PoW what bothers me most is that I can't recall you saying on this thread or others prior to this that what you want is whatever is best for your daughter. It really comes off that what you want is what you want and she is an afterthought.
She's not an afterthought and that's something DH talk about. He is more concerned about her having certain activities. He doesn't feel like she will be negatively affected by the distance as long as we visit. He wants her to experience life with my family. I complain about being away and my mom hates that we are away. My mom really wants DH to come with us. DH blames himself for me being unhappy with the location. He was unhappy when we lived in Louisiana.
Post by pearlofwisdom on Apr 21, 2015 20:57:34 GMT -5
I personally did not have my dad. I do have a step dad. I lived with my grandparents until I was in 1st grade. Not the same but that being said I do feel so guilt from taking her away but also don't want to feel regret for staying. One day she will be old enough and have her own life and what will be left?
Although, this situation makes me give more time and attention to DH and more sex. Obviously that still complicates it all. I know I should be doing these things anyway.
She's not an afterthought and that's something DH talk about. He is more concerned about her having certain activities. He doesn't feel like she will be negatively affected by the distance as long as we visit. He wants her to experience life with my family. I complain about being away and my mom hates that we are away. My mom really wants DH to come with us. DH blames himself for me being unhappy with the location. He was unhappy when we lived in Louisiana.
Because ballet class or whatever is more important than having her father near by. And visits totally good enough to replace parental involvement in her life on a daily basis.
Or whatever "activities" is supposed to mean. I swear, you were never on my radar before and now I'm just completely blown away by this post.
The activities and opportunities are here in PA with her dad. There are none for her in LA.
Post by pearlofwisdom on Apr 21, 2015 21:04:38 GMT -5
He listed things here like museums and the amusement being right down the street being good for DD. In LA we would pretty much have to travel to do anything exciting.
Dude. pearlofwisdom, there have been times I felt you were some sort of long con troll. But then your posts would return to normal and I figured I was wrong.
At this moment though, you have been placed in troll status.
Dude. pearlofwisdom, there have been times I felt you were some sort of long con troll. But then your posts would return to normal and I figured I was wrong.
At this moment though, you have been placed in troll status.
WTAF.
My life isn't standard or cut and dry but I don't make any of it up. I just say what I am thinking.
I'm going to be honest here. I do not think a "great dad" would be fine and dandy with just seeing his daughter for occasional visits and ok with the mom taking the kid thousands of miles away, essentially on a whim to rekindle a lost romance. I mean... No.
Post by pearlofwisdom on Apr 21, 2015 21:17:37 GMT -5
Sure I can be a troll or basic if you want to believe. I think I would be more upset if I were keeping these things from my husband. I think no one can fathom how honest I am with him. Like I said he has been by my side in past relationships before we were together. He's here for me if I stay and supports me if I go.
I had a whole thing typed out but fuck it. I'm just so confused by so much in here, but like, I guess I still don't understand how a dad could agree to let their child go live in another state. I would live in fucking -50 weather if it meant I got to see my child. And I know every dad is different (duh) but I would also suck it up if it meant my child was able to see his father regularly as well.
Sure I can be a troll or basic if you want to believe. I think I would be more upset if I were keeping these things from my husband. I think no one can fathom how honest I am with him. Like I said he has been by my side in past relationships before we were together. He's here for me if I stay and supports me if I go.
Ya know, I still kind of want to know about how if you don't define his cult participation as the "difference in core values," that you cited, what IS? Other that you having an affair and being 100% honest about it?
Post by ohiorideresq on Apr 21, 2015 21:24:32 GMT -5
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK DID I JUST READ. ARE YOU SERIOUS, OP?
Nothing, not a damn thing of what you said is normal, rational, or fair to your child. Nothing you said reflects that you are processing anything in a mature, adult-like manner.
Since it appears as though neither you nor your husband are interested in your child's welfare, please send her to me.
I don't know if this is coming off as mean or nasty, and frankly I don't care. I'm so pissed off and sad right now.
Everyone is feeling sorry for my daughter except me. There shouldn't be one day she doesn't feel loved. She may be physically distant from her dad but he will still be in her life.
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