So sweet - HuffPo letter from adoptee

[theholmanherd]

m.huffpost.com/us/entry/6987012?utm_hp_ref=life-handbook

[shemarie82]

Thanks, I lost a tear or two. It is nice to read positive, when there is so much negative.

[girliegus]

I have to agree with bookworm. The sentiment expressed in the letter was well meaning and seemingly from a loving place, but it came across to me as if the author were ignoring the complex reality of adoption. I wanted to like it so much because its not often you see someone write about adoption with such a positive perspective, but those positive discussions need to be inclusive of adoption realities.

[persianmaman]

I will say on behalf of the writer/adoptee that he (she?) has an addition at the end:

Disclaimer: I am but one person with my own experience. Adoptees are human beings, so of course our feelings and experiences vary from black to white to every shade of gray. I cannot and do not speak for everyone, but will always stand up for everyone to have a chance to speak

I think it might have been better to weave it in to the letter itself, but I do appreciate the sentiment the adoptee is attempting to share. I wish it was more open about other moms and adoptive relationships. This sort of letter may scare people away from sharing their hurt. 

[lizblue]

I think this letter was a loving homage to the writer's mother, and I understand and appreciate it. But it's also true that it glosses over a lot of the complexities and realities that adoption entails.

@bookworm92, thanks for your perspective - I really appreciate it.