SQS - 4/12

[tatersalad]

Apr 12, 2015 8:43:38 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

#2. I'm planning to breastfeed but this also popped into my brain at 3am. What happens to the boobs of those that choose to exclusively FF? Like do they have to do anything? I know they will stop producing, but do they even start since there hasn't been any stimulation? If they do start producing then what do they do? Because I would assume they would become engorged, no? Forgive me. My brain was literally every where last night.

From my friends that have exclusively FF, you just bind up your breasts after delivery and go through the engorgement phase while you wait for for milk/colostrum to dry up and breasts to return to their new post partum state.

[bendherova]

Apr 12, 2015 8:40:54 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

I have two this week.. So far.

#1. Upon reading May15s SQS during pregsomnia last night (they do it for sat&sun) a few ladies said their doctors were looking to their family history, in addition to any subsequent pregnancies, for labor predictions. Is that really a thing? Because if so... FML.

It's relevant, yes.  When I had DS1, the commonly accepted thought was that your labors would on average be similar to those of your mother.  Not true for me.   My mom had me at what she thought was 38w (yet I was 8.5#), and DS1 was induced at 41+2.

Also, if you have a history of pre-term labor, that's absolutely something your doc needs to know and be monitoring.  (I think you meant previous pregnancies instead of subsequent in your question?).  

[alayne926]

Apr 12, 2015 8:43:38 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

#2. I'm planning to breastfeed but this also popped into my brain at 3am. What happens to the boobs of those that choose to exclusively FF? Like do they have to do anything? I know they will stop producing, but do they even start since there hasn't been any stimulation? If they do start producing then what do they do? Because I would assume they would become engorged, no? Forgive me. My brain was literally every where last night.

It is painful for a few days, but i just wore sports bras and didn't stand let the shower water directly hit my nipples and they went down after about a week. I've heard that cold cabbage leaves will help, but I did not try it.

[carolyngrace]

Apr 12, 2015 9:00:25 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

Apr 12, 2015 8:55:34 GMT -5 bendherova said:

It's relevant, yes.  When I had DS1, the commonly accepted thought was that your labors would on average be similar to those of your mother.  Not true for me.   My mom had me at what she thought was 38w (yet I was 8.5#), and DS1 was induced at 41+2.

Also, if you have a history of pre-term labor, that's absolutely something your doc needs to know and be monitoring.  (I think you meant previous pregnancies instead of subsequent in your question?).  

Lol yes. I slept for shit last night and my brain is mush. I guess I'll start mentally preparing to have this kid need to be forced out of me after being well over due and 18+ hours of labor. That way I'll be pleasantly surprised with anything less than that.

I have the opposite problem. My mom had such quick and "easy" labors that I am trying to believe mine will be nothing like hers. So if they are I will be pleasantly surprised :-)

[silv3rlining]

Apr 12, 2015 8:43:38 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

#2. I'm planning to breastfeed but this also popped into my brain at 3am. What happens to the boobs of those that choose to exclusively FF? Like do they have to do anything? I know they will stop producing, but do they even start since there hasn't been any stimulation? If they do start producing then what do they do? Because I would assume they would become engorged, no? Forgive me. My brain was literally every where last night.

***major trigger warning loss mentioned***
One of my closest friends delivered her daughter stillborn at 38w3d. Her milk still came in. She was on percocet for the pain. Dealt with engorgement, etc. Cold cabbage leaves can help, binding can help, some express a little (by hand or pump) just to relieve pressure, also sudafed can help dry up milk and I believe there may be other meds that can help dry it up. But essentially they have pain for a few days.

[billyhorrible]

Apr 12, 2015 8:40:54 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

I have two this week.. So far.

#1. Upon reading May15s SQS during pregsomnia last night (they do it for sat&sun) a few ladies said their doctors were looking to their family history, in addition to any subsequent pregnancies, for labor predictions. Is that really a thing? Because if so... FML.

Family history has nothing to do with your labor predictions.  My brother and I were both early (me 2 weeks, him 4 weeks).  Of the two of us, I was the "long labor" with 45 minutes between her water breaking at home and my birth in the hospital.   When I told my doctor and some doctor friends I was hoping to go early and quickly because of that, they laughed.  They were right.  I had to be induced, my kid was NOT coming out, and I was at the hospital for almost 33 hours before my son was born.

Even with that history, my doctor doesn't think it has any impact on this pregnancy re:labor predictions, so I side-eye that second part about previous pregnancies too.

[nettje]

Apr 12, 2015 11:10:12 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Apr 12, 2015 8:40:54 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

I have two this week.. So far.

#1. Upon reading May15s SQS during pregsomnia last night (they do it for sat&sun) a few ladies said their doctors were looking to their family history, in addition to any subsequent pregnancies, for labor predictions. Is that really a thing? Because if so... FML.

My doctor has never asked about my family's labor history, just medical history. I really don't think it has any affect on your own labor. Your own prior labors can possibly affect how this one will go, but its not always the case.

This is my doc as well. We looked at family history for diabetes and for any genetic disorders but that was it. And then we discussed how my labour with DD could influence how this labour went but because every baby and pregnancy is different, it could mean that this labour would be different.

[tiffbot]

I've never been asked about my mom's labour. I don't really know how mine went with her, but I know my sister's was super easy and fast, and my brother's had complications that ended in an emergency c section. So, even if it was true, that doesn't narrow anything down for me.

[honeybunches101]

My doctor asked about my mom's labors but said they are only looking for history of precipitous labors - less than 3 hours start to finish. She said that can be hereditary and it's good to know to warn the mom to head to the hospital ASAP after labor starts just in case.

[ladymouse]

One of my closest friends' labors in a nutshell:
1. 12 hours on due date
2. 3 days of labor, born 16 days past due (UK - later cut off date)
3. Under one hour of labor, slightly before due date (at that point, she didn't believe in sharing due dates.)

[leenziepops]

Apr 12, 2015 8:40:54 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

I have two this week.. So far.

#1. Upon reading May15s SQS during pregsomnia last night (they do it for sat&sun) a few ladies said their doctors were looking to their family history, in addition to any subsequent pregnancies, for labor predictions. Is that really a thing? Because if so... FML.

I'm quietly hoping this is the case although I really think each woman and her pregnancy is so different. BUT it would really work in my favour if this was true. I swear women in my family are made to pop out babies. I don't want to be an exception.

[leenziepops]

Mine is inspired from TD SS who is checking her own cervix for dilation. So.... can everyone do this?? I don't think I could even reach. Not that I'm ever planning on checking myself but how on earth could you do this on your own? Confused about things down there now.

[carolyngrace]

budders, Mine is not freaked out by it (well, maybe a little) but he is not patient enough to wait and feel it either. Baby will be going crazy and I put his hand there, and then baby stops. He seriously gives up within 10 seconds. I feel like he's missing out because I love all the big movements lately, but what can you do?

[missjenniebean]

we were never asked that, just medical history. I have heard the theory, if so it will not be the one I am hoping for.

[missjenniebean]

I often wonder who still has their normal belly button and who has lost it. I still have mine but I may lose in the next couple weeks!

[erbear]

Apr 12, 2015 20:04:00 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

I often wonder who still has their normal belly button and who has lost it. I still have mine but I may lose in the next couple weeks!

Mine's still there, but with how she's been hanging out around there, I'm not sure how long it will be!

[dogmama22]

budders DH isn't refusing when I ask, but he definitely freaks out a little every time he does. He also won't try to feel on his own and always says how weird it is. The bump gets a little kiss before he leaves everyday though, so that helps.

missjenniebean I feel like mine popped so long ago! It drives me crazy because it pokes out from my clothes and half the time, my nipples poke out as well, so I just feel ridiculous.

[Bluedaisy]

I still have my belly button but I'm heavier so I don't think it will ever pop. I feel like I just look fatter and still don't feel like I look pregnant. Other people say I have a bump but I just see my jelly rolls.

[tiffbot]

Apr 12, 2015 20:04:00 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

I often wonder who still has their normal belly button and who has lost it. I still have mine but I may lose in the next couple weeks!

With my first it never popped and just got flat.

This time, it popped really early (and freaked H out, he thinks it hurts for some reason lol!) and while it's still kind of out it's almost closing in on flattening out again!

[laurenlou83]

I still have my normal belly button so far. I keep waiting for it to become an outie, but it just isn't happening!
DH gets impatient waiting to feel the kicks, too. This little guy stops whenever he goes to feel for them... After 20seconds DH is like 'Oh well!'.

[Deleted]

budders my husband wouldn't feel him until a month ago. I got upset about it once but he told me he was worried that once he did feel LO kick he wouldn't be able to be intimate with me after since it would be all he could think about so he was trying to hold out. Ha! Now he does try to feel him occasionally and doesn't totally freak when he sees my bump move.. But it certainly isn't every day.

[bendherova]

Apr 12, 2015 20:04:00 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

I often wonder who still has their normal belly button and who has lost it. I still have mine but I may lose in the next couple weeks!

belly button never popped with DS1, it appears I won't be as fortunate this time. I'm still an innie for now!!

[Deleted]

Apr 12, 2015 21:28:32 GMT -5 budders said:

Apr 12, 2015 21:03:27 GMT -5 @ktpatter said:

budders my husband wouldn't feel him until a month ago. I got upset about it once but he told me he was worried that once he did feel LO kick he wouldn't be able to be intimate with me after since it would be all he could think about so he was trying to hold out. Ha! Now he does try to feel him occasionally and doesn't totally freak when he sees my bump move.. But it certainly isn't every day.

It's funny, because this is the reasoning H gave recently, too. I had suggested some sexy time, and then the baby started moving a lot. When I told him to feel, he said that it totally killed his arousal to think about the baby moving around in there while we're having sex, so he didn't want to feel it.
We've also had a lot of conversations about what it feels like to have a person moving around inside of my body, and the general idea of growing a living being inside of a person. I think he's overthinking all of it, but I like that he's at least interested, even if he won't physically get involved.

I completely agree that as long as he is interested that's all you can ask for as it has to be so weird for them not being able to experience it the same way we do. I'm honestly loving having all of the special little moments I'm having with LO right now so I say just embrace that it gets to be just you and baby right now with all the feels. Once they are here, we have to share!

[ThePalindromicOne]

Do you wear nursing bras under nursing tanks? Or do nursing tanks service as your under garment?

And while I'm at it, does anyone have a brand of nursing bras or nursing tanks that they really like (that hold both nursing pads well) TIA!

[bendherova]

I just wore tanks. I'm a 34C prepreg, right now I'm in a 36C, only to get bigger!!

Fave brands:

glamour mom for tanks bc they sell regular and long torso options, and I need the length!

and bravado for bras.


I do have a couple of target tanks but they are very uncomfortable in comparison.

[stinybean]

Apr 12, 2015 19:17:56 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

budders, Mine is not freaked out by it (well, maybe a little) but he is not patient enough to wait and feel it either. Baby will be going crazy and I put his hand there, and then baby stops. He seriously gives up within 10 seconds. I feel like he's missing out because I love all the big movements lately, but what can you do?

+1

[ThePalindromicOne]

Apr 12, 2015 22:43:57 GMT -5 bendherova said:

I just wore tanks. I'm a 34C prepreg, right now I'm in a 36C, only to get bigger!!

Fave brands:

glamour mom for tanks bc they sell regular and long torso options, and I need the length!

and bravado for bras.


I do have a couple of target tanks but they are very uncomfortable in comparison.

Thank you!  I'll look at these brands... I feel like I need to have some ready post baby but obviously don't know how they might change, so maybe 1 size up?

[wegrowsheep]

Apr 12, 2015 22:49:53 GMT -5 ThePalindromicOne said:

Apr 12, 2015 22:43:57 GMT -5 bendherova said:

I just wore tanks. I'm a 34C prepreg, right now I'm in a 36C, only to get bigger!!

Fave brands:

glamour mom for tanks bc they sell regular and long torso options, and I need the length!

and bravado for bras.


I do have a couple of target tanks but they are very uncomfortable in comparison.

Thank you!  I'll look at these brands... I feel like I need to have some ready post baby but obviously don't know how they might change, so maybe 1 size up?

+1 for bravado bras and tanks. As far as sizes go, after the first week I'm usually right where I am right now, about a size up from prepregnancy. But the first week, well, my husband still laughs about when my milk came in for the first time. I was SOBBING because my boobs were as big as DD's head. So when DS was born, I wore nursing pj tops for 3 days...

[Widget123]

ThePalindromicOne I went up from a C to a D, and wear size large nursing tanks (I've been wearing them during this pregnancy too). Motherhood's tanks and Gillian & O''Malley from Target were good enough for me. I bought 2 different kinds of nursing bras for DD and hated them. I just preferred to wear a wireless regular bra from VS instead but said bra wouldn't be necessary for me under a tank.

[Widget123]

Another note, some people claim underwire is bad for breastmilk production so I personally avoided it, but many nursing bras have underwire and if you are really large chested I assume you wouldn't be able to survive without underwire.