Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
This I will get behind since BOTB was pretty slow last I checked.
Tip: things don't "go a little better" from one page to the next. You need to take an actual break, step back, post less, lurk more, and then maybe, MAYBE, start slowly participating again when some of the angst and hurt and frustration with you has died down and you have a better idea of what this community is really like. Even so, know that there are people here who you have hurt and offended, and who probably think certain comments you've made, along with your attitude, are unforgivable, so do keep that in mind should you decide to attempt to make a come back. Someday. Not today.
Edit: for words/clarity
I'll be real...I can hold a grudge FOR-FUCKING-EVER. Unless I see someone has truly changed (like the lovely Sparkly) no amount of "Ooops, sorry" will really change my opinion.
I'm also pretty sure I wasn't ever "accidentally racist" ... I feel like that makes a difference. It really does depend on your level of post-it getting behavior in the first place, and genuine apology/effort to rectify said behavior.
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
For the record, I don't care that she is posting and TTA, my problem with it was her saying CD1 made he emotional, as if she was sad she was not pregnant this cycle. This is what I'm questioning.
Tip: things don't "go a little better" from one page to the next. You need to take an actual break, step back, post less, lurk more, and then maybe, MAYBE, start slowly participating again when some of the angst and hurt and frustration with you has died down and you have a better idea of what this community is really like. Even so, know that there are people here who you have hurt and offended, and who probably think certain comments you've made, along with your attitude, are unforgivable, so do keep that in mind should you decide to attempt to make a come back. Someday. Not today.
Edit: for words/clarity
I'll be real...I can hold a grudge FOR-FUCKING-EVER. Unless I see someone has truly changed (like the lovely Sparkly) no amount of "Ooops, sorry" will really change my opinion.
How would you like me to prove I've changed? There's not a lot I can do on the internet but apologize. But I would like to make people less ragey when I appear.
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
I don't think it was her joining while TTA that was getting the side-eye. It was all the "OMGGZZ CD1 makes me emotional this sucks guyse!!! I can't look at babies ever!!!" that was getting the mockery.
Edit: spelling
The CD1 was a part of it, but there were multiple posts and comments that questioned why she joined a site when she's TTA for awhile or mentioned that she shouldn't comeback until they are close to TTC.
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
For the record, I don't care that she is posting and TTA, my problem with it was her saying CD1 made he emotional, as if she was sad she was not pregnant this cycle. This is what I'm questioning.
Again, I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I meant my PMS makes me emotional. It also so happens I have worse PMS on CD 1. I'm sorry that I made anyone think I was trying to compare myself to what they're going through. I'm not at all.
I don't think it was her joining while TTA that was getting the side-eye. It was all the "OMGGZZ CD1 makes me emotional this sucks guyse!!! I can't look at babies ever!!!" that was getting the mockery.
Edit: spelling
The CD1 was a part of it, but there were multiple posts and comments that questioned why she joined a site when she's TTA for awhile or mentioned that she shouldn't comeback until they are close to TTC.
Right. But I still think it was more of a "we want you to go away, MAYBE come back at a different time" than actually having anything to do with her TTC timeline. Lots of people here are TTA for some reason or another. But they aren't acting like twatwaffles.
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
For the record, I don't care that she is posting and TTA, my problem with it was her saying CD1 made he emotional, as if she was sad she was not pregnant this cycle. This is what I'm questioning.
And that's totally fair. I'm TTA, so I am in the same shoes she is, and I am always glad to menstruate (I'm irrationally paranoid about getting pregnant during residency). But others were questioning why she even joined, which I think is going too far.
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
I'll be real...I can hold a grudge FOR-FUCKING-EVER. Unless I see someone has truly changed (like the lovely Sparkly) no amount of "Ooops, sorry" will really change my opinion.
I'm also pretty sure I wasn't ever "accidentally racist" ... I feel like that makes a difference. It really does depend on you're level of post-it getting behavior in the first place, and genuine apology/effort to rectify said behavior.
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
They weren't harping solely on the fact she was TTA, it was a mixture of TTA and being upset about CD1 then being sad about seeing baby stuff everywhere but joining a board about GKU. It was the weird mix of all those things.
The baby stuff + CD1 really got under people's skin since there are several ladies here who have been TTC for many, many months.
I'll be real...I can hold a grudge FOR-FUCKING-EVER. Unless I see someone has truly changed (like the lovely Sparkly) no amount of "Ooops, sorry" will really change my opinion.
How would you like me to prove I've changed? There's not a lot I can do on the internet but apologize. But I would like to make people less ragey when I appear.
I think you're dense as fuck & thrive on the negative attention. You've been told multiple times by multiple people you need to take a break, but you keep on talking. No need to fight your battle, it's a losing one. I think you very much enjoy riling up the board, otherwise you'd be gone. But by all means, keep coming back every day to the same reaction. If that's what gets you through, who am I to judge?
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
For the record, I don't care that she is posting and TTA, my problem with it was her saying CD1 made he emotional, as if she was sad she was not pregnant this cycle. This is what I'm questioning.
Again, I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I meant my PMS makes me emotional. It also so happens I have worse PMS on CD 1. I'm sorry that I made anyone think I was trying to compare myself to what they're going through. I'm not at all.
You can't change overnight. No one can. Stop forcing it.
ETA: This was supposed to be in reference to the "I don't know what I can do to show I changed post". Quoted the wrong one.
I'm also pretty sure I wasn't ever "accidentally racist" ... I feel like that makes a difference. It really does depend on you're level of post-it getting behavior in the first place, and genuine apology/effort to rectify said behavior.
Maybe we should colour code thy shit.
You mean you don't already color code your post its?
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
I'll be real...I can hold a grudge FOR-FUCKING-EVER. Unless I see someone has truly changed (like the lovely Sparkly) no amount of "Ooops, sorry" will really change my opinion.
How would you like me to prove I've changed? There's not a lot I can do on the internet but apologize. But I would like to make people less ragey when I appear.
The point you're missing is that you're not going to be able to prove you've changed over the course of a couple of pages in one thread. You got to back off for a day or so, then join back in as normal. And refrain from making comments that piss people off.
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
They weren't harping solely on the fact she was TTA, it was a mixture of TTA and being upset about CD1 then being sad about seeing baby stuff everywhere but joining a board about GKU. It was the weird mix of all those things.
The baby stuff + CD1 really got under people's skin since there are several ladies here who have been TTC for many, many months.
It was never about JUST TTA status.
And my point is that it didn't always come off across that way. As someone who is also TTA, some comments felt exclusionary. Maybe I'm being sensitive because I wish we could TTC, but it just felt a tad over the line given that there may be other posters here with similar stories who may interpret the comments in a different way. The Internet is vague.
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Can we stop harping on the fact that she joined a pregnancy/parenting site while TTA? I am in no way supporting her (I too think she's an obnoxious racist fool), but she's not the only one here with a long TTA timeline. Harping on that and mocking her for joining while she's TTA may affect other posters.
They weren't harping solely on the fact she was TTA, it was a mixture of TTA and being upset about CD1 then being sad about seeing baby stuff everywhere but joining a board about GKU. It was the weird mix of all those things.
The baby stuff + CD1 really got under people's skin since there are several ladies here who have been TTC for many, many months.
It was never about JUST TTA status.
OMG RABLISSFUL! I am so sorry for a sec I thought your were Rutherlily. It was a mind fuck...
Met in May 2011 Engaged November 2011 Married November 2013 Started TTC November 2015 Began Infertility Workup November 2016 BFP! Lucky #13 Cycle TTC Due Date: 9/5/2017
It means you are here watching everything we say. Or at least logging in on the regular to see what's going on. It's not like you get notifications on your phone or something.
They weren't harping solely on the fact she was TTA, it was a mixture of TTA and being upset about CD1 then being sad about seeing baby stuff everywhere but joining a board about GKU. It was the weird mix of all those things.
The baby stuff + CD1 really got under people's skin since there are several ladies here who have been TTC for many, many months.
It was never about JUST TTA status.
OMG RABLISSFUL! I am so sorry for a sec I thought your were Rutherlily. It was a mind fuck...
It's the dog avatars. I have to double check every time.
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