Nothing about this sounds like love to me. Sounds like a whole lot of apathy and my guess is that it will get worse over time. I know you are saying it is love, but that's not what is being described to me.
I maintain this is not healthy for your DD. I'm not saying it's like being in an abusive household or anything, but it doesn't sound happy. She needs happy, healthy parents. Parents that care about each other.
This is why I said divorce. Both seem checked out emotionally. The divorce road is long enough to give them time to think is this what I really want to do?
Move by family. Support system. Be PoW alone. I tell people to take time out to nurture themselves all the time. Learn your alone self, but no jump from one man to the next. No man is gong to fix any marital conflicts. No man is gong to fix any issues you have within yourself.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I haven't though about it bc I think maybe it's so out of my idea of a possibility in my life, but I would fucking do some serious damage if ex ever considered taking M outside like 20 miles from me
Everyone is feeling sorry for my daughter. There shouldn't be one day she doesn't feel loved. She may be physically distant from her dad but he will still be in her life.
It's not the same. At all. And he thinks he'll still be involved, but let me tell you how easy it is for a parent to forget about their kid when separated by that kind of distance. Especially if the parent doesn't fight for the child in the first place.
That's if the parent was a dead beat to start off with. My guy friend is very involved in his sons' slide and sees him every school break during the year, summer, Christmas, and Skype. Is it ideal? No. You can make it work if you put forth that effort.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by lildevil968 on Apr 21, 2015 17:23:49 GMT -5
I haven't read every single response, but it seems to me like both of you want out of the Marriage, but neither one of you wants to be the one to pull the trigger.
To me, two happy parents is better for a child then two unhappy parents.
And actually the FB messages weren't flirty at all.
Havent caught up but you're either: 1. Missing the forest for the trees here or 2. Intentionally ignoring valid points others have brought forward and shifting attention to minute "justifications" for what you're trying to do.
I gathered that PoW's H has told her enough that she's comfortable feeling that he isn't racist. He may be surrounded by racists, but he himself isn't.
Lol no.
She had never even heard that until I mentioned it.
I also never said that either. I have heard about the white devil and all that. I said NOI tends to be more racist than NGE.
Post by pearlofwisdom on Apr 21, 2015 18:08:46 GMT -5
It would be easier to stay and be content. DH and I have talked about this situation constantly which is why I am not torn up. Not trying to upset anyone. I do believe I was asking about a job situation to begin with.
College years after hurricane Katrina I was going back to school in new Orleans and found out he had a baby on the way that he didn't tell me about immediately. Pregnancy occurred before we were in a relationship. Our distance made it easy to move on. This is the kid he now has custody of.
Post by pearlofwisdom on Apr 21, 2015 19:53:26 GMT -5
Talked to DH. If I'm offered the job here I stay until I save and I would have less expenses staying here. Eventually I would still go but not at this time. If I don't get the job here then I go now.
Post by DirtyLurker on Apr 21, 2015 20:21:54 GMT -5
PoW what bothers me most is that I can't recall you saying on this thread or others prior to this that what you want is whatever is best for your daughter. It really comes off that what you want is what you want and she is an afterthought.
Anyone up for giving a summary of jnerds job search?
It is not remotely as Jerry Springer as PoW's...
It all seems to boil down to the fact that there are apparently 11233864221 jobs in Canada and you can make employers wait for weeks before letting them know you accept...
To be fair, the area where she lives does have more jobs than workers in general. And apparently lots in her specific field.
It all seems to boil down to the fact that there are apparently 11233864221 jobs in Canada and you can make employers wait for weeks before letting them know you accept...
To be fair, the area where she lives does have more jobs than workers in general. And apparently lots in her specific field.
I don't think the issue was all the job offers so much as all the reasons she gave for not taking ANY of the jobs.
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