Post by junch817 on Apr 2, 2015 18:40:34 GMT -5
Apr 2, 2015 17:47:14 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:
I just feel like news travels. I find out about extended families weddings months in advance through family. Oh, so and so is getting married in August. So it's at least on my radar. If I want to know the specific date 8 months out, then I can ask. I don't think the bride should have to send me out a "pre invitation". I mean, in a way I get it, but 99% of me thinks it's a waste.
No, I wouldn't assume I was invited. If I am unsure whether or not I would be invited, then I wouldn't feel bad if I could or couldn't go to the wedding when I receive the invite. If I receive a regular invite 6 weeks before the wedding, and I can't go, I wouldn't feel bad about it either.
I felt, as the bride, if people could come, great. If they couldn't, that was ok too. I felt that anyone unsure of getting an invite likely wasn't someone that I was extremely close with and wouldn't want them to feel like they needed to plan a vacation or whatever around my wedding.
I just feel like 10 years ago, save the dates didn't exist. People came to a wedding, or they didn't. I think save the dates put more pressure on people (guests) to try to arrange their schedule, and I didn't want to do that. Most people that I truly wanted there knew when my date was before the invite went out. Plus, the cost. Like I said, I understand the point behind it in a way, but think it's unnecessary.
I guess I picked a good UO!