If I see one more meme or hear one more person say this I wlll scream. Please tell me how I am supposed to choose happiness with one of my children dead.
Motivational things of all kinds can be rough. I figure they are all just written and shared by people who don't actually know. I just think of them as blissfully ignorant. Now I can almost laugh... But it took me a year.
But. Then you see some meme or painted sign at a gift store that is EXACTLY it and it makes you feel really good. Hang in there. The world is full of so much.
Motivational things of all kinds can be rough. I figure they are all just written and shared by people who don't actually know. I just think of them as blissfully ignorant. Now I can almost laugh... But it took me a year.
But. Then you see some meme or painted sign at a gift store that is EXACTLY it and it makes you feel really good. Hang in there. The world is full of so much.
Very true. I'm a year out and I have happy days, heck even happy stretches of a few days. I feel like choosing to be happy isn't always an option and I get pissed when someone implies that I'm choosing to be sad... It takes everything I have not to ask them which of their kids they would like to see die and if they could still choose to be happy. I know people say things because they are uncomfortable with my grief. When I posted this because someone on my fb feed posted about choosing to be happy with her healthy toddler dd and her healthy pregnancy with a baby boy, a good marriage, and fulfilling career. I had all those things too and then we got in a car accident. Now I have a healthy preschooler, a dead son, an okay marriage, and a fulfilling career. To imply that I have the same opportunity to be happy this morning as she does is shitty.
ETA: you aren't being shitty. i was pointing out the reason why I think this idea of choosing to be happy is shitty.
Motivational things of all kinds can be rough. I figure they are all just written and shared by people who don't actually know. I just think of them as blissfully ignorant. Now I can almost laugh... But it took me a year.
But. Then you see some meme or painted sign at a gift store that is EXACTLY it and it makes you feel really good. Hang in there. The world is full of so much.
Very true. I'm a year out and I have happy days, heck even happy stretches of a few days. I feel like choosing to be happy isn't always an option and I get pissed when someone implies that I'm choosing to be sad... It takes everything I have not to ask them which of their kids they would like to see die and if they could still choose to be happy. I know people say things because they are uncomfortable with my grief. When I posted this because someone on my fb feed posted about choosing to be happy with her healthy toddler dd and her healthy pregnancy with a baby boy, a good marriage, and fulfilling career. I had all those things too and then we got in a car accident. Now I have a healthy preschooler, a dead son, an okay marriage, and a fulfilling career. To imply that I have the same opportunity to be happy this morning as she does is shitty.
ETA: you aren't being shitty. i was pointing out the reason why I think this idea of choosing to be happy is shitty.
I am not saying you will ever AGREE with the sayings. Things like "God only takes the good ones" or "Things happen for a reason" will never ring true with me. I meant that there will be some sayings that will. I wish I could remember but there was a sign somewhere that said something about heaven and home. And I loved it. It felt more right to me.
I hate when people post shit without thinking. I had a friend who complained about "how awful" three year olds are just a few months after J died and a few weeks after his should have been 3rd birthday. Hugs!
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