Baby wearingApr 25, 2015 18:22:59 GMT -5via mobile
Post by pghtruelove on Apr 25, 2015 18:22:59 GMT -5
I'm not sure if we have discussed baby wearing, I tried to search and looked through some things and didn't find anything. If there is already something please link me!
Anyways, this is a topic I am very interested in. I think I really want to wear her but all the STMs that I know a really against it and I'm only getting for the reason that the baby will become spoiled. I'm not finding very good information on baby wearing and was hoping to get some advice from STMs or you ladies who have done a lot of research. Thank you!
I'm a FTM as well and have had very positive advice from STMs about baby wearing! I did a bit of research about it and still don't know how long it will last but I got both a boba and a moby wrap at my shower. I googled a lot mostly "benefits of baby wearing" and found a lot of research that way. A lot of what I've found is the benefits of skin to skin for both baby and mom. I guess I am partially hippy dippy with I really believe in the benefits of skin to skin for babies and helping with feelings of depression in mom, especially in those first weeks. I'm also okay with my baby being "spoiled" because of being held too much.
I think I really want to wear her but all the STMs that I know a really against it and I'm only getting for the reason that the baby will become spoiled. I
This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. I'm fairly certain the idea of "spoiling the baby" was disproved by at least the 1980s. How old are your STM friends?
The only "con" to babywearing is that your kid might not like it. Otherwise it's all benefit. It improves core strength for the baby - meaning it can take the place of tummy time and help with physical development. It makes you more mobile. It often allows you to get out of the house more and sooner which can help with PPD/Baby Blues. It keeps babies safe from outside germs and therefore healthier (less people can put their face in the baby's face when you're out). It helps babies sleep better (assuming your kid likes being worn). It creates a sense of attachment which is good for the mental health of the kid and actually makes them more independent (if they feel safe they are more likely to take risks).
Post by sugarkissed on Apr 25, 2015 19:03:38 GMT -5
I love babywearing and have splurged on several carriers... I'm not anti-stroller, there are just some situations that are a lot easier with a carrier. It was essential for my sanity during the colicky early days with DD. I could still get things accomplished without having to put her down. While she was teething, it was the only way to guarantee a nap, and in busy places it was just so much easier than trying to navigate a stroller through a crowd. I still wear her occasionally, like this morning at the farmer's market!
I think that when the new baby comes along it will be even more beneficial as I'll have a toddler to chase after.
Baby wearingApr 25, 2015 19:24:41 GMT -5via mobile
Post by tiffbot on Apr 25, 2015 19:24:41 GMT -5
I have never heard anyone say anything negative about babywearing either. While I didn't do it with DS, it wasn't due to any one reason, I just wasn't knowledgable in it and didn't have the right things to work for us. Being that I'll have a toddler this time, I've done a lot more research and am trying out some different styles. Even my mom told me babywearing was basically a necessity for her when my sister was born, as I was around 2.5, and that was in the 80s!
My mom has thinks baby wearing is unnecessary. However when I went to my lamaze class a chiropractor spoke and said that it is very beneficial for comforting and is good for tummy time to build up the neck muscles.
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Baby wearingApr 25, 2015 19:36:11 GMT -5via mobile
Post by Deleted on Apr 25, 2015 19:36:11 GMT -5
I have nothing but good things to say about baby wearing. Going to use my baby Ktan again and the ergo again. It makes grocery store trips so much easier that way you can put all your food in the cart and not have to push a stroller around. I also used baby wearing for walks and a technique dr sears ( author of the baby book) calls ' wearing down'. It's for when you have a baby that is hard to put to sleep so you wear them on a walk or around the house then once they fall asleep you transfer them out of the carrier and into the bassinet. It worked so well for us since DS never liked a swing or anything mechanical to put him to sleep.
I don't have anything bad to say about baby wearing at all!
My BFF swears by it...in fact, she still wears her 22 month old! I think I'm going to give it a try. DH is completely obsessed with the idea and can't WAIT to wear baby girl around
Post by tatersalad on Apr 25, 2015 20:07:49 GMT -5
I started wearing DS when he was a few days old to a golf tournament And kept it up until he was too big to wear in a carrier comfortably (although I borrowed an Ergo at 18 months and it was pretty comfy) purely for the convenience it provided. I doubt I would have ever been able to style my hair or put on make up in the early days without it because he was a stage 5 clinger. I ordered a baby k tan breeze to add to our collection this time around because with two kiddos to look after I expect baby wearing to be an absolute necessity.
Doesn't he just look snug as a bug content in there?
I am busy reading 'the happiest baby on the block' and the author (a pediatrician) makes an excellent case for baby wearing, especially in the first month. He also talks about the myth of spoiling tiny infants - in his opinion that doesn't even become a validated concern until at least 4 months of age. I plan to wear, wear, and wear my Peanut
Post by curlyrunner on Apr 25, 2015 20:15:26 GMT -5
It was awesome when DS2 came along. We never bought a double stroller (they are 3 years apart). It let me stay active with a 3 year old and have a happy baby!
Two boys: DS#1 8yo; DS#2 5yo
Expecting Baby #3 (a GIRL!!). First 2 pregnancies without issue, followed by four losses and five years of trying off and on.
Two boys: DS#1 8yo; DS#2 5yo
Expecting Baby #3 (a GIRL!!). First 2 pregnancies without issue, followed by four losses and five years of trying off and on.
Even my mom told me babywearing was basically a necessity for her when my sister was born, as I was around 2.5, and that was in the 80s!
My mom wore me as in infant also - and I was the firstborn!
I will say - in order to be more impartial - I did think of another con for baby-wearing. Shopping at the grocery store is a million times easier, but clothes shopping is nearly impossible with a carrier (if you need to try on clothes.) Because it's not like you can hang the carrier from a coat hook. If you're planning on hitting the mall to try on nursing bras, or clothes to fit your post-partum body, then a stroller (or a friend/DH) is needed.
The idea of spoiling your child by holding him/her makes me so mad. My mom was telling my niece this at Christmas and I was just like...no. No! You can't spoil your child that way. Read "The Happiest Baby on the Block"!
We received an Ergo 360 and I think I'm going to buy a K'Tan if we don't get one off our registry. I'm really into the idea of baby wearing and so is my H.
+1 on the planning to wear train. We were given a few different types, but I would still like a wrap. The only con I can think of is the possibility of hip displaysia, which is easily avoided with a carrier with the proper supports. I've done some reading on the subject and this really only looks like a possibility for the first six months.
Post by flbabychin on Apr 25, 2015 21:08:51 GMT -5
We're planning to wear LO too. We got a Baby Bjorn at our shower, and I'm buying a Boba wrap too for the earlier months - until he's big enough for the Bjorn carrier. I know I'm really excited to wear him, as is DH. I think there are only positives, and I certainly agree that the "spoiling" factor is BS. If we look at attachment and bonding alone, I can only see the positives for healthy development physically and emotionally.
Stupid Question......are there any particular carriers that are better for plus size women? I want one but I'm reluctant to spend the money when I'm really short but also quite heavy...I'm worried it won't fit and I'll have wasted the money.
Stupid Question......are there any particular carriers that are better for plus size women? I want one but I'm reluctant to spend the money when I'm really short but also quite heavy...I'm worried it won't fit and I'll have wasted the money.
I'm not sure which ones would be best, but I know at BBB, you can try them on. Wraps may be a good choice since they're easily adjustable. I know one of my plus sized friends loves the Tula carriers.
Baby wearingApr 26, 2015 10:50:08 GMT -5via mobile
Post by silv3rlining on Apr 26, 2015 10:50:08 GMT -5
I have an Ergo and wore DS and plan to wear LO as well. Heck I still out DS in it occasionally. There were times I was able to make dinner because he was in the Ergo. I also could nurse in the Ergo. And if you don't want to play "pass the baby," wearing them discourages people from trying to take the baby from you. We also used the stroller and bucket sea different times. But honestly it's so much easier to grocery shop with a baby attached to you than a bucket seat in the bottom of a shopping cart taking up all the space. And NO carseats are NOT intended to be "locked into place" in the top portion of a shopping cart. And yes, I do side eye everyone I've seen do it. It's such a safety hazard and children have died because of it.
Stupid Question......are there any particular carriers that are better for plus size women? I want one but I'm reluctant to spend the money when I'm really short but also quite heavy...I'm worried it won't fit and I'll have wasted the money.
I'm a size 20 with giant boobs, and the Ergo and Boba carriers fit me just fine, with room to spare.
I know a lot of plus moms who love Tulas, and Kinderpack makes plus size carriers, but are near impossible to get retail.
Woop woop another size 20 big boob mama in the house! I LOVED baby wearing my nephew in the Moby so I can't wait to get a Solly Baby wrap (lighter weight and less stiff.) I bought myself a Sakura Boom ring sling during a big sale and am very excited to wear baby in that. They say that one is really good for breast feeding while wearing too. I can't preach enough about the value of finding a baby wearing international group near you. They have knowledgeable educators and big huge lending libraries so you can try before you buy.
Oh and as far as spoiling the baby goes there is no such thing. If your kid likes being carried you'll just have a happy comfy baby with a nice round head. Wearing counts as tummy time!
Eta: also the bonding time is so sweet. I must have kissed his sleeping head a trillion times. You wear the baby at the perfect kissing height so it's nothing but on demand head sniffs (who doesn't adore the smell of a baby?) and kiss kiss kiss. Plus skin contact will help with body temp regulation, gets a fussy baby to calm down, and helps get our milk to come in if we plan to bf.
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