~* WEEKLY GOAL SETTING 4/13/15 *~

[icequeen]

Hi y'all!

Hope you had a good weekend and moved forward with the goals you set last week or are still pursuing. Please first briefly remind us what your goals were for the previous week and let us know how you feel you did. As much or as little info is up to you. Lastly, please list any new goals you may have or state that you would like to continue working on the same goals from previous weeks if they have not been accomplished yet, or are long term goals. The format is:

Goal:
Short or long term?:
Why is it important?:
How am I going to accomplish it?:

Thank you! Good luck, y'all. Keeping y'all in my thoughts.

[icequeen]

This past week was OK. My goals were to eat a minimum of a 200 calorie breakfast of carbs and fruit, have one easy day of exercise with 5 miles running and 10 min yoga, and to weigh once a week.

I was able to eat the 200 calorie breakfast only one day this week. In fact, I started skipping breakfast again because I'm just not hungry. It's a side effect of my meds and I really don't want to stuff myself when I'm feeling full already because it will trigger me to throw up. I'm thinking of drinking a shake or juice or having something really small but nutrient dense that won't fill me up.

I was able to do the one easy exercise day and weigh only once a week.

Goal 1: Add a half a cup of 2% milk with coffee in the morning
Short or long term?: Short
Why is it important?: It will add calories to my breakfast.
How am I going to accomplish it?: Just pour it in and I know I can't resist coffee. Ha.

Goal 2: Do not weigh this week.
Short or long term?: Long term (attempting to weigh twice a month)
Why is it important?: The numbers rule my mood, eating, and exercise behaviors.
How am I going to accomplish it?: Same way as always. Willpower.

Goal 3: Get rid of all my "skinny" clothes and donate them.
Short of long term?: Long
Why is it important?: I hold on to these clothes because they fit me when I was at a low weight and I want to be sure that I stay low enough so they are still fitted or baggier on me. They remind me of my past and I need to move forward.
How am I going to accomplish it?: On Friday I will get a bunch of shopping bags and go through my whole closet and take a trip to Salvation Army or another charity center on Saturday.

[yoshijo28]

icequeen you have 2 very difficult goals! I don't know if I could ever do #2. Your goals are definitely admirable. #3 is a big one too. The way my pants fit really affect my mood for the day and I don't know if I could do that either. I hope it makes you feel like you can finally be free of this. Your goals are ambitious and you are continuing to meet them. It is great to see you on such a happy path.

@sluttybigb00bz sometimes when I'm at the doctor I get intimidated at the last minute and don't speak up or ask questions too. Making a list is a great idea. I started doing it and it's really helped because I lose my thoughts when I get anxious. Good luck with the running, I wish I could do a 10k! It's going to feel amazing when you do it.

Last week's goal: Eat 2 60 calorie chocolates. I was able to eat 1.5 but I'm counting this as a win because I actually tried. I wouldn't have done it if not for this thread, so thanks

Last week's goal: Focus during my 3 webinars at work. I did well at this, I made sure I had coffee and some protein bar before each one. They were productive and I'm happy I attended.

I'm taking a break from ED goals because I'm not doing too well in that area and know I won't really try to do it

New Goal #1 Make a doctor's appointment (not too sure about this one)
Long term or short term: short term
Why is it important: I'm concerned that I've gotten to a low enough weight where it may affect my health. I know I don't feel great a lot but I'm not sure if it's actually affected anything important. I'm very hesitant to go because it's embarrassing that they will weigh me and ask what I'm doing to weigh this. But enough people are urging me to do it that I just might.
How am I going to accomplish it: pick up the damn phone and call..

New Goal #2 Clean up around the house
Long term or short term: short term
Why is it important: I've just been anxious and not feeling like doing too much. I get overwhelmed/ have no motivation and haven't really cleaned in awhile (thankfully my DH has been but I want to help too)
How am I going to do it: Start with dusting since MH doesn't usually do that.

[Deleted]

Hi all! I'm going to try to participate in these. It's motivating to see each of your impressive goals!

Goal: Figure out which insurance plan we're going to join through DH's new job.
Short- term
Why it's important: I need to find a therapist in our new network.
How I'm going to accomplish it: set up a time to go over the plans with DH.

I'll start small.

[bluerainfire]

ah fuck- everything just got erased after I typed them out! errr

[icequeen]

@sluttybigb00bz, I really hope the new RE makes you feel comfortable enough to voice your thoughts and the list of questions and discussion points is a great idea. Don't forget to also inquire about their therapist for extra support. I wish we had that here. The run/walk goal is very reasonable and if you feel like you will back out of the 10K you might want to sign up for a group training class so you can be accountable with a bunch of other people. Sometimes gyms and running stores have these programs.
yoshijo28, you did AMAZING this week! I'm so proud of you! I know how hard the chocolates were for you so I give you major credit for that. Keep up the awesome work! I know you aren't giving up.
@rocknrollfriend, I love your goal. It's not too small at all. It's a very important goal that will affect your health and financial situation so you can't rush it!

[juliayadda]

Hi all

I didn't do my goals last week, as my goal was to stop being sick!
I still have a bit of lingering cough but everything else is back to normal!

Goal 1:

Goal: Maintain open and communicative relationship with my co-workers.

Short or long term?: Long term. I am in it for the long haul at work so this is important.

Why is it important?: I am known as the "go to" person for all things technical and job related at work and this is giving me a bit of a big head. I am trying to stay grounded and not arrogant. Sometimes when I am asked a question my mind goes to "HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW THIS!" and when I find an error I am like seriously can't you people do anything right!! But here is the kicker: they are human, they know things I dont know, and I make mistakes too.

How am I going to accomplish it?: Change the way I am reacting to these situations. I want to be a better mentor. Ask people what they suspect the solution is before telling them, letting them fix the problem instead of doing it for them, and take a moment to think and mellow before interacting with a person. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY NOT SNAP AT MY CUBICLE MATE! #HEDRIVESMENUTS! but he is a good guy and I need to cut him some slack.

Goal 2

Goal: Complete the C25K training without deviation.

Short or long term?: Short 9 week program

Why is it important?: 1. overall health improvement, prevent injury, and to finish something.

How am I going to accomplish it?: One week at a time. I have done this before, and I always end up pushing myself too early and burning out. I want to make an effort to make this running part of my weekly life. Ie. Lifestyle change.

[Deleted]

icequeen, your goals sound great! You seem to really be doing well! I'm going through my clothes this week as well. I know it is a different situation, but from having my twins 2 years ago I have kept a lot of clothes in *hopes* to fit into them. I've come to the conclusion that I just won't fit in them, and I'm trying to be ok with it. It is incredibly hard to think "I'll never fit in them again", but I know your situation is much more difficult. So I think you are brave and doing great!

juliayadda, and @sluttybigb00bz, I love running! I used to run a lot before I had my kids, and then I just stopped. I went a little extreme and decided I wanted to train for a marathon a few months after having my boys. I had never run anything farther then a 5k before this lol! It was incredibly difficult but by far my proudest moment! Now I'm back to running, but I am doing it ass backwards. I want to do a couple of 5km, 10km, maybe a half marathon, and then maybe in a year try a marathon again. I find it incredibly rewarding! I think running is a great way to be healthy! I definitely think you both will be able to complete your distances!

@rocknrollfriend, I hope you get to find a therapist! FX for you!

yoshijo28, I'm sorry to hear about your weight. I know it must be hard making the doctors appointment, but I hope you find the strength to do so. I think it's ok that you are focusing on some other goals for the week. I find that I have a hard time trying to put all of my focus on completing a goal if it pertains to my emotions/anxiety. If I try to focus on a few other goals, sometimes I forget about my anxiety, and I am able to complete a goal without really realizing it. Hopefully that makes sense. ::hugs::

[Deleted]

Last weeks Goals:
Goal #1- EXERCISE AND EAT HEALTHY!!!
Goal #2- Try not to obsess about TTC!

Both are going well! I've started putting my kids in the jogging stroller, and me and my husband are running together as a family. It's actually brought us a lot closer! My kids think we are incredible for running and they are now talking about running like "momma and daddy". Makes us both feel good so trying to keep up with our healthy goals is really affecting our family in a positive way!

This week
Goal #1- cut back on electronics during weekends. Now that the nice weather is here, I am trying to keep my cell phone, computer, television off or out of site. I find myself sitting on my phone playing Candy Crush, checking facebook etc. I should be spending more time with my kids. They are not into television much, usually right before bed they are allowed to watch some. I just want to get the most out of our family, so we are really trying to limit our electronics.

Goal #2- This week starts my obsession/anxiety with TTC. I am going to stick to my usual routines with OPK, temping/charting and try not to stress. I think it's important to realize I am doing what I can, and I need to be more patient. In order to distract myself, I am attempting to redecorate my kids bedroom. I'm thinking of doing it in a vintage baseball theme. Pictures of Babe Ruth, Mickey Mantel, old stadiums etc. I think it will all come together nicely! This is more of a month long goal, but I'm excited to see how it turns out!

[RedDDD]

Joining in on the fun

Goal: Stay positive and calm as we head out on our second airplane trip with both toddlers to visit my new nephew. and try not to let my bat shit crazy SIL send me over the edge

Short or long term?: Short term....just keep my cool

Why is it important?: cuz getting all stressed out of other peoples crap is unproductive

How am I going to accomplish it?: deep breathing, be flexible when things go wrong (cuz its an airport so there are bound to be issues), remain the voice of happy when DH starts to lose his shit

good lord this is going to be a tough one

[booksntea]

Hi guys, last week I said no cigarettes for the rest of the week. And I made it, though I posted my goal late and it wasn't a full week.
Goal: no more daily cigarette this week
Short or long term?: both
Why is it important?: I think cigarettes are bad for me mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
How am I going to accomplish it?: I am going to meditate, drink tea , and have a lollipop instead.

[yoshijo28]

booksntea YAY!!! Amazing job
@erin2021 that's awesome your making fitness a part of your family and can have fun while you do it. Good luck with the unplugging goal! I had a similar goal a few weeks ago and it was nice to not have my phone or iPad in front of me for a certain amount of time (I started way slower and did just an hour at a time. Ha)

[blush]

I meant to post this the other day but here it is late.

Apr 13, 2015 12:02:59 GMT -5 icequeen said:

I am trying to eat healthier and make better food choices. As well I am trying to be more active. I am purosely not starting to exercise yet because I want to take things really slowly. I want to be at a healthier weight by somtime in July.

Goal: I want to drink 4 litres of water a day, eat veggies at every meal and get outside every day.

Short or long term?: I guess it is both. I want to start this week but comtinue on. I guess the goals are small but 

Why is it important?: It will help me achieve a healthier lifestyle.

How am I going to accomplish it?: Reminders on my phone, tracking.

[icequeen]

juliayadda, I totally get your impatience with CW's. I am like that all the time and MH likes to tease me that that is why I have such a hard time getting along with everyone at work (I always got in the middle of squabbles. He's partially, right ) What helps me is thinking about how sometimes I make mistakes too and that I was once in their position. The only time you can really fault them or get angry is when they are obviously just not trying.
@erin2021, your family time jogging made me squeeee with happiness. How awesome y'all were able to have fun together. Your twins are the cutest. I think the projects you've come up with during FW time are great distractions.
RedDDD, FX for a successful trip! Don't expect too much out of yourself and just try to go with the flow.
booksntea, great job with quitting the cigs! You are making huge steps and I know it's so hard at first but the reward will be so great in the long run.
blush, you should try salads, too. You can make them really healthy and they are filling. I love salad so much. I'm sure there are lots of recipes online.