@--- Weekly Goals 4/20/15 ---@

[icequeen]

Good afternoon, y'all!

Happy Monday and I hope you had a good weekend. This is our weekly goals thread, so please remind us what your goals were last week and tell us how you feel you did. What matters is that you did your best, not if you accomplished everything on your list. Please also list any new goals you may have or state that you would like to continue working on the same goals from previous weeks if they have not changed, or are long term goals. Here is the format:

Goal:
Short or long term?:
Why is it important?:
How am I going to accomplish it?:

Thank you!

[yoshijo28]

Last Weeks goal: Schedule a doctor's appointment.

I did this. He told me that although my ekg and blood work came back fine the chest pains are probably due to too much exercise and not eating enough. I understand that but since the tests point to me being healthy it's hard to stop.

Last week's goal: clean the house

We had an emergency Sunday and had to visit family so I didn't get to do this as much as I wanted but I took out the garbage and did some laundry to help DH

New goal #1 : be happy (or appear to be) at work
long term or short term: both
why it's important: people are saying I don't smile like I used to and my boss and co workers say I'm different. I let any little thing bother me and take everything SO personally. I'm a manager so it's important to always have a smile and appear approachable
how to accomplish: one day at a time

Goall #2 continue to help DH around the house (same as last week)

ETA: spelling

[bluerainfire]

I am not great at following order-

goal from previous week- go though house- I am almost done- still have to tackle the basement, but I clean out our closet in our bedroom and went though clothes-

I did go out with a friend- I need to do this more often, but lately I just don't feel like people like me. And I am tired of saying do you want to hang out- I know everyone is busy, but meh- I am tired of organizing things, and getting people together-

long term goals are still the same- I am adding one, to go back to therapy- I know I need to talk to someone, but I have had terrible therapists in the past, so finding someone who fits- and or finding one that can do evenings may be difficulty
call around and do it

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My goal last week was to find time to talk to DH about which insurance plan we should choose through his new employer. I did look at the plan info he brought home, but it's basically summaries of the plans, with references to "plan documents" for details. They're not available on the company benefit website or the insurance company website. So I asked DH to contact HR for these mysterious documents. I need details, people!
My goal for this week is the same as last week, obviously. But now it's more urgent, because we need to choose this week.

[icequeen]

Goal 1: Add a half a cup of 2% milk with coffee in the morning
I wasn't able to do this. I didn't eat proper meals all week.

Goal 2: Do not weigh this week.
I wasn't able to do this either. I'm terrified that I'm gaining weight because I've been binging and purging more lately.

Goal 3: Get rid of all my "skinny" clothes and donate them.
I was able to do this.

New goals: I feel like I'm going downhill with this ED fast and I need to reevaluate with my therapist what my goals should be. I need smaller goals because I made too many big changes all at once and wasn't to sustain them. I have to think about this some more so I'm not ready to come up with any ED goals right now.

Goal 1: Make a packing list for Disneyworld
Short or long term: Short
Why is it important?: I don't want to forget anything
How am I going to accomplish it?: Pick a quiet time to sit down and concentrate on everything we may need for our road trip. Might want to google some suggestions, too.

Goal 2: Eat breakfast in the morning, no purging until afternoon
Short or long term: Short
Why is it important?: I am trying to exercise some kind of control of when I purge, so it I have a solid meal in the morning it will help me stay full so I don't want to binge and purge later on.
How am I going to do it?: I doubt I will, but I'm going to try to stick to my meal plan in the morning.

[icequeen]

Fuck, everyone is doing so well with their goals and I'm dragging my feet I really need to get my shit together.
yoshijo28, I know how scary that appointment was for you and you did such a great job dealing with it. I'm glad you got the peace of mind that everything is ok. I like your goals for this week; they are real life goals that will benefit you both at work, at home, and mentally. Sometimes you do have to fake it til you make it
bluerainfire, keep going girl! You're almost there with the cleaning. I know that's a huge project and you are sticking to it week by week. It's a shame no one else will take the initiative to plan more activities because it shouldn't all fall on you.
@rocknrollfriend, I hope you have better luck this week. Don't rush with it, I know it's important to get all the details straight!

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icequeen You've been doing great. We all have our setbacks. It can definitely backfire to take on too much change at once. I think it's very smart to scale back a bit and find some workable goals to build on. Be kind to yourself and keep up the good work!

[spencer1337]

Last weeks Goal: To do one small task
I did not do well with this. I just feel that its not enough so the sense of gratification of completing it is not very long acting when i realize i still have to clean the rest of the house or make dinner. My therapist feel that i am being a bit obsessive with keeping the house clean since it is causing me anxiety over it. I dont feel i am. I'm not being nit picky about weather there are crumbs on the counter, or if the couch has clothes on it, I genuinely feel like i cant keep up with the basic chores to run a house and that make me feel very inadequate

Goal for this week: Set up a chore schedule and stick to it.

Short or long term?:Both

Why is it important?:It will help me set realistic goals about what i can accomplish in a week. It will hopefully also help me keep from being so overwhelmed.

How am I going to accomplish it?:Im going to sit down and write it out and stick it to the fridge so i can see it and remember it.

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spencer1337, I have struggled with feeling overwhelmed by the household chores too. Sometimes it just feels like there's not enough time in the day! I know what you mean about the good feeling of doing something for yourself being tempered by the chores that still need to be done. It's hard to take that time for yourself when there's so many other things to do. I think you have to find the balance that's right for you. Is there any way you could afford to hire a housekeeper? If you haven't looked into it, it might be more affordable than you think. Even if they only come every other week, you'll have that light at the end of the tunnel. I gather your husband is injured so he probably can't help you much right now, but can he when he's healed? That could be another light at the end of the tunnel.

[spencer1337]

@rocknrollfriend . Thank you for understanding. We are very tight budget wise so no housekeeper. My husband does help when he isn't hurt, but he's also a guy, so does not have the same idea as me as to what clean means. I really think I just need to write it all down so I can see what actually needs to be done.

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Apr 23, 2015 7:30:56 GMT -5 spencer1337 said:

@rocknrollfriend . Thank you for understanding. We are very tight budget wise so no housekeeper. My husband does help when he isn't hurt, but he's also a guy, so does not have the same idea as me as to what clean means. I really think I just need to write it all down so I can see what actually needs to be done.

Yep, I totally get that too. I've learned to ask DH to help with certain chores he's "better" at or can make a dent in so I can sweep through afterwards to get the loose ends. Like, he's pretty good at loading and running the dishwasher, but I usually need to wipe down the counters an stove. For me it just helps to know I have some help and it's not all on my shoulders.good luck with your goal this week!