!! So much for wanting 4!). I'm kind of curious to see what it's like to have an "only" child (she pretty much is as my 14&15 year old boys now live with their dad). I'm hoping once she sleeps for longer than 3 hours at a time-it might be easier? We'll see.
Not quite baby fever, but since we have 2 kids now, and DH and I agreed 2 was it, I get a little sad thinking this is the last time I'll have these experiences. I had 2 uneventful pregnancies and quick and relatively easy births. Plus DD is a much more mellow child than DS. She sleeps well and cries/fusses much less than DS. Logistically and financially it makes sense to stop at 2 kids. I wouldn't be opposed to more, but I'm pretty sure our family is complete.
This is tough for me.. After puking every day, being induced over a month early, doing the Nicu thing and having a colicky baby my mind screams one and done but my heart is all... Maybe not
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