H getting cold feet...
Apr 29, 2015 8:26:18 GMT -5
Post by lennonkdc on Apr 29, 2015 8:26:18 GMT -5
Hi Ladies! Congrats to all the new BFP!
I'm sorry, I've been away on vacation and I've been working through some stuff with H. Basically, he's getting cold feet on TTC, again. Before we got married we talked about kids and were on the same page (we wanted them, and knew that it would be sooner rather than later) He would joke about knocking me up on our honeymoon, and talk about kids in terms of when, not if. I was ready to start TTC right after the wedding, but a potential job offer with the Public Defender got in the way. So we decided to wait and talk in Jan. '15, at which point he was worried about finances and wanted to wait and talk again till May. It came up on the 11 hour drive, and he's still not ready and is worried about finances.
Basically, He doesn't think putting it off another 6 months would be a big deal and I about had a heart attack. He's of the mindset that we'll get KU the first cycle, and I'm being hyper negative and focusing on the worst case scenarios when I say that it can take a while, especially at our age. He is holding fast to the 'we said we talk about it in May' thing, and its not May (yet).
I typically have an easy time stepping back and looking at things logically, but I am 100% emotional about this and I can't help but feel panicked and worried and upset. I am ready to start trying, because I know there is a chance it won't happen for us, and the longer we wait the larger that chance gets. And I know it shouldn't matter, but my BFF just got a BFP; my H's sis and her H are trying and I hate the thought of being the last to have kids; and my Dad's starting another round of treatment and I so want to be able to introduce him to his grandkid. Plus I feel as ready as I possible can for kids.
Anyway, I guess I just needed to vent/ see if anyone else has been through this... I know I have to respect H's feelings and if that means waiting, I'll just have to make my peace with that. Maybe he'll surprise me when we talk in a few days and all of this will be moot. But until we're "officially" TTC I'll just be lurking and sending BFP vibes from afar.
I'm sorry, I've been away on vacation and I've been working through some stuff with H. Basically, he's getting cold feet on TTC, again. Before we got married we talked about kids and were on the same page (we wanted them, and knew that it would be sooner rather than later) He would joke about knocking me up on our honeymoon, and talk about kids in terms of when, not if. I was ready to start TTC right after the wedding, but a potential job offer with the Public Defender got in the way. So we decided to wait and talk in Jan. '15, at which point he was worried about finances and wanted to wait and talk again till May. It came up on the 11 hour drive, and he's still not ready and is worried about finances.
Basically, He doesn't think putting it off another 6 months would be a big deal and I about had a heart attack. He's of the mindset that we'll get KU the first cycle, and I'm being hyper negative and focusing on the worst case scenarios when I say that it can take a while, especially at our age. He is holding fast to the 'we said we talk about it in May' thing, and its not May (yet).
I typically have an easy time stepping back and looking at things logically, but I am 100% emotional about this and I can't help but feel panicked and worried and upset. I am ready to start trying, because I know there is a chance it won't happen for us, and the longer we wait the larger that chance gets. And I know it shouldn't matter, but my BFF just got a BFP; my H's sis and her H are trying and I hate the thought of being the last to have kids; and my Dad's starting another round of treatment and I so want to be able to introduce him to his grandkid. Plus I feel as ready as I possible can for kids.
Anyway, I guess I just needed to vent/ see if anyone else has been through this... I know I have to respect H's feelings and if that means waiting, I'll just have to make my peace with that. Maybe he'll surprise me when we talk in a few days and all of this will be moot. But until we're "officially" TTC I'll just be lurking and sending BFP vibes from afar.