anyone else think this is messed up?

[sarahandeddie]

Today DH took the girls to visit the ILs. I spoke with DH after work and everything was fine and he said he'd be home in a few hours. About an hour later I get this text message, "Sarah I want you to know I've been having an affair on you."

I immediately knew someone had hacked DH's phone. I know DH would never cheat on me, he'd never tell me something important/serious via text and DH doesn't talk/write like that. I assumed it was one of his dumb friends but it was FIL that sent the text!

Anyone else think it's completely messed up that FIL would send me a text like that as a joke? What if I had believed it and flipped out? Poor DH would have been so confused. I'm so mad right now (at FIL). What makes it worse is I have to see the jerk this weekend at my girls' dance recital this weekend.

[paddyb]

Your FIL is a complete and utter asshole.

[cookiesandwine]

I'd tell H that I'm done seeing FIL and if that if he doesn't have my back, I'd tell him that he may go live with FIL if he thinks he's so entertaining.

[bliz1712]

That's crazy that he would do that type of a joke. I can see sending something goofy, but not to that extreme. Does you H know? I would make him tell FIL that it is totally unacceptable and make FIL apologize. And maybe a lock code on your phone is now in order.

[huskiefanuw]

Not a acceptable "joke" ever!

[britbratjf]

Apr 29, 2015 16:47:09 GMT -5 cookiesandwine said:

I'd tell H that I'm done seeing FIL and if that if he doesn't have my back, I'd tell him that he may go live with FIL if he thinks he's so entertaining.

Uh this. That is effed up.

[pinkluna]

I would be livid and would expect DH to talk to him about how that is NOT OK EVER.

[junkytrunk]

Umm what?! Who does that as a joke? And to make matters worse, your FIL? Wow, I would not even want to see him for a very long time.

[mrsdonati]

Totally no ok! Who jokes like that?!

[sarasansh]

What the eff? That is totally inappropriate for anyone to do, especially a family member! That's a big hell to the no.

[nursedesi]

I would be so so so mad. I can't believe he would even do that!

[trixi282]

Absolutely unacceptable! I can't believe anyone would think that's funny... especially coming from your FIL! I would definitely have H talk to him about how inapropriate that was.

[mightybee]

Wow--my heart dropped reading this thinking for a moment it was true. How could he possibly think that was funny?

How did your H react?

[starfishy]

Dick move. Not funny.

[xanthepants]

Totally unacceptable. Who even thinks this is remotely entertaining? He wants to get a rise out of you? He he just got it. He no longer gets to see you or the grand kids. Buhbye.

[MissMusic]

Dick move, FIL. Dick move.

[somethingcleverer]

Apr 29, 2015 19:54:05 GMT -5 xanthepants said:

Totally unacceptable. Who even thinks this is remotely entertaining? He wants to get a rise out of you? He he just got it. He no longer gets to see you or the grand kids. Buhbye.

This! That is just so wrong on every level. 

[abseptember]

Seriously f-ed up. Have you told your H about it? If so, what was his reacton?

[vanessalc]

That's not remotely funny. I'm sorry your FIL is a dick. Has he always been that way?

[aimeefarrahfowler]

fuck. that. shit.

not even a little bit funny.

[sarahandeddie]

DH saw the text about 20min after it was sent. He sent me a message and said it wasn't him.

DH is mad. He said he was using his phone and got up to tend to the girls. FIL grabbed it before it locked. He said his dad was trying to act like a big shot because they were at a mutual friends place. This is typical behavior for FIL (trying to be cool) but he took it way to far this time.

I'd uninvite him to the girls' dance recital but I don't want to upset the girls. Maybe he won't come since I told him he couldn't bring his gf (who happens to be younger than me) because we only get a set amount of tickets.

[cbear]

I would be fucking livid and DH would be having a talk with his dad! And the only reason I would have DH have to the talk is because I wouldn't trust myself to not lay into him lol! What a jerk!

[jennmm]

That's not even close to being funny. I'd be pissed.

[roo1582]

Wow...That is seriously messed up. I don't even have words to express how mad I would be. Does your FIL have a vendetta against you? Did your H lay into him once he found the text? After this weekend, I would definitely say you need to cut ties for a while.

[aylafsu1881]

That is not a joke. Your FIL is an ass and an idiot. A comment like that can destroy a marriage. I am not sure why your FIL would think that is funny. I agree with cookiesandwine, you need to cut FIL out of your life. If that is the kind of stuff he finds funny, that is unacceptable.

[ThePinkSuperhero]

It's not funny at all and DH needs to impress that on him, strongly. I don't think this alone is "cut him out of your life" worthy, but he needs to ever, ever play that again.

[summergirl1211]

I'm honestly at a loss for words. I would be so, so upset. I would definitely take a very long break from him and hope your H is on the same page. Absolutely ridiculous and not in any imaginable way funny. So effed up. I'm sorry lady.

[traceyt07]

Sounds like he's very childish. Honestly, I don't think I'd cut ties with him- unless you think he was being malicious. I would definitely have a discussion with him about why that's completely inappropriate.

[tribute17]

I always think it is so sad when I'm more mature than people my parents' age. He is sad and pathetic if he is trying to "show off" by doing something like this. Must be an immature/sad old man if he resorts to this. I would definitely have H say something and take a break for a while.

[mrsplaydoh]

That is not something to joke about whatsoever. That is messed up, I'd be so pissed. Sorry FIL is that kind of person. Ugh!!