Post by silv3rlining on Apr 14, 2015 20:13:11 GMT -5
We hadn't really discussed a gap before having kids. When I had DS I wanted to nurse him at least a year and didn't want to nurse while pregnant. So we decided we'd start trying around his 1st bday. If baby girl is on time they'll be 22.5 months apart. We aren't sure if we're two and thru or not. If we have more it would likely be a small gap as well as DH is 40 already and I'd prefer not to have kids after I'm 30 (due to some of my own medical stuff).
mrskblack11, so, I love sports, and when I saw your post the first thing I thought would be really cool if you worked for something to do with the Olympics, lol!
Post by ThePalindromicOne on Apr 14, 2015 21:59:55 GMT -5
Well it all really depends on how long it takes me and hubs to remember how to have sex....
In seriousness, we haven't really discussed it too much. Sometimes I think "Keep em coming" and other times I think that's a bad idea. I have no idea really.
I will say I love how me and my sisters are spaced out. Almost 2 years between the first two, then another almost 4 years, then just over 2 years...
Post by Girlymama79 on Apr 14, 2015 22:38:26 GMT -5
Dd1 and dd2 are 2.5 years apart. I think it's great. They play awesome together. But I don't have anything to compare it to. This LO and dd2 will be 4.5 years apart. That seems like a lot to me. We are hoping to get KU again ASAP.
Post by wegrowsheep on Apr 14, 2015 23:35:05 GMT -5
DD is 22 months older than DS. DS will be 4 three days before my due date. As much as this was surprise pregnancy, I'm glad it didn't happen earlier. I told myself after DS was born that I didn't want another one til he was potty trained, and then only maybe. He finally got it together about 6 months ago, lol.
We struggled with infertility with our first pregnancy and this one we happened to not have any fertility issues. For this reason we never had the luxury to ' plan ' the spacing of DS and DD. It just was never something on our minds because it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place.
They'll be 2.5 years apart (with a possible adoption in the not-very-planned future). I would have preferred longer with just DS, especially since he's just barely showing an interest in potty-training, and I don't want him being potty trained then regressing immediately due to a baby sibling (and I also don't want 2 in diapers). DH thinks the spacing is optimal, because he and his siblings were all 2-2.5 years apart.
ETA: We initially planned to try for #2 when #1 was potty-training, but decided that we didn't want to put it off just for that one issue. 9 months is a long time in toddler-time, and there was no telling when he'd start or how long it'd take me to get pregnant.
Post by caseyathebat on Apr 15, 2015 0:16:30 GMT -5
My son and this little guy will be 8 years and 4 months apart. I had my son at 20 and wasn't ready till now to have another. I kinda like it that they are so far apart. My son is so excited to be a big brother and I don't know if I personally handle 2 little ones at one time.
We're not really sure when/if we will try for a second. With daycare costs, I'm not sure that we could afford to have a second before our first is at least in preschool. I also know that timing is almost impossible to plan, so we intend to see how things go with the first and play it by ear. We are definitely not having more than two, though.
Totally agree! I can't even think about another one yet. I know that with daycare costs, if we had a second before the first was in kindergarten, I would have to quit my job. I also just found out that as a condition of my paid maternity leave, I will be obligated to stay with the company for 2 more years. So that takes trying again right away off the table for us. DH and I will be 35 and 32, respectively when this LO is born, so we won't want to wait TOO long, either.
I always assumed I would have two, but I also have a lot of friends who have said lately "this one came out perfect, so we're good," which I also like the idea of.
ETA: I don't know how effing old I am, and had to change it. AWESOME
Well, in an ideal world there would have been a second child about 2 years after DS1 was born. But, as it turns out, my world was less than ideal and there will be an 8 year gap. I'm not thrilled with that but it is what it is. Our intentions are to make a serious, concerted effort to encourage sibling interaction, support, and bonding as DS1 gets older, despite the age difference. I'm 8, 10, 11 years younger than my brothers and that wasn't done by my parents. They just sort of raised me as an only child while the boys had a separate life of their own, as a group. Fortunately they oldest brother made the effort on his own so we are now close as adults. Whereas the other two, I never talk to.
ETA: There is a part of me that really hoped both embryos would stick so that this one would have had a sibling the same age, since there is such a big gap since DS1, but it is what it is.
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