It's Thursday... Let's hear those UO's!

[Widget123]

Apr 2, 2015 7:15:58 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I think sports cars are a waste. You pay all that money for a car that doesn't always go that fast, doesn't have much trunk space and are shaped funny.

Ill add that they dont have good gas mileage and may not fit all of your kids/ may be 2 door.

[billyhorrible]

I think women who try to induce their labor starting at 36 wks because they are "so over being pregnant" are selfish.

[nettje]

Ugh... Those jeans are the worst. And it seems like every woman over the age of 45 wear them around here. Like they're trying to hard.

[alayne926]

I think 95% of the gofundme pages are attention whorey and shouldn't have been created in the first place.

[alayne926]

Apr 2, 2015 8:26:50 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

Apr 2, 2015 8:21:46 GMT -5 alayne926 said:

I think 95% of the gofundme pages are attention whorey and shouldn't have been created in the first place.

Fiances long term ex gf (they were "together" from like 14-22) created one a few months ago for her wedding. HOLY SIDE EYE.

This lady I used to go to church with is trying to raise $50,000 for gastric bypass surgery and a new car.  MAJOR side eye!

[tatersalad]

In honor of leenziepops April Fools prank, I don't think bare belly bump photos are offensive if you are wearing a bikini. Maybe it's because I was pregnant all summer long with my first and it was the norm for moms to post pics of their bellies poolside.
I do not, however, want to see anyone in their underpants. Even if you have a modeling contract.

[alayne926]

Apr 2, 2015 9:14:48 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

I think the feticide ruling in Indiana for the woman who gave birth at 24 weeks and left the body in a dumpster is 100% correct. My heart bleeds for her because she was in a really hard situation, but if you are 24 weeks pregnant and in labor, you have a responsibility to at least go to the emergency room, even if you don't go above and beyond to save the baby.

I'm not familiar with this story, but just from what you posted, I do not think that this is unpopular at all!  

[alayne926]

Apr 2, 2015 9:22:07 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

Apr 2, 2015 9:19:16 GMT -5 alayne926 said:

I'm not familiar with this story, but just from what you posted, I do not think that this is unpopular at all!  

It may be a little less unpopular on a forum full of currently pregnant women, but it is definitely not popular in general. 

Here's a link, in case you're curious and want to be really sad: www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2015/04/01/indiana-woman-jailed-for-feticide-its-never-happened-before/

That is very sad, and I can see how people are upset over it.

[sapphyre0702]

Apr 2, 2015 7:25:25 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

Apr 2, 2015 7:15:58 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I think sports cars are a waste. You pay all that money for a car that doesn't always go that fast, doesn't have much trunk space and are shaped funny.

Ill add that they dont have good gas mileage and may not fit all of your kids/ may be 2 door.

Sports cars make me claustrophobic, so tiny, so expensive!

[alayne926]

Apr 2, 2015 9:41:21 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

Apr 2, 2015 9:22:07 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

It may be a little less unpopular on a forum full of currently pregnant women, but it is definitely not popular in general. 

Here's a link, in case you're curious and want to be really sad: www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2015/04/01/indiana-woman-jailed-for-feticide-its-never-happened-before/

Oh my god that is awful. I think she should definitely have been jailed. The part I'm a bit confused over is how they are jumping to women suffering still births and miscarriages being jailed?
Surely a doctor will only call the police if they suspect the woman has intentionally hurt her baby.

Some states in the US are trying to pass bills that Dr's have to report all miscarriages/pregnancy losses no matter the gestational age and if the mother *could* have done something to cause it, they can be charged. It's a horrible reality for many women who have lost babies and already are questioning the "What ifs" after a loss to now be afraid to tell a healthcare provider that they lost a child.  

[wegrowsheep]

Apr 2, 2015 8:17:59 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I don't like chai tea, it smells funny and tastes funny.

Blasphemy!!! I'm only on my first cup for the day!

[wegrowsheep]

Apr 2, 2015 9:59:06 GMT -5 alayne926 said:

Apr 2, 2015 9:41:21 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

Oh my god that is awful. I think she should definitely have been jailed. The part I'm a bit confused over is how they are jumping to women suffering still births and miscarriages being jailed?
Surely a doctor will only call the police if they suspect the woman has intentionally hurt her baby.

Some states in the US are trying to pass bills that Dr's have to report all miscarriages/pregnancy losses no matter the gestational age and if the mother *could* have done something to cause it, they can be charged. It's a horrible reality for many women who have lost babies and already are questioning the "What ifs" after a loss to now be afraid to tell a healthcare provider that they lost a child.  

While I am completely against women having abortions, I also completely disagree with this this because of the double standard it creates. Can't have it both ways.

[mrskblack11]

Apr 2, 2015 7:29:48 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:

I don't find Ryan Gosling super attractive.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU.

He is my dream man. 

[mrskblack11]

Apr 2, 2015 7:45:01 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

Miss Me jeans, and those of the like, are disgusting. Maybe it's where I'm located but all the super trashy women wear them. They are not cute. It is never acceptable to walk around with a bedazzled ass and seam stitching so thick you can spot it from a mile away.

They are super popular in Texas. Texas women love big hair and bedazzled EVERYTHING.

I only wear my Miss Me jeans when I go to a country bar and I wear them with my cowboy boots. 

[mrskblack11]

Apr 2, 2015 11:24:23 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:

His eyes are just too close together!

I also don't like beards.

I am generally not a fan of beards but......mmmmmmmmm.

[veggiemo]

I think engagement/wedding rings that have any kind of center stone, say over 1 karat, are too much. I love my plain band and I think it's kind of gaudy to walk around with a big rock on the daily. Special occasion, sure. But otherwise it just looks like this awkward protrusion off your hand that seems unnecessary.

[noname83]

Apr 2, 2015 9:02:28 GMT -5 pbubblegum said:

I strongly dislike Longchamp bags and the bitches that think they are high fashion because they spend $100 on nylon.

I used to feel that way (and sort of still do), but I have one. Granted I don't think its high fashion, and mine was on sale so I didn't spend $100. However, it is literally the only purse I have had that did not get destroyed in 3-4 months of daily commuting on public transportation. So, in the long run I saved money because I stopped buying purses so often.

[erbear]

I hate April Fools' Day and I think 99% of pranks are dumb.

[sgarmand]

The splurge post reminded me of one of mine.

I think building a new home, exactly like all the other homes in a neighborhood, for the simple fact that you want to live in a house no one has lived in is frivolous. I'd like to build one day because the architectural style of home I like simply can't be found in our area to readily buy. If that weren't the case, I'd have no problem never building a home and making the changes we wanted to it over time.

[sgarmand]

Apr 2, 2015 12:15:17 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

Apr 2, 2015 12:03:17 GMT -5 sgarmand said:

The splurge post reminded me of one of mine.

I think building a new home, exactly like all the other homes in a neighborhood, for the simple fact that you want to live in a house no one has lived in is frivolous. I'd like to build one day because the architectural style of home I like simply can't be found in our area to readily buy. If that weren't the case, I'd have no problem never building a home and making the changes we wanted to it over time.

I wouldn't say it's frivolous. While the outside may be similar in style to others, the inside is where a lot of people make drastic changes in regards to layout and such. For me personally, it's actually cheaper for us to build than to by because my dad is a contractor and is hardly charging us. Plus a lot of the houses for sale here aren't worth renovating.

That's where my problem comes in. No one wants to put the time and effort into renovating anything. Then, the properties sit so long, they go to shit and practically need to be bulldozed in the end. It just makes me sad. There's complete towns in our neighborhood that have beautiful homes, but they've completely gone to shit because everyone had to build something exactly the same, just new. I just wish maintaining homes/neighborhoods was the first option, but for most people it isn't. My opinion probably stems from the fact that we have a lot of properties sit for a long time here, because where I am in Texas, there's lots of room to build elsewhere. At least for now.

ETA: I'm kind of a home renovation nerd, and truly believe most every house is worth renovating to it's former glory, or whatever glory you want it to have! 

[sgarmand]

@jemomma, I feel like that falls in the same category as over sharing in general on Facebook. I think, but could be wrong, the popular opinion here is that immediately posting about a death is probably over sharing.

[sgarmand]

@jemomma, and @littlechivette, if you read my original post, I said "for the simple fact that you want to live in a house no one has lived in before."

Obviously doing what you can, within your means, is not the same thing. Neither is a parent building a home for you, which has meaning. Some people just don't want a house that has been lived in.

ETA: And saying a home isn't worth renovating, and not having the time and resources to renovate are also two different things.

[txngrl31]

I'm not a fan of engagement photos and think they are a waste of money. I would much rather spend the money on other things related to the wedding. DH and I did not have engagement photos taken (obviously), and let's just say my mother wasn't happy about it. I gave her one of the million recent photos taken of us on vacation, out and about, or at a holiday and said this was just as good. Professional photos will be taken at the wedding- good enough.

Where I'm from in Texas, women like to take their engagement photos on train tracks while wearing flowery dresses and cowboy boots...seen it a million times.

[mrsdee1982]

I've got one…

I think that some stereotypes are often more accurate than not.

[txngrl31]

Apr 2, 2015 13:22:07 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

Apr 2, 2015 13:14:29 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

I actually know someone who bought a brand new house because living in a home that someone else lived in seemed weird to her. I think she's kind of weird for thinking that, personally. I don't particularly like brand new houses because there's nothing really charming about them. They all just seem builder beige to me. I love older houses because they have personality and they're not cookie cutter.

I live in a 30 year old house, so obviously other people have lived in it, but I kind of understand where she's coming from. I cleaned the hell out of this house because all I could think of when I cleaned was that this dust was someone else's hair/skin/etc. and the stains on the carpet were a mystery from only-God-knows-what kind of human or animal...

I would love a new house where I know all of the filth belongs to me and my family. Haha. But I wouldn't build/buy new construction just for that reason.

We live in a charming, 100 year old home that has been renovated and modernized on the inside. I feel like I get the best of both worlds.

[sgarmand]

Apr 2, 2015 13:26:57 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

Apr 2, 2015 13:22:07 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

I live in a 30 year old house, so obviously other people have lived in it, but I kind of understand where she's coming from. I cleaned the hell out of this house because all I could think of when I cleaned was that this dust was someone else's hair/skin/etc. and the stains on the carpet were a mystery from only-God-knows-what kind of human or animal...

I would love a new house where I know all of the filth belongs to me and my family. Haha. But I wouldn't build/buy new construction just for that reason.

We live in a charming, 100 year old home that has been renovated and modernized on the inside. I feel like I get the best of both worlds.

That is the best of both worlds! Our home really old as well, a modified craftsman from the 50's in a shot-gun layout, but it was completely gutted and added onto about 6 years or so before we bought it. They kept to the original style when renovating though with a few modern touches, so it's perfect!

[sgarmand]

Apr 2, 2015 13:25:13 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

I'm not a fan of engagement photos and think they are a waste of money. I would much rather spend the money on other things related to the wedding. DH and I did not have engagement photos taken (obviously), and let's just say my mother wasn't happy about it. I gave her one of the million recent photos taken of us on vacation, out and about, or at a holiday and said this was just as good. Professional photos will be taken at the wedding- good enough.

Where I'm from in Texas, women like to take their engagement photos on train tracks while wearing flowery dresses and cowboy boots...seen it a million times.

And I LOVE our engagement pictures! I'd be a sad monkey if I didn't have them, they turned out great. Taken in a field in Texas in front of a barn in a huge floral printed dress! But no train tracks so I'm different right? 

A big thing with me wanting to take them though, was the fact that DH and I were together for 3 years before we were married and maybe had a handful of pictures of the two of us. None of us are big on stopping what we're doing, wherever we are, to take pictures I guess. 

[txngrl31]

Apr 2, 2015 13:35:00 GMT -5 sgarmand said:

Apr 2, 2015 13:26:57 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

We live in a charming, 100 year old home that has been renovated and modernized on the inside. I feel like I get the best of both worlds.

That is the best of both worlds! Our home really old as well, a modified craftsman from the 50's in a shot-gun layout, but it was completely gutted and added onto about 6 years or so before we bought it. They kept to the original style when renovating though with a few modern touches, so it's perfect!

Some times these older homes just need some TLC. I'm all about a modern kitchen and bathroom!

[neongreen]

Apr 2, 2015 10:41:43 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

Apr 2, 2015 10:07:18 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

While I am completely against women having abortions, I also completely disagree with this this because of the double standard it creates. Can't have it both ways.

I think there's kind of big difference between having a loss later in a pregnancy while you're doing everything you should medically to care for yourself and the baby and having a loss while not seeking any sort of care and then throwing the child in a dumpster...

If I took my kid to a pediatrician and he was showing signs of neglect, they'd report me. I think the same should be said for pregnant women past the legal gestational age for abortion. If you're doing something negligent after electing to keep the baby, you should be held responsible.

Without fully jumping head-on into the abortion debate, I think statements like these don't take into effect that abortion services are not equally accessible everywhere in the country. While we don't know her state of mind, it really doesn't look like she was thrilled about being pregnant from the very beginning and then all of a sudden woke up one morning and decided she wanted an abortion at such a late stage.* Based on what's been reported and the conservative area where she comes from, I don't see it as "electing to keep the baby" as much as "didn't have a whole lot of options available". I don't think we can ignore her ethnic and cultural background, either. If she were a "good, white Christian girl", I bet the case never would have proceeded as far as it did.

(*Note how there's also been some discrepancies about how far along she really was, and what the prosecution could actually prove re: viability.)

It's tragic all around, and I know I'm being stupidly optimistic when I say I really hope cases like this just drive home the point of why it's so important to have safe abortion services legal and accessible. Again, I'm not planning on writing my usual essays on the side of the debate I support, but I will say that outlawing legal safe abortion (or making it damn near impossible to get one) will never make abortion go away. In some places in the country, we're one step away from being back to back-alley abortions and desperate women being maimed and killed. (And this is one of the reasons why, despite its problems, I'll never leave my beautiful hippie liberal New York.)

[tatersalad]

Apr 2, 2015 11:32:33 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

Apr 2, 2015 11:24:23 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:

His eyes are just too close together!

I also don't like beards.

I am generally not a fan of beards but......mmmmmmmmm.

I only find Ryan Gosling attractive with a beard and long hair.