Meltdowns?

[appleoatmeal]

Hello – for those still around these parts, wondering if anyone has thoughts on dealing with meltdowns as our LOs get older? I have no idea when "discipline" (for lack of a better word) starts – for now, we’re doing the strong verbal “dangerous” when she’s getting into something that could hurt her (outlets, stairs, etc), and the distraction method for everything else. She’s on to us, though, and has recently been doing some stomping and crying if something is taken away or she gets frustrated before we can distract her attention away. I know that right now its her way to communicate since she doesn’t have the words, yet. I’m interested in suggestions/resources so I can read up on this next (fun) phase. TIA!

[innanni]

There was a thread in the private board today about discipline. To sum up it sounds like you are doing everything right now that you should be discipline wise. Time outs are not in yet.

Also, this is a very challenging stage to deal with. We all feel a little overwhelmed with how to manage theses meltdowns, or hitting/biting if you're getting any of that.

No word yet on anything for what is to come, but if there are any book, website recs I will pass them along.

[appleoatmeal]

Thanks innanni, it really helps to know that many of you are feeling the same way - it is definitely overwhelming at times. We've seen a little hitting, which we're trying to curb, and she'll bite at a toy if she's getting frustrated with it, but no biting us so far...

Definitely seems like a challenging phase. We have relatives (mostly grandparents) watching her while we work, so I want to make sure what whatever tools we put in place are consistent and used by all of us, which adds another layer to this all!

Thanks for the response, I really appreciate it.

[MissDemeanor]

I googled a few things, to find some articles that made me feel a bit better. Try 'positive discipline' or even 'discipline for a one year old'. I found some articles that really helped me see what different view points are out there, what I'm comfortable with, what is appropriate for this age, etc. As always, there's also a lot of miss informed crap out there.

I also just ordered Happiest Toddler on the Block. I found the baby version helpful, so I thought I'd give the toddler one a read.

[meskiier]

Thank you for bringing this up. The last two weeks or so my DD has been having little tantrums if she doesn't get her way. I've been looking online but I would also appreciate any books or links that others hVe found. MissDemeanor I'm going to check that book out. Thanks.

[appleoatmeal]

Didn't know there was a Happiest Toddler on the Block - I did find HBotB helpful, so I'll definitely check it out. Thank you!