Triggers @ Work
Apr 22, 2015 19:05:46 GMT -5
Post by twixiesky on Apr 22, 2015 19:05:46 GMT -5
Hi ladies,
Just wondering about how you all deal or have dealt with triggers and pregnant people in the work place.
Unfortunately no one knew I was pregnant at the time of my loss of Keegan at 18 weeks (January 29th, 2015), so there was no general out pour of sympathy. When I returned everyone seemed to be pregnant (over 5 people), and it seems like once a month there’s a new pregnancy (2 and counting since I started back February) along with baby showers, due date bets etc. My supervisor (who was informed about the miscarriage) can be an ass at times: she has no filter and can be unmindfully insensitive (i.e. constantly complaining about how difficult her life is the 1st day I come back; asking me if I know who another coworker is because she just had a baby girl and they’re having her shower)
I can deal with seeing the big bellies now (although it was really hard the first few weeks back) but what’s the most difficult is all of the talk from non-pregnant coworkers about these pregnancies especially in middle of trainings and such. It’s hard to not be a part of the conversations, because it’s almost like denying Keegan’s existence; yet at the same time I don’t want to deny someone from celebrating their pregnancy, or put them in the uncomfortable position of having to deal with my loss. I don’t want to be an ass and say something to HR about keeping conversations work related but sometimes I need that, just to get productively through the work day. For example: my coworker today while in a mandatory training, constantly asking our pregnant trainer about her pregnancy, then making the comment about how she never wants to get pregnant; then about 15 minutes later trying to call me out when I took a backseat to participating (my mind drifted to not so happy places).
I’m probably just being overly sensitive though.
Just wondering about how you all deal or have dealt with triggers and pregnant people in the work place.
Unfortunately no one knew I was pregnant at the time of my loss of Keegan at 18 weeks (January 29th, 2015), so there was no general out pour of sympathy. When I returned everyone seemed to be pregnant (over 5 people), and it seems like once a month there’s a new pregnancy (2 and counting since I started back February) along with baby showers, due date bets etc. My supervisor (who was informed about the miscarriage) can be an ass at times: she has no filter and can be unmindfully insensitive (i.e. constantly complaining about how difficult her life is the 1st day I come back; asking me if I know who another coworker is because she just had a baby girl and they’re having her shower)
I can deal with seeing the big bellies now (although it was really hard the first few weeks back) but what’s the most difficult is all of the talk from non-pregnant coworkers about these pregnancies especially in middle of trainings and such. It’s hard to not be a part of the conversations, because it’s almost like denying Keegan’s existence; yet at the same time I don’t want to deny someone from celebrating their pregnancy, or put them in the uncomfortable position of having to deal with my loss. I don’t want to be an ass and say something to HR about keeping conversations work related but sometimes I need that, just to get productively through the work day. For example: my coworker today while in a mandatory training, constantly asking our pregnant trainer about her pregnancy, then making the comment about how she never wants to get pregnant; then about 15 minutes later trying to call me out when I took a backseat to participating (my mind drifted to not so happy places).
I’m probably just being overly sensitive though.