Supports person/people...

[redlipz]

Who is going to be your supports person or people besides SO? I'm talking about through labor and/or through pushing, whether it be at home or in the hospital/birthing center.

In my other two births/labors I've had my mom, mil and husband and they all kinda just looked at me, so not much help. This time I will only have my husband and I've also asked a friend of mine to be there for the labor part so that he can massage me. And my husband so that I can lean on n hold on to him. I've had back labor with my other two so I'm expecting it again n feel that having my friend there to massage me will be great. I've done this for other woman and they loved their experience so I'm hoping to love it too.

Edit because I confused myself. Lol

[wifedeangel]

Just H, and the nurse on duty. My mom will most likely be in the room, but she prefers to stay at a respectable distance.

[redlipz]

pbubblegum that's awesome. I wish I could do that but I have to get the kids situated:/. I told my husband I didn't want visitors but he insists his parents go after baby is born.

[belle0720]

H, my mom, and my sister...assuming Mom and Sister want to be there.

[bruunk]

DH, my sister, and my mom. My mom was a labor and delivery nurse/midwife, so both DH and I want her in the room (if only to tell us to breath) and my sister will be helpful. All three are good at communicating together and can switch out as needed to help - and I can yell at all three of them without hurting their feelings My sister will be the closest one to me, should I go into labor mid day (we work together and I live 2 blocks for work) and my mom is 2.5 hours away, but this is my first so there will be PLENTY of time for her to get to us

[redlipz]

I was 19&21 when my other 2 were born n didn't really have the births I wanted so since this is my last, I'm determined to do it my way.

[nettje]

My hubby. He was my support person last time as well.

[bendherova]

Just DH. Great results the first time.

[Bluedaisy]

+1 for just DH

[tiffbot]

My H. The hospital generally has a bedside nurse for you and last time I was in labour she was definitely my person even though I'd never met her before. I focused completely on her and she kept me breathing and focusing properly. Thankful for her because H was an emotional mess haha!

[missjenniebean]

SO, DR, and whatever nurses. everyone else can wait until after delivery.

[ladysif]

Apr 9, 2015 17:14:46 GMT -5 Bluedaisy said:

+1 for just DH

Yup, this.

[laurenlou83]

Add another one for just DH!

[Deleted]

Just DH for me too. He's a great support for me and I can't imagine having anyone else there during our first labor/delivery experience.

[Deleted]

I was just about to post a poll about doulas and who is using them. I found out today that the acupuncturist/massage therapist I'm going to is also a doula. And because I am already a client of the practice, the service is ridiculously inexpensive. I had already been thinking about hiring one and decided today that we will definitely have her there for me. She just has such a calm, quiet, positive demeanor about her and whether I make it med free or not, I want that kind of presence in the room with me. So me, DH, and my doula for the whole ride, and of course the nursing staff and doctor as they come and go.

[noname83]

My husband and our doula.

The plan isn't to call our parents until after the baby is born. I don't want visitors until I've showered, and if parents are in the waiting room he's going to start guilt tripping me into letting them come in. I want some quiet bonding time.

[wormgerm]

Just my husband and the midwife. I wish we could afford a dula because I don't know how effective he will be in full blown labor.

[redlipz]

Apr 9, 2015 17:58:32 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

I was just about to post a poll about doulas and who is using them. I found out today that the acupuncturist/massage therapist I'm going to is also a doula. And because I am already a client of the practice, the service is ridiculously inexpensive. I had already been thinking about hiring one and decided today that we will definitely have her there for me. She just has such a calm, quiet, positive demeanor about her and whether I make it med free or not, I want that kind of presence in the room with me. So me, DH, and my doula for the whole ride, and of course the nursing staff and doctor as they come and go.

I totally wish I could have a doula but it's just not in my budget right now so having a massage therapist there to massage me will be awesome for me. I do this for a lot of women and even help coach them kinda like a doula but I would never call myself that since I don't have the actual doula training yet. You are so lucky that she is all those 3 in one! Good for you, I'd love to hear about your experience in a couple months.

[ladymouse]

DH and a doula. This time, my mom will be with our son.

[jcprn]

DH and a doula will be in the room. My hospital has a doula program and it's only $100 to get one. It sounds like that's a really good price compared to what some of you have said before.

[leenziepops]

Only DH for labour room. But if I'm labouring at home, my mum will come over and since she can't drive, my little sister will drive her over. My mum insisted she also be at the hospital but she won't come into the labour room. I said that's up to her if she wants to be waiting. I have a code word ready with my little sister though, if I want her to drive my mum back home instead of to the hospital form my house.

[nicolec78]

Just DH

[Widget123]

Just DH. Anyone else would drive me nuts

[sugarbean17]

My mom has been present at my other two births. But this time we will likely need her to watch the kiddos, also she hasn't been supportive of this pregnancy at all so I think having her present might make labor harder knowing she isn't happy that we decided to have a third (second for DH).

Being a doula myself I have really considered getting a doula who is trying to finish up their certification (most doulas have to attend at least 3 births for free before they can get certified) Haven't decided 100% though.

I have DH reading Penny Simpkins, "The Birth Partner", and a hypnobirthing book. He was a great support person for me the first time around so I know he will do great. Really I want someone to be there to take some pictures and get a video of the baby's first few moments.

[trixi282]

Just my H, just like with my first.
Obviously someone will have to watch J while we're at the hospital, so that will likely be my mom or IL's. I do know that depending on Nuggets medical situation, I would prefer J to be the first one to meet the new baby with just H and I there (and medical staff if needed). But I know that might not be possible if we have to go straight yo NICU. We have a lot of unknowns, but I will not have people at the hospital waiting for baby to be born.

We'll call people first and tell them when to visit after baby arrives, again, depending on the above mentioned due to our special situation.

Although without the special situation we still would wait bit before visitors met the new baby, and J would be first, so we could have a short moment as a family of 4 first.

[lc1158]

Just DH and medical staff. Those who I am closer to from work (three floors above where I will be delivering) will probably stop by briefly during the labor part for support, but our family all live far away and don't plan on having any of them in town for the birth - timing is just too unpredictable.

[mcp6286]

Just DH in the room since that's all they'll allow for a c-section. But my best friend wants to be in the waiting room during the whole thing, which I think is awesome! She's def the person I'd want there if not DH.

[tiffbot]

Apr 9, 2015 20:38:03 GMT -5 mcp6286 said:

Just DH in the room since that's all they'll allow for a c-section. But my best friend wants to be in the waiting room during the whole thing, which I think is awesome! She's def the person I'd want there if not DH.

My labour came on really fast and early and delivery went quick the first time, but before it started I told BFF I was in the hospital so she said she'd come visit me. In the time I texted her and when she showed up they had rushed me to delivery so after DS was taken down to NICU and thy let my family in the delivery room she came in with them lol! It was awesome and I wasn't really expecting to see her there after! (We had planned her bridal shower for that day/bachelorette the next and I never would have thought she'd wait around the hospital for me!)

[mrskblack11]

Just DH

[nettje]

Apr 9, 2015 22:11:25 GMT -5 @imapenguin said:

Apr 9, 2015 22:07:50 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

DH and my mom. I can't imagine going through something like labor without my mom.

Same here.

My MIL is pouting about not being included, but luckily our hospital only allows 2 support people so it's not a conversation we even need to have.

Ugh... That was my biggest fear now that we live closer to the ILs... That my MIL will want to be there. While I'm disappointed that I have to have a c-section, the one bonus is that only one support person is allowed. We'll call my ILs after LO is born and we're out of recovery.