This happened with DD- about a month after she was born, after I forgot all the pains of pregnancy, the joys of labor.... I got baby fever. Now with DS who is 3 1/2 weeks, I feel the baby fever starting to creep in. I swore that he was my last..... But I think I might want to get back in that saddle just one more time.... Anyone else going thru this?!? I feel like I'm a crazy person! (I also don't know if this is an age thing- I'm going to be 39 next month & the biological clock is still ticking, but getting close to stopping).
Post by misshart00 on Mar 28, 2015 19:47:28 GMT -5
Last night, I laid awake for over an hour going back and forth about whether we want another. I had very good arguments (in my head) for both sides. Not quite baby fever, but similar.
Yes!! I have always wanted at least 2 and I brought it up to DH last weekend bc I am a planner and like to think about these things. This resulted in him saying I should consider being one and done and a fight. definitely have the fever!!
Yes! I've wanted another since LO was a week old. DH is not for it yet. He wants to wait 2-3 years. Of course I want this sweet Angel to have a few years without having to share the spotlight, but I really want another one.
Post by misshart00 on Mar 28, 2015 20:53:47 GMT -5
Even though it's crazy, it's kind of fun having two so close together.
My aunt had a 1 year old, a 2 year old, then she had twins. The first two are 50 weeks apart. She is one of the rare few that birth control absolutely doesn't work for.
I don't have baby fever, but wanted to talk with my husband about when we would want to have another since I had my six week birth control talk with the midwife. We want more than one kid, but I've always wanted to adopt as well. My grandmother adopted two boys and I always wanted to follow in her footsteps. But I am pretty sure my DH would like us to have another biological child...he isn't as keen on adoption.Then again I did not like pregnancy and ended up with a c section that I have had a little troubling reconciling with, and I'm not sure if I want to do it again. Anyways, future children are often in my mind these days.
Post by 2mrsks (mrs&mrsk) on Mar 28, 2015 21:43:58 GMT -5
I started thinking about it maybe a week after. When we were leaving the l&d room, I swore Dw was having the next one... Things may have changed quickly lol
During pregnancy I was all for another one in a couple years......but this newborn stuff is hard and I'm struggling. Not as bad as I did in the first couple of weeks, but enough to seriously think abut being one and done. I had a near perfect pregnancy and delivery, everything past pushing him out has been a struggle for me. But....ask me again in like three years when I've forgotten about those first weeks and I'll probably have a different answer for you lol
During pregnancy I was all for another one in a couple years......but this newborn stuff is hard and I'm struggling. Not as bad as I did in the first couple of weeks, but enough to seriously think abut being one and done. I had a near perfect pregnancy and delivery, everything past pushing him out has been a struggle for me. But....ask me again in like three years when I've forgotten about those first weeks and I'll probably have a different answer for you lol
I started to type something out, but you already said what I was going to say word for word.
This newborn stuff is hard. I keep questioning everything I do. And yet. We do want him to have a sibling. We've already talked about maybe starting to try for #2 when he's about 18 months or so, give or take. I would like them to be close in age.
No fever at all, but I will want at least one more. I am perfectly happy waiting though! IUD goes in the next time my mother or MIL is up during the week. We will probably wait until this LO is 1.5 years or so.
We swore up and down that we're done at 2. But now that DD is here, I'm having a very hard time with the idea of being done. I always wanted an even number because I hated growing up as one of three, plus financially and logistically it would be really tough. But I'm having a hard time remembering that sometimes.
Post by modernfairytale8709 on Mar 29, 2015 4:01:15 GMT -5
I have always wanted a large family. But DH is having such a hard time adjusting to DD that I'm not sure it's even a possibility. I also thought that I would have some help taking care of LO, but I've been pretty much flying solo. He's never once gotten up at night to help. He'll change an occasional daytime diaper, but only after she's been fussy and I tell him to. In his defense, his anxiety issues aren't helping matters, but I feel like I'm alone in this. All that being said, I still want at least three. I loved growing up in a bigger family. Built-in playmates.
Post by nomnomasaur0426 on Mar 29, 2015 5:29:55 GMT -5
Nope - complete opposite which is weird for me to say since I've always wanted 2-3 children. At least that's how I feel now, could always change. MH was shocked when I said it the other night since he knew I always stated I wanted more kids and he wants more as well. I wanted more kids right after DS was born stating I need more adorable minions, but since then have changed my mind. Maybe when I'm sleeping well again I'll change my mind haha
Yep. We used to be one and done, than we wanted 2, now I am sure I want 3. My husband thinks its nuts to have 3. I hope I can convince him! I do want to put about 3 years between this baby and a new one. We need to do some living as a family of 4 first.
Post by chickenhawke on Mar 29, 2015 6:44:59 GMT -5
No. But I'm happy for all of you that are considering more! We shook on one and done before we got married and this newborn BS has solidified that decision!
Having DS didn't change my feelings at all. I want at least one if not two more (DH says just one more) but not for 3-4 years. I don't know how mothers of multiples do it, bravo ladies, I just want to focus on one baby at a time.
I always said I wanted 3 but nothing about this was normal or easy. I had a horrible pregnancy (HG, pulled muscle so walking with a cane, little to no sleep during pregnancy because of the HG), had a horrible labour (over 30 hours of contractions between 1-5 min apart) and my darling DS is cholicky.
Post by firelizard8367 on Mar 29, 2015 7:11:56 GMT -5
We are 1 and done, biologically at least. 8 never really was into the idea of being pg, but it was a fun experiment I guess. Never thought it would result in the c-section I ended up with, but even that was fine. I know I don't want to experience any of that again though, and newborn stuff is hard. We do want him to have siblings, so in 3-4 years, we plan on fostering or adopting some older children (i.e. out of diapers at the youngest).
I want another one for sure but DH has always been mostly one and done. His only reason is our age though (both turn 35 this year) but I think that's a dumb reason.
Anyhow he agreed to discuss when DD is 1 year old. I'd like them to be roughly 2 years apart. But yes, I do have baby fever especially when I packed up her newborn clothes and used her last NB diaper.
It depends on the day. Some days I want another one right away and sometimes I couldn't imagine trying to handle more than one. both F and I have big gaps between our siblings (the biggest gap is 19 years and the smallest gap is 7) and we want them close together. We might start trying for another one in 2 years. I definitely got that "I want another one right now!" When I put away her newborn stuff!
I thought this was going to be about what to do when baby has a fever...
...So to answer, no. I love this kid like whoa and plan to have at least one more, but once we start DTD again we will be actively trying to prevent it for at least two years. This one is enough for now!!
We are one and done. My pregnancy was great for being high risk but after the terrible labor and emergency c section and the nicu I couldn't do it again. This newborn stuff is also really hard and that has taken a toll on me. My MIL keeps saying the pain fades but I am done at one.
We always wanted more than one. I'm 35 so we want to wait a little bit for number 2 but not too long.
Only thing that gives us pause-- I had a really easy pregnancy and birth experience. Shes even a really good baby. ( cries when hungry, and that's about it). I know we can't be lucky a second time.
On the multiples thing -- a friend of ours had triplets. My mom constantly says when she's watching our LO -- just think if it were 3! I can't. I know we'd survive but damn... That's got to be rough.
No fever in this house. DH and I were 99% sure that we're One and Done even during pregnancy (and discussed it beforehand). We've never wanted a big family, and when we got married neither of us were interested in having kids to begin with. We both love DD very much, and we both feel like our family is complete with her. I got to have an easy pregnancy, enjoy feeling her kicking and moving, and for the most part she's been a very easy baby.
We always wanted more than one. I'm 35 so we want to wait a little bit for number 2 but not too long.
Only thing that gives us pause-- I had a really easy pregnancy and birth experience. Shes even a really good baby. ( cries when hungry, and that's about it). I know we can't be lucky a second time.
On the multiples thing -- a friend of ours had triplets. My mom constantly says when she's watching our LO -- just think if it were 3! I can't. I know we'd survive but damn... That's got to be rough.
I got lucky with both babies. I had rough pregnancies with both, but once they were out, they were really great. Both let me get a decent amount of sleep at night. Both are not big criers. You can get lucky with 2.
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