Sunday sippin'

[rablissful]

I had a hard lemonade for lunch (mom made a big lunch instead of dinner) and I think I may go home and have more alcohol after having to see my pregnant sister for the first time after my loss.

[SheilaTheTank]

T is showing photos of our Seattle vacation to the ILs. My wine glass is empty. I want to just go home so I can drink more.

[SheilaTheTank]

Apr 5, 2015 17:24:41 GMT -5 rablissful said:

I had a hard lemonade for lunch (mom made a big lunch instead of dinner) and I think I may go home and have more alcohol after having to see my pregnant sister for the first time after my loss.

Oh no. *hugs*

Other than the whole pregnant thing was it nice to see her? I dont know your family dynamic so I hope at least it was enjoyable to see her.

[rablissful]

Apr 5, 2015 17:26:39 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Apr 5, 2015 17:24:41 GMT -5 rablissful said:

I had a hard lemonade for lunch (mom made a big lunch instead of dinner) and I think I may go home and have more alcohol after having to see my pregnant sister for the first time after my loss.

Oh no. *hugs*

Other than the whole pregnant thing was it nice to see her? I dont know your family dynamic so I hope at least it was enjoyable to see her.

I guess. We go back and forth on how much we get along. It's just extra hard because she's due 3ish weeks before me and we announced our pregnancies to our family on the same day. Plus she already has a DD.

Edit: THANKFULLY nobody mentioned pregnancy at all. I would have lost my shit if they did.

[lovetruly2015]

Work is over im going home to drink lots eat dinner and sleep well sleep, cuz honestly that what I most.

[rablissful]

Thanks for the hugs @pineappleoranges.

@ismellbooks that would be fucking fantastic. If only. I'm just proud of myself that I didn't break down until I got in the car versus in front of everyone.

[icaughtfire]

Drinking wine & watching Anchorman 2 with the husband. The only Eastering we did today was eat entirely too much chocolate with the kiddo.

[cabgirl]

Huge hugs, rablissful. Is it at all a relief to have that first encounter behind you? I'm glad pregnancy wasn't a topic of conversation.

[cabgirl]

Apr 5, 2015 17:39:40 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

Drinking wine & watching Anchorman 2 with the husband. The only Eastering we did today was eat entirely too much chocolate with the kiddo.

How is it? I've heard mixed reviews. 

[icaughtfire]

Apr 5, 2015 17:24:41 GMT -5 rablissful said:

I had a hard lemonade for lunch (mom made a big lunch instead of dinner) and I think I may go home and have more alcohol after having to see my pregnant sister for the first time after my loss.

I was in a similar situation with my last pregnancy, except it was my husband's best friend's wife. It sucks, it's hard, and it's heartbreaking. But I promise you, it gets easier.

I found I had to distance myself from her, and I was honest about it. I told her I was happy for her, but being around her was just too hard for me. She understood, and hopefully your sister would too if you talked to her. I get your feels like you wouldn't believe, they are normal. I'm sorry you had to deal with that today.

[pismoduo]

Apr 5, 2015 17:41:22 GMT -5 cabgirl said:

Apr 5, 2015 17:39:40 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

Drinking wine & watching Anchorman 2 with the husband. The only Eastering we did today was eat entirely too much chocolate with the kiddo.

How is it? I've heard mixed reviews. 

I loved the original Anchorman, but I could not make it through Anchorman 2. It just came off dumb, instead of so dumb it's hilarious.

[icaughtfire]

Apr 5, 2015 17:45:01 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Apr 5, 2015 17:41:22 GMT -5 cabgirl said:

How is it? I've heard mixed reviews. 

I loved the original Anchorman, but I could not make it through Anchorman 2. It just came off dumb, instead of so dumb it's hilarious.

I'm finding it pretty hilarious, but I've also been drinking so there's that.

[rablissful]

cabgirl I'll probably be happy when I calm down. I just got home and am going to put sweats on, get a drink, and maybe dine ice cream. My family is awesome and knew that would probably not be a good idea. I'm sure mom probably got her inside baby Easter stuff, but probably saved it for after I left. Nobody mentioned get pregnancy at all. Very grateful for that.

icaughtfire luckily I do not see her all that much throughout the year. We generally only see each other for holidays. I totally skipped her daughter's birthday a few weeks ago (for multiple reasons, but I definitely wasn't ready to see her yet). I probably won't have to deal with her again until my other niece's birthday in July, like a month before she'll be due. FX I'm at least pregnant again by then so seeing her won't be such a punch to the gut.

[cabgirl]

Apr 5, 2015 17:56:40 GMT -5 rablissful said:

cabgirl I'll probably be happy when I calm down. I just got home and am going to put sweats on, get a drink, and maybe dine ice cream. My family is awesome and knew that would probably not be a good idea. I'm sure mom probably got her inside baby Easter stuff, but probably saved it for after I left. Nobody mentioned get pregnancy at all. Very grateful for that.

icaughtfire luckily I do not see her all that much throughout the year. We generally only see each other for holidays. I totally skipped her daughter's birthday a few weeks ago (for multiple reasons, but I definitely wasn't ready to see her yet). I probably won't have to deal with her again until my other niece's birthday in July, like a month before she'll be due. FX I'm at least pregnant again by then so seeing her won't be such a punch to the gut.

I'm sorry you're feeling upset. Sweats, drink and ice cream sound like a good plan. You should be proud of yourself for going and being with your family even though you knew it would be hard.

[rablissful]

Apr 5, 2015 18:01:07 GMT -5 cabgirl said:

Apr 5, 2015 17:56:40 GMT -5 rablissful said:

cabgirl I'll probably be happy when I calm down. I just got home and am going to put sweats on, get a drink, and maybe dine ice cream. My family is awesome and knew that would probably not be a good idea. I'm sure mom probably got her inside baby Easter stuff, but probably saved it for after I left. Nobody mentioned get pregnancy at all. Very grateful for that.

icaughtfire luckily I do not see her all that much throughout the year. We generally only see each other for holidays. I totally skipped her daughter's birthday a few weeks ago (for multiple reasons, but I definitely wasn't ready to see her yet). I probably won't have to deal with her again until my other niece's birthday in July, like a month before she'll be due. FX I'm at least pregnant again by then so seeing her won't be such a punch to the gut.

I'm sorry you're feeling upset. Sweats, drink and ice cream sound like a good plan. You should be proud of yourself for going and being with your family even though you knew it would be hard.

I know and I am. Luckily she didn't come to dinner, only for dessert, so I had a few good hours with everyone else. I was thankful for that.

I should mention she's not a blood related sister. My family adopted her when I was a sophomore in high school. It's really complicated, it's just way easier to say she's my sister.


Finally in sweats and poured myself a Malibu and OJ though! Not hungry enough yet for ice cream.

[SheilaTheTank]

Blue raspberry peep with white cherry vodka and soda. At this point in too drunk to care but it looks pretty.

ETA: stupid picture won't load.

[helloerrbody]

I'm sorry rablissful. I skipped family Easter today for similar reason. Sending you hugs, ice cream, and all the wine!!!!

[cabgirl]

I'm drinking wine and reading Anaïs Nin. I love her. I want to be her.

[Daikoku]

I spent today with our closest friends. 2 of them have new babies and the other one is pregnant. I am not jealous and am super happy for them (and the babies are super fucking cute), but I have a hard time handling all the "here's what you should do" comments from one of them. I'm almost through a sixer and home relaxing with my amazing H. Cheers!!

[SheilaTheTank]

Apr 5, 2015 18:47:31 GMT -5 @pineappleoranges said:

Apr 5, 2015 18:35:56 GMT -5 SheilaTheTank said:

Blue raspberry peep with white cherry vodka and soda. At this point in too drunk to care but it looks pretty.

ETA: stupid picture won't load.

Ew.

Yeah, we've already established that I'm one of the only people who likes peeps on this board. Sugary goodness. 

[requiressnacks]

Apr 5, 2015 18:47:42 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

I spent today with our closest friends. 2 of them have new babies and the other one is pregnant. I am not jealous and am super happy for them (and the babies are super fucking cute), but I have a hard time handling all the "here's what you should do" comments from one of them. I'm almost through a sixer and home relaxing with my amazing H. Cheers!!

I totally understand! I have a friend who just loves to tell me that all she and her H did was have sex EOD for a week and voila! Preggo. I've stopped fighting it and I just say "thanks" and move on. So frustrating!

[Deleted]

Apr 5, 2015 18:47:42 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

I spent today with our closest friends. 2 of them have new babies and the other one is pregnant. I am not jealous and am super happy for them (and the babies are super fucking cute), but I have a hard time handling all the "here's what you should do" comments from one of them. I'm almost through a sixer and home relaxing with my amazing H. Cheers!!

I have a hard time with the how to get knocked up tips too. I actually have an easier time with hanging out with the babies than I do hanging with the pregnant ladies. One of my BFs has an 8 month old who just learned how to clap. How could I not love that little ginger.

[Daikoku]

Apr 5, 2015 18:54:40 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Apr 5, 2015 18:47:42 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

I spent today with our closest friends. 2 of them have new babies and the other one is pregnant. I am not jealous and am super happy for them (and the babies are super fucking cute), but I have a hard time handling all the "here's what you should do" comments from one of them. I'm almost through a sixer and home relaxing with my amazing H. Cheers!!

I totally understand! I have a friend who just loves to tell me that all she and her H did was have sex EOD for a week and voila! Preggo. I've stopped fighting it and I just say "thanks" and move on. So frustrating!

Yeah, super frustrating.  Our friends know that we are dealing with infertility and what treatments we're going through.  Just the one friend seems to think it's all a farce.  She's always saying things like, "it took us a while too" (it took them 4 months) or, "You need to stop focusing on things like the word infertility.  It causes too much stress."  I do my best to calmly explain reality to her, but at a certain point, I just have to nod and smile. 

In the meantime, I have an amazing H and more beer on hand. 

[lovetruly2015]

Apr 5, 2015 17:24:41 GMT -5 rablissful said:

I had a hard lemonade for lunch (mom made a big lunch instead of dinner) and I think I may go home and have more alcohol after having to see my pregnant sister for the first time after my loss.

Sending lots of hugs your way!

[SheilaTheTank]

Apr 5, 2015 19:00:05 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

Apr 5, 2015 18:54:40 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

I totally understand! I have a friend who just loves to tell me that all she and her H did was have sex EOD for a week and voila! Preggo. I've stopped fighting it and I just say "thanks" and move on. So frustrating!

Yeah, super frustrating.  Our friends know that we are dealing with infertility and what treatments we're going through.  Just the one friend seems to think it's all a farce.  She's always saying things like, "it took us a while too" (it took them 4 months) or, "You need to stop focusing on things like the word infertility.  It causes too much stress."  I do my best to calmly explain reality to her, but at a certain point, I just have to nod and smile. 

In the meantime, I have an amazing H and more beer on hand. 

WTAF does this mean? Like if you don't say the word it won't be real? Fuck that. *hugs*

[Sparkly]

I'm jumping in without reading again because holy fuck this weekend was busy and exhausting. I'm having a little wine and Easter candy but plan to be in bed by 9... Maybe sooner.

[Daikoku]

SheilaTheTank She believes in mind over matter, I guess. Reality is in the mind of the beholder.

[juliayadda]

I am drinking the good stuff tonight... Benelyn All in One.

First stop tomorrow, will be a walk-in clinic cuz I am not getting better.

[SheilaTheTank]

Apr 5, 2015 19:15:39 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

SheilaTheTank She believes in mind over matter, I guess. Reality is in the mind of the beholder.

I get that but its really insulting to anyone who's ever faced difficulty in their life. Like if they tried hard enough and thought positive, bad shit wouldn't happen. Even if I thought that way I'd never say that to a friend I knew was having troubles. 

[Deleted]

Think I'll have a glass of wine tonight and get caught up on some shows, like Outlander and Bates Motel. And maybe Big Bang Theory!