Post by leenziepops on Apr 15, 2015 16:20:06 GMT -5
Loving the contributions to this thread. So nice when I read about supportive DHs. All your experiences is giving me a better idea of all the things to expect. Although I dreamt last night that I was BF and my nipples kept falling off and new ones kept growing. I had about 8 nipples on my bed side. Wtf brain!
Post by theBeeMama on Apr 15, 2015 17:47:45 GMT -5
Since I EBF there wasn't much dh could do to help out. Once DS was old enough to take a bottle he refused, even pumped milk (always been a smarty-pants!) and then I would get sooo engorged if I went too long without nursing or pumping, so I wouldn't have slept well even if H was getting up with DS. (Similar to a lot of other mamas responding on here!)
But lucky for me I only had to work two days a week and it was in the afternoons, so I could sleep off and on all day when the baby slept if I needed to. Because when they're teeny they nap so much, I would alternate... One daytime sleep cycle I would do a chore around the house, then the next (two--lol) I'd nap with him!! So I never actually felt super exhausted. It was more just adjusting to such a strange schedule.
This time around though, I have NO idea how I'll cope with a toddler wanting my every waking moment of attention during the day. Lol it's about to get real, I can tell. I'm just hanging on for dear life.
Since I EBF there wasn't much dh could do to help out. Once DS was old enough to take a bottle he refused, even pumped milk (always been a smarty-pants!) and then I would get sooo engorged if I went too long without nursing or pumping, so I wouldn't have slept well even if H was getting up with DS. (Similar to a lot of other mamas responding on here!)
But lucky for me I only had to work two days a week and it was in the afternoons, so I could sleep off and on all day when the baby slept if I needed to. Because when they're teeny they nap so much, I would alternate... One daytime sleep cycle I would do a chore around the house, then the next (two--lol) I'd nap with him!! So I never actually felt super exhausted. It was more just adjusting to such a strange schedule.
This time around though, I have NO idea how I'll cope with a toddler wanting my every waking moment of attention during the day. Lol it's about to get real, I can tell. I'm just hanging on for dear life.
Confession time: Adjusting to having 2 (DD was 22 months) was shitty for me. Worse than being a brand new mom. However, God bless Curious George, because that idiot monkey was the coolest thing in DD's world, and I may have passed out while nursing a few times while she indulged.
Post by theBeeMama on Apr 15, 2015 20:40:22 GMT -5
Lol! Thank you wegrowsheep for the honesty!! I am super terrified of having two kids. It's really stared to hit me how difficult it will be, more so than just adjusting to one, as you said.
DS is currently obsessed with Daniel Tiger... Thanking God already for unending episodes on Netflix because I have a feeling they'll save my life.
Post by ThePalindromicOne on Apr 15, 2015 23:17:14 GMT -5
I mentioned this to a couple other friends of mine...I think me and hubs will share responsibilities through the night to establish a good co-parenting routine, despite who is working.
Honestly, my hubs is the lightest sleeper ever, so he's going to be awake anyways (whether it's when baby is in the room with us or in the nursery) so he might as well play equal-ish role for MOTN responsibilities
With DS we initially planned that I would nurse L before bedtime and then DH would do any wake ups until midnight and then I'd do any been 12-6. We realized that didn't really make sense since I'd have to pump any time DS got a bottle (so my body knew to produce how much DS needed). I ended up doing all MOTN wakeups as long as I nursed. It was NBD since I could nap when DS napped. I didn't see the point in DH losing sleep if he could avoid it since I was home all day. Plus all DS wanted was the boob anyway and would go right back to sleep. With LO I'll just plan to do the MOTN wakeups/feedings. If it starts being an issue with DS then DH will help run back up.
This is exactly what we did. The only thing I do remember happening sometimes was if I was really exhausted then DH would do any middle of night diaper changes then I would breastfeed him. To catch up on sleep I followed the rule of sleep when baby sleeps so I would nap during day when baby napped.
Since I EBF there wasn't much dh could do to help out. Once DS was old enough to take a bottle he refused, even pumped milk (always been a smarty-pants!) and then I would get sooo engorged if I went too long without nursing or pumping, so I wouldn't have slept well even if H was getting up with DS. (Similar to a lot of other mamas responding on here!)
But lucky for me I only had to work two days a week and it was in the afternoons, so I could sleep off and on all day when the baby slept if I needed to. Because when they're teeny they nap so much, I would alternate... One daytime sleep cycle I would do a chore around the house, then the next (two--lol) I'd nap with him!! So I never actually felt super exhausted. It was more just adjusting to such a strange schedule.
This time around though, I have NO idea how I'll cope with a toddler wanting my every waking moment of attention during the day. Lol it's about to get real, I can tell. I'm just hanging on for dear life.
Confession time: Adjusting to having 2 (DD was 22 months) was shitty for me. Worse than being a brand new mom. However, God bless Curious George, because that idiot monkey was the coolest thing in DD's world, and I may have passed out while nursing a few times while she indulged.
DD1 was 18 months when DD2 arrived and we relied on bubble guppies! Luckily she was also still taking a 3 hr afternoon nap so as soon as I put her down I would nurse DD2 in my room with it dark and quiet, and could usually get her to sleep then too, so we could all get a nap in.
It is definitely more exhausting when there is a toddler and you can't always sleep when the baby sleeps.
ladysif Whenever DH starts complaining that he's sooooo tired, and that he must be the *most* tired person in our house, I shut my brain off, because NO. Nopeity, nope, nope. It's not even worth listening to him complain because of all the nope.
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