funny similarities

[sassyirishlass]

I occasionally look at my son's birth parents' profiles on facebook to save photos of his siblings, in case he ever asks about them, because they have never met, and for his birth father's part, he most likely never will (he was incarcerated when J was born, and although he knows about him, has never acknowledged him).  I found a photo of his bio brother's most recent birthday cake, which was covered in matchbox cars.  It seems like a pretty normal thing for a little boy to have, but my son't obsession with cars is way past normal.  It just struck me as really funny that his brother's cake could have worked 100% for him.  

For those of you who have any contact with your child's birth family, what's the most interesting thing you've found about your child's personality that matches something about their birth family?

[drl]

Minor personality things. But DD is the spitting image of her birth mom. I laugh when people say DD looks like me

[spooko]

DS isn't very much like his bio half-sister (it's complicated, but she's my baby sister now), although they both share uncanny similarities to their BM. It's like they got the opposite characteristics to make a composite of her. In any case, they both strongly share elements of her personality and every once in a while they'll get these flashes of micro expressions on their faces where it's like they ARE her. Things that can't be duplicated by observation. It's hard to explain.

I do worry that a lot of what the kids got a lot of the bad things passed on, though. Besides the ways DS sometimes has these little glimpses of her and mannerisms, the part of his personality that matches up a lot is a lot of what's gotten her into so much trouble for so many times. I'm hoping that in this case, the nurture element can override it, as she had a much different upbringing than DS will have.

[sassyirishlass]

Apr 10, 2015 6:01:57 GMT -5 spooko said:

I do worry that a lot of what the kids got a lot of the bad things passed on, though. Besides the ways DS sometimes has these little glimpses of her and mannerisms, the part of his personality that matches up a lot is a lot of what's gotten her into so much trouble for so many times. I'm hoping that in this case, the nurture element can override it, as she had a much different upbringing than DS will have.

Yea, I agree.  While it interests me to see the similarities and how nature dictates behavior and likes/dislikes, I'm really nervous about genetic predisposition to things like drug addiction and BPD.