Bad Night... Venting

[lalamomma]

Left the grocery last night feeling really terrible (Braxton hicks, back pain and hip pain) and came home to my mom's. My mom told me to go inside and lay down she and my step dad would get the stuff from the car.
I l rested for about an hour. Suddenly we get a knock on the front door. The neighbor saw someone get in my car, yelled at them and they took off in the car and one ran on foot.
They took my purse but not my wallet as I grabbed it before I came inside.
Mom and step dad didn't lock my car before coming inside and I didn't think to ask. I figured I would go out before bed and grab my purse.
Though they didn't get my wallet they did get my check book. I called my bank to cancel those checks, and put a freeze on our credit and all that already to be safe. The purse was a $370 Michael Kors bag. My favorite one. Ugh. Oh and we did call the police and they came out.
I called DH to tell him and he was so angry at me and just really didn't help except to tell me I'm irresponsible and generally over react. I think I'm as upset with him as I am about the situation. I really didn't need him to yell at me.
I finally went to sleep at 1 am and then woke at 4:45 after having a dream about someone kidnapping my mother because they were angry.
Sorry for the long AW post I just feel like crap, can't sleep and needed to vent. I'm sure it seems petty but now I'm going to worry about going outside at night here too.

*H and I are not separated just in between a transition with military stuff so I am living with my mom for a few months while he is away. Between all that and having a new baby during that time I'm overwhelmed as it is... Didn't need this too

[leenziepops]

I'm so sorry. What a shitty thing to happen! Hopefully you can get everything back. Or get covered by insurance.

[lalamomma]

Thankfully it was JUST the handbag. Which isn't worth enough to meet the deductible. They didn't have time to get anything else. I doubt I see it again. Thanks for being understanding. I feel like an idiot for not taking the 2 seconds to carry it in.

[leenziepops]

Ohhh I was wondering why one went on foot. Haha okay phew just the handbag and not the car as well. Although I would be upset over losing my MK bag. You were feeling all crappy and needed to lie down. Besides, we're all freaking geniuses in hindsight so don't be too hard on yourself. I've done worse. I left my car door completely open for an entire night! So tell your DH that!

[lalamomma]

LOL totally something I would do. I'm forgetful so pregnancy brain has not helped! He will probably pretend like he didn't get all crappy to avoid apologizing because he sucks in situations like this. He isn't perfect either so I'm not beating myself up over his attitude. I'm just annoyed by it.

[lalamomma]

Yeah I'm angry about the purse. Ugly cried. Literally a dreamy taupe leather that went with everything. No way I'm replacing it either with LO on the way.

[lalamomma]

I did get some joy from the fact these thieves probably were all excited about the contents of the purse to find a check book that won't work, crayons, stupid receipts and lip gloss.
My fav lip gloss and stuff but nothing they want LOL.

[lalamomma]

The officer said he was going to drive around and would keep an eye out in case they tossed it when they realized it was without cash and to suggested to watch craigslist etc. he was actually really kind and helpful. He had no idea what a Michael kors purse was and asked if you spell it like the beer which made me laugh.
I realize it could have been so much worse so I am greatful but still so frustrated and anxious.

[kemdupuis]

I am so, so sorry. I hope that your DH comes to his senses and apologizes- no need to make you feel worse than youre already feeling. And I hope the police do their job and get your stuff back. Tomorrow has to be a better day!

[Widget123]

I'm sorry it happened and I am glad the neighbor noticed it right away so you could cancel the checks, etc. before more damage was done; it definitely could have been a lot worse.

Honestly, I think my DH would have reacted the same way yours did. It is a scary thing when your personal finances could be impacted (although since you caught it you should be fine) and he was probably frustrated that he was away instead of being there to handle or prevent the situation himself. Hopefully both of you can just forget about it and move on.

[lalamomma]

Thanks gals! I was able to get a little more slee thankfully.
Widget123, thankfully DH and I are neither one grudge holders. Some time to pout/think usually is it. Rarely do we last upset more than 5 minutes in person. But when he is gone it's harder I think. Communication is hard enough distance doesn't help.

[laurenlou83]

I'm so sorry for what happened and the loss of what sounds like an amazing MK bag!

My DH would have reacted the same way initially probably, but like you, we tend to move on from things after a few minutes and a cooling off period. I'm sure it's hard with him being away, too. Hang in there!

[turtletyme]

That SUCKS! Glad that you are ok/safe and that's all they got away with... but still I know what a terrible feeling that is. Hugs!

[billyhorrible]

Don't beat yourself up - this seems like one of those fluke unexpected things that happen. I'm sure many of us have left the car unlocked, or Windows down, especially at our homes. I mean, yesterday I had to run into the supermarket and I locked the car, but left my purse inside (just took my wallet). This was just bad luck.

[alayne926]

I am so sorry!  Hopefully you and DH can talk today and resolve things.  ((((HUGS))))

[mrskblack11]

Sorry this happened to you! Glad to hear the purse was the only thing taken. It is unnerving when stuff like this happens.

[txngrl31]

Girl, I'm sorry that happened to you! *hugs*

[tiffbot]

I'm so sorry!

[lalamomma]

I feel like I'm writing a bad country song LOL My daughter broke her piggy bank on accident this morning trying to put a "treasure" she found in it (A quarter I put out for her) and she was sobbing. While trying to console her I realized the dog had been outside much longer than normal and when I checked I realized she escaped out of the fence and had to go look for her. I did find her but for goodness sake! I think thats enough drama for me for awhile LOL.

Thanks for being so kind gals! The understanding is helpful for me not feeling like such an idiot. LOL I will have to be more careful now.

[veggiemo]

I'm so sorry! Like others have said, yes it could have been worse, but it always feels like such shit when your personal things are violated like that. You work hard for your stuff and some low life just thinks they can come help themselves. F them.

My husband would have reacted the same way. When something terrible goes wrong, sometimes it's natural instinct for them to find someone to blame and it's usually us. Hang in there. Each day that passes will get easier and will be less upsetting.

[wormgerm]

Dang girl you've been through the wringer in the past 24 hours. Hope you get a reset soon. This will be something you laugh about some day. Or at least the warning you'll give your kiddos about protecting their valuables because "when I was pregnant with X someone went and stole my purse..."

[belle0720]

I am so sorry! What a bunch of jerks! I'm glad you were not harmed though. I hope your H comes around and realizes he overreacted and it's not your fault. Plus, at 7+ months pregnant no one should scold you for anything--it was an easy oversight to leave your purse in the car and idk about you but I am especially forgetful these days and blame it on baby brain.

I hope that today goes better for you. ((hugs))

[shinytoys]

Yeah, that's not cool at all he was upset at you.  I'm pretty sure you felt awful enough.  

Hugs.  I am sorry that happened to you. 

[bruunk]

Ugh what a crappy couple of hours I hope the week turns around!!

[lalamomma]

I took DD to get a new piggy bank and she is so happy. While we were shopping she told me she loves me and asked if she could hold me for a minute. Sometimes the way she is is the sweetest thing and no purse is worth losing sight of that. So we are going to enjoy our day and put in perspective what's really important.
DH Was much kinder this morning... I understood why he was upset I just wish he would handle things differently sometimes. He mistakes my calm manner for not being upset... When really it's just my way of trying not to freak out. We just all handle stress differently.

[baileybaileybne]

Ugh I'm sorry. It feels bad enough but to get a bad reaction from DH is the boot in the ribs huh? Fingers crossed the bag might turn up nearby like the police said? The main thing is you weren't at risk and I hope you feel better soon.