Advice please.
Apr 9, 2015 9:45:48 GMT -5
Post by mrsdee1982 on Apr 9, 2015 9:45:48 GMT -5
Ok, I will admit that I haven't read all the other responses, but here's my 2cents.
1) I think it is really shitty of your family (Sister included) to expect you to dampen your excitement for your baby. Yes, your sister is going through something very difficult and something that is soul crushing to her. Yes, there should be a certain level of sensitivity towards her. But, based off your posts, you've been trying to be sensitive towards that. But you should not be made to feel like you have to hide your pregnancy.
2) The fact that you aren't having a baby shower to celebrate your little one because it would upset her makes me very sad.
3) And I may get flamed for this, and even though it won't sound this way, I really do mean this in the most sensitive way possible, but they all just need to get over it and accept the fact that you are pregnant - very pregnant - and get excited for you and your very quickly approaching due date. What are they going to do once the baby is here? Expect you to hide the fact that he exists? Are you not going to be allowed to bring the baby to family functions? How long are they going to let this go on. Yes, your sister is struggling, and yes, that is awful. But it is possible to be sensitive towards someone else's pain, and mourn with them and hurt with them, but still be excited and grateful for your own blessings.
4) I would say for your own sanity and for your family relations as a whole, I would take some space from them. Let them know that while sisters pain is crushing to you as well, you cannot allow it to effect your pregnancy and your own child.
5) I will be excited for you. I will be here to squee over all baby related things with you. Get excited girl. Allow yourself to feel excitement and joy! You're about to start the biggest adventure of your life. That's a big deal and should be celebrated, so I will celebrate for you!
1) I think it is really shitty of your family (Sister included) to expect you to dampen your excitement for your baby. Yes, your sister is going through something very difficult and something that is soul crushing to her. Yes, there should be a certain level of sensitivity towards her. But, based off your posts, you've been trying to be sensitive towards that. But you should not be made to feel like you have to hide your pregnancy.
2) The fact that you aren't having a baby shower to celebrate your little one because it would upset her makes me very sad.
3) And I may get flamed for this, and even though it won't sound this way, I really do mean this in the most sensitive way possible, but they all just need to get over it and accept the fact that you are pregnant - very pregnant - and get excited for you and your very quickly approaching due date. What are they going to do once the baby is here? Expect you to hide the fact that he exists? Are you not going to be allowed to bring the baby to family functions? How long are they going to let this go on. Yes, your sister is struggling, and yes, that is awful. But it is possible to be sensitive towards someone else's pain, and mourn with them and hurt with them, but still be excited and grateful for your own blessings.
4) I would say for your own sanity and for your family relations as a whole, I would take some space from them. Let them know that while sisters pain is crushing to you as well, you cannot allow it to effect your pregnancy and your own child.
5) I will be excited for you. I will be here to squee over all baby related things with you. Get excited girl. Allow yourself to feel excitement and joy! You're about to start the biggest adventure of your life. That's a big deal and should be celebrated, so I will celebrate for you!