Post by meerkatmillie on Apr 1, 2015 6:54:33 GMT -5
Let me preface this with I'm not certain this should/will be a regular check in, but it seems we should do it at least once and see where this goes...
Based on Mondays TWW thread it seems like there's some momentum to get a thread going for the feels and vents of people trying to conceive for a good bit of time (> ~6cycles or > ~6months) but still not so much time that seeking professional help or joining the trouble trying to conceive board would be appropriate.
If you're in this limbo land now, tell us about yourself. For example...
Total #cycles officially trying Total #months officially trying Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc) Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes) Rants about being in limbo land? Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land?
I'm on cycle 11 of trying and starting to feel like this won't happen without interventions. Usually I like being an outlier ie do extra well on a test, but this is so very frustrating knowing that the vast majority of people who started trying at the same time as me are already KU.
No official diagnosis and my cycles don't do anything wonky that I notice. I have an (overdue) annual schedule for the end of April - I kept on thinking oh I'll be calling with a BFP, and putting it off. With referrals the earliest I'd see a specialist would likely be June.
Total #cycles officially trying: 5 Total #months officially trying: 8 (today marks month 8) Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc): Nothing known, I had blood drawn yesterday (PCOS panel) because of my irregular, heavy painful periods + weight gain. Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes): Just waiting for blood work to come back. Not sure what happens if I get the diagnosis. Rants: My mom is annoying me even though she has stopped actually saying ants about being in limbo land?:anything... She told me to get DH tested multiple times. I have told her that no testing can be done for IF until 12 months has passed. I have also told her that my cycles have recently been really off, yet she doesn't seem to think it is a problem. So now she doesn't say anything... but she just gives me a look. Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land?: I cant think of anything right now!
Hi frands. I'm achromia (this feels like a 12 step meeting!) and I've been officially TTC since July 2014. My cycles are short-ish so I'm actually on Cycle 11 in that time, though we did TTA during one of them. So... Cycle 10, Month 9?
I have no known issues, but am a bit paranoid because my parents had major issues conceiving - seven years of trying, four of them under treatment, and I am an only child. (They continued trying after I was born, but never got pregnant again.)
As for rants... I feel whiny saying it, but I am just tired of this merry-go-round and want to get off. My best friend from high school either just had or will be having her third child today and it seems like half the people I know are pregnant. My potential testing date this month will/would fall on my wedding anniversary. I'm trying not to get too excited about that though, because previous "planned" tests fell around DH's birthday, my birthday, New Year's, etc. and those didn't exactly work out.
Post by wanderingheart on Apr 1, 2015 7:36:11 GMT -5
Total cycles trying: just started my 3rd cycle Total months trying: April will be my 8th month. Known issues: my OB suspects PCOS, but my vaginal ultrasound came back normal. But I'm definitely not cycling or ovulating, and haven't had a natural cycle in 8 months. Unknown issues: uh, everything? I've never been able to have a period, and just thought I was one of the lucky ones, when all my friends complained about their monthly cycles. Turns out I'm not lucky. Ironic, huh? I should add, I have had natural cycles in the past, they are just random. I could not see a period for 10 months, then BAM bleed for 21 days. Then have a period 3 months later, then 6 months...you get the idea. My uterus does what she wants. Rants: It's more of a rave, but IT'S APRIL, which means my RE appointment is this month! I'm dreading it but so ready for some answers.
I'm on cycle 7/month 11 of trying. My cycles are all over the place and I have had a couple cycles over 60 days. The last several months I had more normal cycles but I'm currently on CD 38 with no ovulation. I'm just waiting the year out before making an appointment with an RE.
My good friends baby shower was this past weekend and it really hit me hard. She is about to have her baby and I started trying before her and have yet to see two lines on a HPT. When we first started trying I thought it would be easy and I would get pregnant right away. Never in a million years did I think it would be like this.
It's CD1 for me...so starting 12/11. Total #cycles officially trying: 12 Total #months officially trying: 11
Known issues: Nope. We had no problem conceiving our DD. Unknown issues: I feel like something is wrong since it's taking so long this time, but my cycles seem normal.
Rants about being in limbo land: I really HATE the mood swings. I get all excited during my FW because I just known it's going to happen this time. Then I go back and forth during the TWW, trying not to get my hopes up but hoping anyway. Then I start spotting and CD1 rolls around and I'm just devastated. I'm also upset because I want to be pregnant so badly that I'm wishing the time away instead of embracing this stage of life and focusing on my daughter. If I can't be a good mom to her, why am I trying for another baby? Sorry my thoughts are pretty down today.
ETA: Other people being pregnant is really getting to me too. I can't stand the jealousy that I've got. In the mom/toddler playgroup that I host, everyone has either just had a baby in the past 2 months or is currently pregnant. My neighbor just gave birth last week. One if my best friends is finding out if they're having a boy or girl today. It goes on and on.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Not that I know of.
Total #cycles officially trying: 8 Total #months officially trying: 8 Known issues: I know I'm vitamin D deficient but I've been taking supplements and going outside as much as possible. I'm ready for my yearly physical/bloodwork to see where I'm at. Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes): my sister took well over a year to conceive my nephew and my parents went through if treatments and even were in the process of adoption when they finally got pregnant so I figured it wouldn't be easy but I feel like something is off. It's so frustrating when there hasn't even been a glimmer of hope in 8 months and I feel broken. Rants about being in limbo land?: we haven't told many people (2 friends know) and people make comments a lot about how DH doesn't want kids and that's why. It hurts so bad because I know he wants kids as much as I do. Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? When is it ok to start calling about REs? I don't want to wait 12 months and then get put on a 4 month wait list. Also, we are out of pocket for everything IF related so I'd like to get a head start on how much it will cost when we get to that point.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? When is it ok to start calling about REs? I don't want to wait 12 months and then get put on a 4 month wait list. Also, we are out of pocket for everything IF related so I'd like to get a head start on how much it will cost when we get to that point.
My RE wouldn't even let you make an appointment unless you'd been trying for 12 months. I got an appointment about three weeks from when I called.
I'm in a huge medical practice in Philadelphia (you'd know the name if I said it), but wait times and standards will change based on where you are/what's available/etc.
Total #cycles officially trying: 7 Total #months officially trying: 7 Known issues: I have no known issues. Unknown issues: I have worries, my cycles are in no way constant and with DH working nights, it's hard to hit in my FW sometimes. Rants about being in limbo land? So. Many. Pregnant. Friends. I am seriously so happy for all of them. Just want to be right there with them. Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Nothing I can think of. I do think this is great.
Post by mustloveerica on Apr 1, 2015 8:25:36 GMT -5
Total #cycles officially trying: 10
Total #months officially trying: 10
Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc): no CPs or losses, never seen a positive (not even a fully positive OPK), my cycles seem to be regular other than spotting for a very long time each cycle. I had some general bloodwork done a couple months ago and my TSH was fairly high. I'm getting that rechecked next week but I don't think that's the problem since my cycles are looking pretty normal.
Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes): I worry about everything. I'm pretty sure the problem is with me and not DH.
Rants about being in limbo land? We are starting to explore REs and such. It's hard. I feel like I have no one to talk to. I'm tired of people saying relax and it will happen and the worst is when they say "if you're meant to be parents it will happen". It just sucks. I'm in a state now where in pretty sure it won't happen and I'm trying to resign myself to that.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? I'm not really sure how I feel about this post. I almost feel like it's asking people to borrow trouble. 6 months is not what I would consider limbo. 10 months and getting close to the one year mark seems more like limbo to me. But that's just me. Everyone handles TTC differently tho so I'm not here to judge.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? When is it ok to start calling about REs? I don't want to wait 12 months and then get put on a 4 month wait list. Also, we are out of pocket for everything IF related so I'd like to get a head start on how much it will cost when we get to that point.
My RE wouldn't even let you make an appointment unless you'd been trying for 12 months. I got an appointment about three weeks from when I called.
I'm in a huge medical practice in Philadelphia (you'd know the name if I said it), but wait times and standards will change based on where you are/what's available/etc.
Mine was the same way. If you hadn't been trying for over a year, the receptionist wouldn't schedule an appointment without a referral from an OB for a LEGIT medical reason.
Mine was an 8 week wait.
Start saving now. If you don't need treatments, you will have that much more saved for baby. If you do need treatments, you will have that much more toward those costs.
My RE wouldn't even let you make an appointment unless you'd been trying for 12 months. I got an appointment about three weeks from when I called.
I'm in a huge medical practice in Philadelphia (you'd know the name if I said it), but wait times and standards will change based on where you are/what's available/etc.
Mine was the same way. If you hadn't been trying for over a year, the receptionist wouldn't schedule an appointment without a referral from an OB for a LEGIT medical reason.
Mine was an 8 week wait.
Start saving now. If you don't need treatments, you will have that much more saved for baby. If you do need treatments, you will have that much more toward those costs.
The RE office across the hall from my GYN's website says to call after 6 months and my GYN said to call if we went 6 months with no luck so that's where I'm stuck. I know it can take up to a year and I feel like we would be jumping the gun but at the same time that keeps nagging in the back of my mind. I'm waiting 10 weeks to get in to a new family practice doctor for my primary too and live in a bigger city where people travel 2+ hours to use our hospitals for L&D so I'm not sure what our demand is. We have plenty of money saved I just want a ball park of what we will be spending so we can be prepared for the hit to our savings account. I don't want to be taken off guard if/when we do have to make decisions.
Known issues: Chronic ovarian cysts, Vitamin B and D deficiencies, Borderline Hypertension.
Unknown issues: I'm constantly worried that my medications are messing with things. I'm also worried that H's past history of substance abuse could be effecting his fertility. It would be easier to list the things he hasn't done to give a better idea of why I'm a little concerned.
Rants about being in limbo land? My best friend had LO#3 on 3/19 - which was CD2 for me. My SIL called me to tell me she scheduled her c-section for LO#2 for 5/1. Both of them got KU on the first cycle every time. I love them both to pieces but it's hard knowing that i'm still sitting here waiting.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Nothing that I can think of right now. Edit: proofreading x2 ETA: I have a script for bloodwork, but I keep waking up to late to get it done before work.
Mine was the same way. If you hadn't been trying for over a year, the receptionist wouldn't schedule an appointment without a referral from an OB for a LEGIT medical reason.
Mine was an 8 week wait.
Start saving now. If you don't need treatments, you will have that much more saved for baby. If you do need treatments, you will have that much more toward those costs.
The RE office across the hall from my GYN's website says to call after 6 months and my GYN said to call if we went 6 months with no luck so that's where I'm stuck. I know it can take up to a year and I feel like we would be jumping the gun but at the same time that keeps nagging in the back of my mind. I'm waiting 10 weeks to get in to a new family practice doctor for my primary too and live in a bigger city where people travel 2+ hours to use our hospitals for L&D so I'm not sure what our demand is. We have plenty of money saved I just want a ball park of what we will be spending so we can be prepared for the hit to our savings account. I don't want to be taken off guard if/when we do have to make decisions.
Well, sure. That RE will make tons of money giving out Clomid like candy to women and don't need it and cash in on very simple procedures that are completely unnecessary and not covered by insurance for many since it is before the MEDICAL STANDARD of 1 year.
That RE is looking to ripoff whoever they can.
Jackasses like that RE is why they are looking to move the standard to 2 years- because so many are jumping the gun.
The RE office across the hall from my GYN's website says to call after 6 months and my GYN said to call if we went 6 months with no luck so that's where I'm stuck. I know it can take up to a year and I feel like we would be jumping the gun but at the same time that keeps nagging in the back of my mind. I'm waiting 10 weeks to get in to a new family practice doctor for my primary too and live in a bigger city where people travel 2+ hours to use our hospitals for L&D so I'm not sure what our demand is. We have plenty of money saved I just want a ball park of what we will be spending so we can be prepared for the hit to our savings account. I don't want to be taken off guard if/when we do have to make decisions.
Well, sure. That RE will make tons of money giving out Clomid like candy to women and don't need it and cash in on very simple procedures that are completely unnecessary and not covered by insurance for many since it is before the MEDICAL STANDARD of 1 year.
That RE is looking to ripoff whoever they can.
Jackasses like that RE is why they are looking to move the standard to 2 years- because so many are jumping the gun.
And that's why I haven't done anything yet. I have a general physical that will line up with the start of cycle 10 (as long as my cycles stay regular) and the Dr should do general bloodwork and then my annual is the start of cycle 12 (both appointments were made prior to TTC). I think I'm just going to call ahead for my annual to see if we can go over the RE process at that appointment since it is already set up. I figure if I let them know in advance they can update my chart/reschedule to add extra time so I don't have to go twice.
Total #cycles officially trying: 14 Total #months officially trying: 14 Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc): As far as I and my ob/gyn can tell, I don't have any. Annual exam was clean. I confirm O with temps and opks and CM. MH on the other hand was diagnosed with low T last year. See rants. Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes): Obviously I worry there is something wrong with my ute/something my ob/gyn can't see without more testing (ugh I do not want an HSG but if an RE wants me to, then fine). We need to call an RE. However, I am so convinced that it's MH that I don't want to call one until he sees his doc. I know this is probably stupid, especially since it's probably going to be 2-3 mo until one can see us. If it doesn't happen this cycle, I'll call. In the meantime my ob/gyn said to come in for CD3 blood work once my cycle resets, so we are working while waiting for the RE. Rants about being in limbo land? MH hasn't done shit about his low T since last year. His doc put him on testosterone shots, because MH told him we were having problems with sex (it affects his drive and honestly, his performance), but failed to mention we were TTC. When I told him those affect sperm count and to ask his doc about it, he said he would... And then didn't go back. At all. Every time I ask him about it he says he doesn't like his doc because he's always trying to sell him on something H feels he doesn't need, and that he wants to find a new one. Except he hasn't. After my annual exam, I completely lost it and told him I won't call an RE until he sees a doc (part of what my doc said to do while we wait is to have MH get checked out). He keeps saying he will, but he hasn't. You'd think from this he doesn't want kids, but he talks about having them all the time, and lately been saying how he hopes we get KU soon because he doesn't want to be an old dad (he's 43, I'm 33), and he wants his parents to know their grandkids. I think we are both in a loop where we keep thinking, if it doesn't happen this time, then I'll call a doctor. But if we keep doing what we are doing, we are obviously not going to get there, because it's been over a goddamn year and no BFP. I'm sorry, I know there are women on here (and in my life) with far more serious problems than a stubborn H with low T. I feel guilty ranting like this. It's just so frustrating to hear H say one thing but do another. I'm 9dpo right now, so we will know soon enough if this cycle is bust. Then I'll call the RE. Hell, maybe I should call now, I can always cancel of the impossible happens... Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Honestly it's just comforting to know I'm not the only one dealing with trouble TTC. I feel like everyone around us is getting KU, and while I am super happy for them, it hurts. Nobody really talks about it except to tell me to stop stressing, which most of the time just pisses me off (even if it's kindly meant). Eta for spacing issues.
Total #cycles officially trying: 6, ntnp since December 2013 with a few TTA cycles thrown in (3 or 4 cycles?)
Total #months officially trying: since October 2014
Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc) nothing yet. I'm glad I found this thread, the nurse at my gyn office called to notify me my insurance termed (I went on H's plan on 2015). So I gave her that info, while we were on the phone she looked through my chart and noticed that my last annual I told my gyn we were going to officially start TTC last October and asked if we had any results (NOPE) and wanted to see if I wanted to get BW done before my annual so now I have to go on CD2 or 3 for FSH, TSH, prolactin and estradiol. This is scary.
The nurse said regardless of the results the average wait time to see an RE around here is 8 weeks so that would make me 35 years old by the time of my appointment if/when we need it. I'm still absorbing everything, I haven't even told H yet.
Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes) I'm a constant worrier so this TTC stuff is not fun anymore! I'm more relaxed during WTO than I am during the TWW though.
Rants about being in limbo land? Everyone is pregnant! Also I feel like I'm not ready to tell people we're TTC and being newlyweds (we got married in December) it doesn't help to be asked "why are you not pregnant yet?!"
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Maybe a GTKU or something fun to get our minds off of TTC for a few minutes?
Well, sure. That RE will make tons of money giving out Clomid like candy to women and don't need it and cash in on very simple procedures that are completely unnecessary and not covered by insurance for many since it is before the MEDICAL STANDARD of 1 year.
That RE is looking to ripoff whoever they can.
Jackasses like that RE is why they are looking to move the standard to 2 years- because so many are jumping the gun.
And that's why I haven't done anything yet. I have a general physical that will line up with the start of cycle 10 (as long as my cycles stay regular) and the Dr should do general bloodwork and then my annual is the start of cycle 12 (both appointments were made prior to TTC). I think I'm just going to call ahead for my annual to see if we can go over the RE process at that appointment since it is already set up. I figure if I let them know in advance they can update my chart/reschedule to add extra time so I don't have to go twice.
Why are you doing you annual and physical separately? Unnecessary.
And your annual is for preventive care only. Things like discussing fertility issues and moving on to an RE are not part of your annual. You will owe a copay if they do discuss that as it is not part of that appointment.
I'm sorry to everyone that is hurting or concerned. I've got my FX for you all.
Total #cycles officially trying: 9
Total #months officially trying: 9
Known issues: None. I haven't had any testing done aside from annual paps. I had HPV for a couple of years.
Unknown issues: I started spotting on 5 DPO last month, 7 and 8 the months before. I don't know if that matters. No BFP is what worries me, unsurprisingly. I don't know how to go about getting RE referrals, the wait, how much is covered (I plan to just meet with my HR when it comes to that), etc.
Rants about being in limbo land? It hurts. The farther I get from cycle 1, the more I feel like it may not happen. Where I am scared to do testing and pay for treatments, though, MH sees answers and isn't concerned. I wish he felt a little like me, just a little.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? I like having this place. I want everyone to get their take-home baby, but it's nice to be able to share and commiserate with people in the same boat.
Love the check-in meerkatmillie,! Total #cycles officially trying: 10 cycles trying Total #months officially trying: 12 months took 2 cycles off for ntnp Known issues: Past history of cysts, Our age I did have initial cd3 and 7dpo bloodwork about 3yrs ago so it is out of date, at that time no huge issues shown Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes) as above our ages, and my dh is diabetic and also medicated for high bp, known sperm destroyers! We've had no testing and we will not as we have no ins coverage nor ability to finance on our own, we are also very blessed with health children (only one with my dh, 4 previous marriage) so we'll keep trying till the cows come home Rants about being in limbo land? It is what it is, hard to be too upset as we are blessed with children but that does not take the desire in my/our hearts away
Total #cycles officially trying: Lucky number 13 Total #months officially trying: 16 Known issues: MTHFR, recurrent pregnancy loss (5 now) Unknown issues: We are not totally sure if the MTHFR is the reason for all the early losses but are treating me as if it is. Rants about being in limbo land?: Uh, it sucks. A lot. It has taken the joy away from actually getting pregnant. Any time I see that +, my heart sinks because the first feeling I get is that I will loose it again.
And that's why I haven't done anything yet. I have a general physical that will line up with the start of cycle 10 (as long as my cycles stay regular) and the Dr should do general bloodwork and then my annual is the start of cycle 12 (both appointments were made prior to TTC). I think I'm just going to call ahead for my annual to see if we can go over the RE process at that appointment since it is already set up. I figure if I let them know in advance they can update my chart/reschedule to add extra time so I don't have to go twice.
Why are you doing you annual and physical separately? Unnecessary.
And your annual is for preventive care only. Things like discussing fertility issues and moving on to an RE are not part of your annual. You will owe a copay if they do discuss that as it is not part of that appointment.
I have always gone to my primary care for my yearly physical (bloodwork, etc) and when I started talking about ttc my primary referred me to an OB/GYN for my annuals so I can get established. My OB/GYN is no longer accepting new patients so I'm pretty happy I got in with her a few years ago.
I understand I will have to pay the co-pay. I would rather just do one appointment then scheduling two.
Total #cycles officially trying 6 cycles 6 months I got off BCP in Oct 2014.
Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis No medical issues. I did a pre TTC dr visit and had blood work. So I don't think anything at this time.
Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes) Recently I have these wild thoughts. maybe I being punished for being a young mom. Not rational, I know. But it's a crazy mind game.
Rants about being in limbo land? I had my son when I was 16yrs old. That experience was a whirlwind. I knew nothing about pregnancy or parenting. Now that I'm in a good place in my life, im ready. But now I feel a little discouraged. Also with DH's anxiety it's been really stressful for him. He can't stop his thoughts and OCD routine so I know that he's feeling overwhelmed. When I started temping in January it gave me a little piece of mind that I am ovulating but DH will constantly ask through out my cycle about my temps about how I am feeling and I started to see his anxiety level rise. So we'll see what happens.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? Thank you ladies for the support. I've learned so much. I appreciate having somewhere to go and talk about TTC. I haven't told many people that we are trying.
Known issues (ie multiple cps/losses, vitamin d deficiency, confirmed PCOS diagnosis, etc)
None
Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes)
I have worried since the first cycle I temped that my low temps are a problem. I had my thryoid tested (but only TSH) in October, and it was normal, not even the high end of normal, so my GP thinks we are good. I have enough symptoms that match hypothyroid that I wonder if I should go back and push for a full panel and get my adrenals tested. I also worry about my lp. It ranges from 9-12 days, mostly 9 or 10 with spotting by 9.
However, with H's recent gallstone issue, I now wonder if it is him. Apparently gallstones in young men is rather unusual, and it might mean an underlying issue on his part, and some possibilities involve hormone imbalances. Also, retrospectively he has been having gallstone issues since before we were engaged, and it can't help anything that he has been sick. In talking to my MIL I learned that his dad had the same thing, and that with his first wife there was a long delay in conception. I don't know.
Rants about being in limbo land?
I'm going to be an aunt (again) today. My SIL got pregnant a month after we started trying and is being induced as I type with her second child. At book club last week, two people announced their pregnancies. I hate being jealous. Also, my charts never make me believe I have a chance at pregnancy. Post-ovulation they always look exactly the same, with dips on the same days, and the same basic pattern. I'm 10dpo today, and am sure I won't need to take a test.
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land?
Not really, but thanks meerkatmillie, for setting this up. It feels cathartic.
Known issues: Three miscarriages (along with two living children). Homozygous MTHFR.
Unknown issues: I had some routine bloodwork done at a physical exam a couple of months ago and my TSH was a little high. I'm worried about underactive thyroid. My ARNP wants to re-test in a couple of months before taking medical intervention. I've also had to be on progesterone supplements during first tri when I was pregnant with both of my kids. My cycles had been irregular but I also just weaned about a month ago, so I'm waiting to see what happens in the coming months before worrying about that.
Rants about being in limbo land? Just the waiting and wondering. If there's something I could do now to help this along, I'd like to be doing it.
meerkatmillie, Thanks for starting this. I think this is a great idea for those of us in this gray area.
Total #cycles officially trying: 7 (pretty sure it will be 8 by the end of today or tomorrow)
Total #months officially trying: 7
Known issues: Back in October, I had this awful stomach pain and went to urgent care. They actually did an abdominal and t/v ultrasound (they thought it might have to do with my ovaries). They said I had "a lot of follicles on my ovaries" and my "lining was a little thin". They also couldn't figure out the cause of the pain. When I saw my OB she didn't seem too concerned about the lining or many follicles.
Unknown issues (Worriers/hypochondriacs notes): I start spotting early. One month it was 5dpo, but usually 7,8, or 9 dpo.
Rants: I saw my OB again in March, because she told me to come back in if me and DH hadn't gotten pregnant yet. I told her that I had been charting, all my O signs line up with the OPKs and temps and we hit at least 2 days every FW. I also mentioned that I had been off BC since May 2013 and me and DH were using the pull out method (I think that's what she thought was most concerning). She referred me to an RE. I haven't called because I have mixed feelings. Everything I read on here says trying for up to a year is normal. I don't have any known issues. Why shouldn't I be able to get pregnant. Who knows if they would even see me yet? Is it crazy, or would you ladies be concerned about the pull out method being "effective" for a year too?
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land?: I cant think of anything right now!
Anything else you'd like to see / know of others also in limbo land? When is it ok to start calling about REs? I don't want to wait 12 months and then get put on a 4 month wait list. Also, we are out of pocket for everything IF related so I'd like to get a head start on how much it will cost when we get to that point.
My RE wouldn't even let you make an appointment unless you'd been trying for 12 months. I got an appointment about three weeks from when I called.
I'm in a huge medical practice in Philadelphia (you'd know the name if I said it), but wait times and standards will change based on where you are/what's available/etc.
This.
My appointment was also three weeks after I called, but I'm in an area with a lot of major nationally-recognized hospitals.
mugster, your temps are just like mine. Pre-O, I am in the 96 range. Post-O, 97's. I worried about my thyroid as well but all tests came back normal.
It is just depressing to hit "Charts like Mine" on Fertility Friend. If I match by ovulation date and intercourse patterns 40% of charts are pregnancy charts. If I match by pre-O and post-O temps, 12% are pregnancy charts, and there aren't that many of them in total (200>pregnancy charts>20). I don't know if that means the sample size is just too small so the data is skewed or if low bbts correlate with more trouble getting pregnant (even if the thyroid is fine?). Or if I'm just crazy.
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