Post by ericalee2013 on Jan 21, 2015 8:32:16 GMT -5
I actually have something to share this morning! MH just called me to share something that he saw when he dropped DD off at daycare. A chubby little boy who constantly steals food from the other kids was eating chocolate cake for breakfast! I thought that was just a Bill Cosby skit, not actual real life! WTF?!!!
I actually have something to share this morning! MH just called me to share something that he saw when he dropped DD off at daycare. A chubby little boy who constantly steals food from the other kids was eating chocolate cake for breakfast! I thought that was just a Bill Cosby skit, not actual real life! WTF?!!!
Wow...I feel like parents who let their children eat unhealthy are abusing their children. It's one thing to have McDonald's every now and then or dessert after dinner and things in moderation, but allowing a child to eat chocolate cake for breakfast, especially when he already has a weight issue, is terrible. That poor kid is probably on his way to diabetes and other issues.
I actually have something to share this morning! MH just called me to share something that he saw when he dropped DD off at daycare. A chubby little boy who constantly steals food from the other kids was eating chocolate cake for breakfast! I thought that was just a Bill Cosby skit, not actual real life! WTF?!!!
Wow...I feel like parents who let their children eat unhealthy are abusing their children. It's one thing to have McDonald's every now and then or dessert after dinner and things in moderation, but allowing a child to eat chocolate cake for breakfast, especially when he already has a weight issue, is terrible. That poor kid is probably on his way to diabetes and other issues.
Dude, no. It's not abuse. Don't call it that. Not your style? Cool. It's not fucking abuse.
ETA: My kid is on a kick where he'll only eat Vanilla wafers for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I'm not abusing him because he isn't eating fruit. I'm making sure he eats SOMETHING. Tell me I'm abusing my child.
I actually have something to share this morning! MH just called me to share something that he saw when he dropped DD off at daycare. A chubby little boy who constantly steals food from the other kids was eating chocolate cake for breakfast! I thought that was just a Bill Cosby skit, not actual real life! WTF?!!!
Wow...I feel like parents who let their children eat unhealthy are abusing their children. It's one thing to have McDonald's every now and then or dessert after dinner and things in moderation, but allowing a child to eat chocolate cake for breakfast, especially when he already has a weight issue, is terrible. That poor kid is probably on his way to diabetes and other issues.
Dude, no. It's not abuse. Don't call it that. Not your style? Cool. It's not fucking abuse.
ETA: My kid is on a kick where he'll only eat Vanilla wafers for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I'm not abusing him because he isn't eating fruit. I'm making sure he eats SOMETHING. Tell me I'm abusing my child.
Woah relax, I never said you were abusing your child. Kids go through phases where they prefer certain things, absolutely. But that's totally different from long-term bad eating habits that lead your child becoming obese. That is not ok. In my opinion it is a form of abuse when you let a child stuff their face constantly with unhealthy food because it becomes a serious health issue for that child.
Post by carrotcake on Jan 21, 2015 14:53:09 GMT -5
I'm with heysailor88. That's a very big word to throw around and not one I would choose here.
Sometimes I let my oldest take half a Costco muffin for breakfast at school and let's be honest, that's essentially cake. He's also very big for his age. I would hate to think that someone made fun of him/me behind my back.
Dude, no. It's not abuse. Don't call it that. Not your style? Cool. It's not fucking abuse.
ETA: My kid is on a kick where he'll only eat Vanilla wafers for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I'm not abusing him because he isn't eating fruit. I'm making sure he eats SOMETHING. Tell me I'm abusing my child.
Woah relax, I never said you were abusing your child. Kids go through phases where they prefer certain things, absolutely. But that's totally different from long-term bad eating habits that lead your child becoming obese. That is not ok. In my opinion it is a form of abuse when you let a child stuff their face constantly with unhealthy food because it becomes a serious health issue for that child.
I also don't like the word abuse. My LO is on a weird food kick right now where he is being very picky about what he'll even try (we actually offered him some chocolate cake last week and he wouldn't even taste it!) Yeah, everyone knows that stuff like cake should be a sometimes food, but who knows what is going on day to day with that particular kid and why he's eating morning cake (and who knows, maybe it was that kid's birthday or something). But no matter what, I definitely wouldn't call it abuse or abusive to give them "bad" foods. Ideal - definitely not, "bad parenting" - possibly, but they're at least keeping that kid alive.
Dude, no. It's not abuse. Don't call it that. Not your style? Cool. It's not fucking abuse.
ETA: My kid is on a kick where he'll only eat Vanilla wafers for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I'm not abusing him because he isn't eating fruit. I'm making sure he eats SOMETHING. Tell me I'm abusing my child.
Woah relax, I never said you were abusing your child. Kids go through phases where they prefer certain things, absolutely. But that's totally different from long-term bad eating habits that lead your child becoming obese. That is not ok. In my opinion it is a form of abuse when you let a child stuff their face constantly with unhealthy food because it becomes a serious health issue for that child.
In your opinions, it's not abuse to allow a child to partake in very unhealthy eating habits daily and consistently. In my opinion, which no one can tell me is wrong, when it gets to a point that a child has a serious weight problem and/or health problems, it can be a form of abuse. Is it the same as physical abuse? No. Just like emotional abuse is not the same.
Again, I'm not talking about when kids go through phases or have a muffin every once in a while or have fast food sometimes. Clearly those things are not abusive. I'm taking about long term, consistent unhealthy eating habits which lead to health consequences. If you disagree, that's ok, but it's ridiculous to twist my words like I'm saying a muffin for breakfast is abuse when that's clearly not what I'm saying. End of story.
Post by ericalee2013 on Jan 21, 2015 18:32:58 GMT -5
I have really missed you ladies!!! Glad we have lit the fire again.
On a much lighter note…. WTF DD, why do you run as fast as your little, wobbly legs will go as soon as I fill the dog's water bowl! It's not your personal hand washing station!
In your opinions, it's not abuse to allow a child to partake in very unhealthy eating habits daily and consistently. In my opinion, which no one can tell me is wrong, when it gets to a point that a child has a serious weight problem and/or health problems, it can be a form of abuse. Is it the same as physical abuse? No. Just like emotional abuse is not the same.
Again, I'm not talking about when kids go through phases or have a muffin every once in a while or have fast food sometimes. Clearly those things are not abusive. I'm taking about long term, consistent unhealthy eating habits which lead to health consequences. If you disagree, that's ok, but it's ridiculous to twist my words like I'm saying a muffin for breakfast is abuse when that's clearly not what I'm saying. End of story.
You also don't know what is causing that child to have weight problems, if in fact they exist. I think it's a pretty big leap.
Post by carrotcake on Jan 21, 2015 21:50:34 GMT -5
It's the way you worded your initial reply that conflated two thoughts. You made the leap from a kid eating cake for breakfast to a kid being abused for being allowed to eat crap food all the time. I get how you got there even though I don't agree at all.
I've tried to think of a set of circumstances where I could buy into the theory that poor eating habits are abusive and I can't get there. It's far more likely to be a lack of education or access to resources than blatant neglect.
I also just included the perspective of giving my kid a muffin for breakfast on occasion as an example of how hard it is to make accurate judgements about a snapshot of someone's life.
I'm also defensive bc my oldest IS a big kid. He's active and we eat in moderation but he's off the charts for height and weight and more the size of a 6yo (he's 4.5). It's a sore spot, I admit.
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