Can we talk about the role of step-parents for a moment?
Apr 15, 2015 17:59:40 GMT -5
Post by arb213 on Apr 15, 2015 17:59:40 GMT -5
So, just a little background: my XH was cheating on me for a few months prior to filing for divorce a few years back (my daughter was just a year old then). He married the woman who he was cheating on me with and had a kid with her. They have been married just shy of a year and their kid is nearly 3. She's a great step-parent to my daughter, now 5, but I feel she grossly oversteps her boundaries. She had my daughter thinking that she had 2 mommies which is not the case, and treats her as her own. I know I should want what's best for my daughter and its great that she treats my daughter so well but she is NOT her mother, nor will she ever be. I see my daughter most days of the week and am involved in her life so its not like I'm some kind of deadbeat mother. I don't have a problem with my daughter caring for her and loving her and vice versa but I do have a problem with how she clearly WANTS to be my daughter's mother. It is obvious in many ways (many in which I don't want to get into here). My daughter knows I am mommy and I'm pretty sure that's all that counts. Like I said, I think its great that she loves my daughter and that my daughter loves her, but she does overstep her boundaries. This has been bothering me for quite some time and I don't know where else to go to discuss it. Do I just let it go and take comfort in knowing that my daughter knows I'm mommy and just deal with it, or confront my XH's new wife? What do you ladies think? Sorry this got so long winded. You deserve a drink or two for getting through all this!