Husband got a job!
Apr 21, 2015 8:33:31 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2015 8:33:31 GMT -5
So I have bittersweet news. On Saturday my husband and I were talking, and we were trying to come up with a plan to get rid of our student debt (OSAP- for fellow Canadians). We decided that the best option for us would be for my husband to get a job in Alberta, flying back and fourth every 2 weeks. But the problem with that is we would need a solution for September. So we decided that we would move to Saskatchewan for a teaching job, permanently.
No sooner did we talk about this, he got a call getting a year contract to work in Alberta. This is HUGE for us! It means no debt, and we can FINALLY purchase a house in September. But now we had to decide, do we leave our friends and family and go to Saskatchewan? It seemed like the most responsible decision, but it would mean we would have to move our family across country, and my kids, who are very close with my parents, would have to grow up with only seeing their grandkids a couple of times a year. So we decided to go the more financially responsibly route.
Well, that night I had a massive panic attack. I couldn't stop crying, couldn't catch my breath and felt numb. I couldn't do it. I can't leave my family, and I can't take my kids away from their grandparents. I love how close they are with their family, and I couldn't imagine moving away from them.
So my husband calmed me down and we talked about it more. We decided to have him commute back and forth to Alberta for the year, 2 weeks on, 2 weeks home. This would mean all of our debt goes away, and we get to buy a home. The gamble is it will most likely only be a year, maybe year and half. Luckily he has the job, and can start applying at home until something pops up.
I just can't help but think my anxiety is keeping us from making a responsible, financial decision. He seems much more at ease knowing my anxiety has relaxed, but now I feel incredibly guilty because now he has to go back and forth for a year, rather than 5 months. BUT this does completely wipe out our debt. So it could be the best thing for us.
I hope we are making the right decision... what do you all think?
**Just a little tid bit of history- when we did live in away from home, I was hospitalized numerous times for panic attacks, so my husband doesn't want to move us away because of this.
Sorry for the rant, I just had a rough weekend when all of this went down, and I need to talk to my amazing online ladies!
::HUGS::
No sooner did we talk about this, he got a call getting a year contract to work in Alberta. This is HUGE for us! It means no debt, and we can FINALLY purchase a house in September. But now we had to decide, do we leave our friends and family and go to Saskatchewan? It seemed like the most responsible decision, but it would mean we would have to move our family across country, and my kids, who are very close with my parents, would have to grow up with only seeing their grandkids a couple of times a year. So we decided to go the more financially responsibly route.
Well, that night I had a massive panic attack. I couldn't stop crying, couldn't catch my breath and felt numb. I couldn't do it. I can't leave my family, and I can't take my kids away from their grandparents. I love how close they are with their family, and I couldn't imagine moving away from them.
So my husband calmed me down and we talked about it more. We decided to have him commute back and forth to Alberta for the year, 2 weeks on, 2 weeks home. This would mean all of our debt goes away, and we get to buy a home. The gamble is it will most likely only be a year, maybe year and half. Luckily he has the job, and can start applying at home until something pops up.
I just can't help but think my anxiety is keeping us from making a responsible, financial decision. He seems much more at ease knowing my anxiety has relaxed, but now I feel incredibly guilty because now he has to go back and forth for a year, rather than 5 months. BUT this does completely wipe out our debt. So it could be the best thing for us.
I hope we are making the right decision... what do you all think?
**Just a little tid bit of history- when we did live in away from home, I was hospitalized numerous times for panic attacks, so my husband doesn't want to move us away because of this.
Sorry for the rant, I just had a rough weekend when all of this went down, and I need to talk to my amazing online ladies!
::HUGS::