Where does your baby sleep?

[abbyroad]

I want to keep DS in my room (he's in a cosleeper next to my bed) until 6 mos because a) it reduces the likelihood of SIDS and b) he wakes up 2-4x/night still.  But my 4-yr old is now coming into my room in the middle of the night and it means I wind up nursing DS all night long because I don't want him to make a peep and wake her up.  I can't decide what to do...

[auntbee1215]

She sleeps in a cradle in our room. I bring her in bed to nurse if she wakes. Our 4 yo went to the crib when she was about 7 months old. I anticipate the same with this LO.

[barnabee]

We had her in our room til 3 months exactly then transitioned her to the crib in her room. I was nervous about it at the time but it's been working out nicely.

[Mermz]

In the rnp for the first half the night, in it bed the second

[alioop1028]

I'm so glad someone posted about this. She still sleeps in our room in a pack n play but I'm debating whether or not I should move her to her crib soon too. I'm leaning towards crib because I want her to have undisturbed sleep. I feel like I wake her up every morning when I get ready for work and honestly I would love to be able to cough and not freak out that I woke the baby. Has anyone already made the transition and willing to share awesome tips? I'm desperate for some.

Also I feel better seeing other moms on here still keeping their babies in their room and their babies still waking up at night too. I'm a FTM and it feels like I've been doing everything wrong lately. Like my kid should be sleeping through the night and in her own room. Damn I love you ladies.

[empire]

In our bed. He wakes up as soon as we put him down elsewhere, but will settle instantly if moved to the bed even by himself. The little jerk wants a comfy bed apparently.

alioop1028 every baby is different. Some of them take a little longer to figure it out and some are just bad at sleep.

[designaddiction]

We transitioned to the crib just before 3 months, I was worried about when I went back to work with him still sleeping in our room. We started out slow, a few naps here and there, and built up to it. He still wakes a lot so I am up and down all night but I'm glad we made the transition.

[alioop1028]

empire Thanks for the advice! I'm trying to keep that in mind. Before joining the community regularly all I had were books telling me where my baby should be, which was a little hard because she wasn't there at all. After joining I realized that I should have used those books as more of a guide and reading everyone's experiences has really helped. I wish I had joined the group earlier when I was pregnant, but I'm glad I'm here now.

[abbyroad]

Jan 21, 2015 11:54:25 GMT -5 alioop1028 said:

I'm so glad someone posted about this. She still sleeps in our room in a pack n play but I'm debating whether or not I should move her to her crib soon too. I'm leaning towards crib because I want her to have undisturbed sleep. I feel like I wake her up every morning when I get ready for work and honestly I would love to be able to cough and not freak out that I woke the baby. Has anyone already made the transition and willing to share awesome tips? I'm desperate for some.

Also I feel better seeing other moms on here still keeping their babies in their room and their babies still waking up at night too. I'm a FTM and it feels like I've been doing everything wrong lately. Like my kid should be sleeping through the night and in her own room. Damn I love you ladies.    

It really didn't sink in for me until DS was born, but every baby is so so different.  DD was STTN (like 9-11 hours STTN!) at 7 weeks!!!  I EBF'd her and did absolutely nothing to get her to STTN.  I literally didn't even tell anyone she was STTN that early because I was so worried I'd jinx it.  

Then 3.5yrs later along comes DS and last night (he's 4m1w) he was up 4x.  And that's not abnormal.  His longest stretches of 6-8 hours are way behind us and now I'm lucky if he'll sleep a 4 hour stretch.  Don't worry - there is nothing wrong with you or your baby.  Keep doing what you feel is best for you both and you'll be fine.

[alioop1028]

Jan 21, 2015 12:30:21 GMT -5 abbyroad said:

Jan 21, 2015 11:54:25 GMT -5 alioop1028 said:

I'm so glad someone posted about this. She still sleeps in our room in a pack n play but I'm debating whether or not I should move her to her crib soon too. I'm leaning towards crib because I want her to have undisturbed sleep. I feel like I wake her up every morning when I get ready for work and honestly I would love to be able to cough and not freak out that I woke the baby. Has anyone already made the transition and willing to share awesome tips? I'm desperate for some.

Also I feel better seeing other moms on here still keeping their babies in their room and their babies still waking up at night too. I'm a FTM and it feels like I've been doing everything wrong lately. Like my kid should be sleeping through the night and in her own room. Damn I love you ladies.    

It really didn't sink in for me until DS was born, but every baby is so so different.  DD was STTN (like 9-11 hours STTN!) at 7 weeks!!!  I EBF'd her and did absolutely nothing to get her to STTN.  I literally didn't even tell anyone she was STTN that early because I was so worried I'd jinx it.  

Then 3.5yrs later along comes DS and last night (he's 4m1w) he was up 4x.  And that's not abnormal.  His longest stretches of 6-8 hours are way behind us and now I'm lucky if he'll sleep a 4 hour stretch.  Don't worry - there is nothing wrong with you or your baby.  Keep doing what you feel is best for you both and you'll be fine.

Thank you! That makes me feel so much better. I'm such a "by the book" kind of person that it's been a struggle. Since, you're right, there's no one right way to do something and having that emphasized by people in the same boat makes me feel much less guilty and lost.

[conradraging]

Crib in her room.

[bobcat]

We just transitioned her to her crib in the nursery a few weeks ago (so right around 4 months). Before that, she slept in a bassinet beside the bed. First few nights were rough, but we're getting the hang of it. No judgment here on sleep training/location/preference/timeline. Do what is best (and safe) for you and your baby!

[camichael84]

PnP in our room. The plan was to move her to her own room at three months. Three months came around, and I wasn't ready for her to leave our room, so now the plan is to transition at five months.

[bainidhe]

In his room. He was in the crib, then the swing for a month or so, then back to the crib. We tried the RnP in our room once but there was no good place for it and it just didn't work.

[thelittlesrunmylife]

Pack and play in our room. This little guy still wakes up anywhere from 3-6 times a night. He will seriously get up every hour to eat. I put him in his bed the first few times but by 3am I am too tired to actually get up and shuffle him back and forth. Actually dd2 ends up in our bed at some point half if the time.

[clearlycrystal]

DS is in a crib in his room. We moved him at 3 months because he moved around his bassinet like a crazy man. After several nights of finding him with his head nestled in the side. In his crib he hardly moves at all. Moving him was stressful on me and not him. I'm terrified of SIDS and check on him a lot.

[dearfoam]

We combine bed sharing and cosleeper in bassinet mode. Some nights, just one or the other. I think he sleeps best on our bed, like pp said, likes a comfy mattress!!

[yuristar]

Jan 21, 2015 11:47:17 GMT -5 @adulruna said:

Jan 21, 2015 11:42:43 GMT -5 Mermz said:

In the rnp for the first half the night, in it bed the second

Exactly this.

Ditto

[1983lindsey]

Bentley has been in his own room since about a month. I think he sleeps better in there without my tossing and turning and DHs snoring. We also sleep better

[criscbish]

Face down on our chests then in between us for the first 8 weeks. Then she decided she would STTN if she was in her own room/crib. According to all the books, I did all the wrong things, but I got some sleep so fuck the books!

FTR, my original plan was to have her co-sleep for 6 months mainly because of SIDS, but I realized that you can have all the plans in the world and then reality just laughs at you. Then it's a survival game.

[beardface]

Rock-n-play next to our bed. Sometimes with us when I fall asleep nursing. I want to move him to his room but he is sharing with DD and I'm worried all hell will break loose if one wakes up.

[smalltownmoon]

Crib in her room since 13 weeks or so. She adjusted immediately but I occasionally miss hearing her old man snores MOTN.

[auntbee1215]

Jan 22, 2015 0:06:13 GMT -5 smalltownmoon said:

Crib in her room since 13 weeks or so. She adjusted immediately but I occasionally miss hearing her old man snores MOTN.

That's how I feel about the move to the nursery- I remember missing dd1 terribly!

[sparklegrump]

Cosleeper and next to me in bed. She starts out in the cosleeper but if she wakes up she comes in bed with me until I wake up again and move her. Rinse. Repeat. She usually wakes up twice a night, but sometimes we'll get a sttn.

[doglover31]

DS was in his room since he was 2 weeks old. However this 4 month sleep regression has caused him to only want to sleep in our room in bed with me. The other night I was able to get him to sleep in his swing for maybe 2 hours. Supposedly he should be done with this leap soon so we will see if we can get him back to his room.

[abbyroad]

Jan 21, 2015 22:47:07 GMT -5 criscbish said:

Face down on our chests then in between us for the first 8 weeks. Then she decided she would STTN if she was in her own room/crib. According to all the books, I did all the wrong things, but I got some sleep so fuck the books!

FTR, my original plan was to have her co-sleep for 6 months mainly because of SIDS, but I realized that you can have all the plans in the world and then reality just laughs at you. Then it's a survival game.

I'm a little tempted to try putting DS in his room to see if it'll help him sleep any better.  Guess it's worth a shot.  

[anewadventure]

we did rnp in our room until about 11 weeks and now he is in his crib in his own room.

i know a lot of people ran into trouble when they wanted to transition in the middle of leap 4 and the 4 month sleep regression. hopefully there is a light at the end of that particular tunnel

[HelloSweetie]

I put SS. I guess technically in his own room in a pnp, but I sleep in there after his first wake up and usually pull him into bed with me after the third. DD still sleeps in our bed most of the night and as soon as it's safe for him, I'll stop sleeping in the other room.

[criscbish]

Jan 22, 2015 10:05:01 GMT -5 abbyroad said:

Jan 21, 2015 22:47:07 GMT -5 criscbish said:

Face down on our chests then in between us for the first 8 weeks. Then she decided she would STTN if she was in her own room/crib. According to all the books, I did all the wrong things, but I got some sleep so fuck the books!

FTR, my original plan was to have her co-sleep for 6 months mainly because of SIDS, but I realized that you can have all the plans in the world and then reality just laughs at you. Then it's a survival game.

I'm a little tempted to try putting DS in his room to see if it'll help him sleep any better.  Guess it's worth a shot.  

Worth a try! Baby and I both sleep better apart!

[nikkiveeee]

Starts out in the rocker, then sleeps in our bed most of the night. Since I'm nursing it's just so much easier to have him next to me.