"The erotically-shaped urn is part of "21 Grams," a memory box devised by Sturkenboom to help grieving people feel the presence of their loved ones."
I can't make this shit up!
I'm not going to click that link at work, but my good GOD! That's absolutely disgusting and I don't even understand how diddling yourself with your loved ones urn is going to help you grieve.
Post by mrskblack11 on Apr 30, 2015 14:14:39 GMT -5
It is ridiculous how expensive it is to bury a loved one. One of my grandmother's grave site does not have a name plate because my grandfather can't afford the $1,200 to have it. I think I will request my organs be donated to science and my body cremated.
I have a necklace that contains my other grandmother's ashes. it is not something I wear but it means a lot to me to have it. All the girl cousins have a similar necklace. My sister wears her almost everyday. ETA: The necklaces are sterling silver and heart shaped. You would never know that there were ashes inside.
My cousin lost one of her twins a month after she was born. They recently had her ashes made into a glass blown globe. I like that the ashes can be made into something new, instead of just sitting in an urn over the fireplace.
Kids often outgrow their allergies. Or maybe by the time this generation grows up they will have figured out the cause of all these extreme allergies and be able to eliminate them.
You guys do realize that the very babies in our bellies causing us to be on this forum and share our thoughts could wind up being those special accommodations needing allergy kids? I hope no one else has to deal with allergies in your kids or their friends. Obviously some members have shared they and their loved ones deal with very serious allergies. At some point I hope those of you who don't agree with restrictions recognize sometimes sacrifices are required to protect the welfare of a person who has just as much justification and right to exist as the rest of us.
Yep. Buttered bread, grilled in a pan. Unless you have a peanut allergy I highly recommend you try one. Delicious.
Delicious is my 2 1/2 year olds favorite word at the moment. I'm loving it.
This reminds me of the conversation I had with a neighbor kid who was here yesterday. He came up stairs and asked if he and DS could make PB&Js. I told him I would love that but that we were out of bread. He was totally floored that we had no bread in the house. I told him "Yeah, I just bought $100 of groceries and forgot to get the bread." He then responded by shaking his head and saying, "Wow, I bet you feel kind of dumb." LMAO
I wonder if this ends up being kind of similar to a pudgy pie???
What's a pudgy pie?
It's something done during camping... you have this cast iron pie holder thing, and you put in it two layers of bread or dough or whatever, and in between those layers, you fill it with goodness... we often did pie fillings, but I've seen people do smore fillings, or things like that. Then you cook it over the fire, and have this toasty, gooey breaded sweet treat!
It's something done during camping... you have this cast iron pie holder thing, and you put in it two layers of bread or dough or whatever, and in between those layers, you fill it with goodness... we often did pie fillings, but I've seen people do smore fillings, or things like that. Then you cook it over the fire, and have this toasty, gooey breaded sweet treat!
We call these bush pies in our neck of the woods, and we have bush pied many different things!
Here's my UO: Most food allergy parents drive me nuts (no pun intended ). I get that you're looking out for your kid, but you're not the one who has to deal with the allergy. You're not the one who can die from it or can't eat certain foods or at certain restaurants. I think a lot of these bans and rules are stemming from parent's paranoia and stress rather than the kid truly being at risk. The reason I say this is because as an adult, I've noticed a lot of people who don't take food allergies seriously because of the hysteria that has been created over them. When a child is in elementary school, they should be more than capable of identifying which foods they're allergic to and staying away from them. I specifically remember, in first grade, a lunch lady trying to make me eat something that I grabbed at the cafeteria, that I didnt know had nuts in it and I had to stand up to her and tell her I was allergic and could die.
If a kid is bringing in snacks for a birthday for his whole class, then yes, of course they should bring in something that is non-allergenic. But I think "nut free zones" in schools are ridiculous.
What??
No, you're right, I won't have to deal with it if my kid dies from his food allergy... You're right, I don't have to deal with trying to figure out what to feed my 2 year old when we're out at restaurants, or worry about cross contamination if on the rare chance that we do get him something from the restaurant.
And you're right, my kid must not be truly, seriously, "at risk" from his food allergies, it must just all be the hype I'm creating... probably overreacting in fact. Forget the fact that he's gone into anaphylaxis shock on multiple occasions, and forget the fact that his levels were off the chart allergic when we blood tested him to verify...
Good grief. Sorry @demanda88, that one made me ragey!
@badwolf321,IMO, Southwest Airlines needs to do away with their peanuts because of the amount of salt on those things. Geez- my poor husband turned red faced and swollen after eating a bag. Jet Blue has an amazing, free snack selection!!
@badwolf321,IMO, Southwest Airlines needs to do away with their peanuts because of the amount of salt on those things. Geez- my poor husband turned red faced and swollen after eating a bag. Jet Blue has an amazing, free snack selection!!
I think it was northwest that did the oven fresh cookies and milk. I'm all for everyone having that as a free snack. I totally understand though. My husband can't have too much sodium because of kidney stones.
Frontier used to do warm cookies too but I think DH said on a recent flight they weren't doing them anymore.
I really don't expect the world will cater to my child's allergies. But as I stated at 4 years old neither he nor his peers are capable of managing this issue. Do I expect his high school or workplace to be nut-free? Of course not. We have all sorts of rules and laws in society to protect vulnerable people. Nut-free preschools, schools and flights are but one small example.
And @demanda, perhaps if you had witnessed your child literally unable to breathe after ingesting an allergen, you'd be pretty paranoid about allergens too. Again, there's a big difference between a child old enough to advocate for himself/herself and a young child who doesn't yet have that ability.
I think we can all agree that we are speaking in regards to older children - elementary school aged. I don't recall anyone mentioning preschoolers or toddlers being able to handle their own food consumption. I can get behind specific class rooms banning foods if a student is allergic, but not an entire school. Likewise, if you have a nut allergy and you don't want me to eat peanuts on an airplane - fine, I have no issue with that. I don't think that it should be expected for all airplanes to be nut-free though.
I don't really have a dog in this fight (I guess I just don't care for peanuts enough to get super pissed--or even moderately annoyed--about not being able to pack a PB&J in a kid's lunch), but thought I'd throw this out there in light of the "older kids should know better" argument:
Obviously the severity of an allergy will differ from person to person. A 13 year old (incidentally, the daughter of a friend of a friend of DH's family) died about a couple years ago from biting into--and spitting out--a dessert made with nuts. From the news articles I've seen, it sounds like she and her parents couldn't have acted more reasonably:
"A family friend told the Bee that Giorgi was diligent about her allergy, and spit out the treat right away after tasting peanuts.
'She never put any dessert or anything that was questionable into her mouth without consulting someone,' said Augusta Brothers, the family friend.
Giorgi found her mother, who gave her a dose of Benadryl and monitored her. For a short time the girl seemed fine, but 20 minutes later she had trouble breathing.
Her father, a doctor, administered an EpiPen, which contains epinephrine, three times before she stopped breathing."
DH is allergic to walnuts, but could probably tolerate a bite without having a crazy reaction. If LO has the same allergy, I probably won't be "crazy" about asking people to avoid having nuts around. If I were that little girl's mom, you bet your ass I would.
Post by honeybunches101 on Apr 30, 2015 17:30:11 GMT -5
DS is in a nut free preschool and it's really not a big deal. We have to send snacks to share and just have to read labels to make sure they aren't processed with any kind of nut. He loves PBJ but we can eat them any other meal. It's 5 meals a week without nuts so other kids don't die if a classmate forgets to wash their hands. There's a parent in another class whose kid is allergic to milk products that haven't been baked, so that class can't send buttercream frosting or whatever. But he never checks labels for the nut warning and is always getting called out for it!! Guess he only cares about his own kid.
As for chiropractors, I have gone to several and never had a positive experience. They wanted to put me in traction for back pain when I was in college and it was very uncomfortable and didn't help at all. Neither did PT for that matter. But 8 weeks of acupuncture and I felt almost 100% better. It has been amazing for me! We also tried for 18 months to get pregnant this time around, and the first cycle I added acupuncture, it worked! I do not understand the 'science' at all but I am a believer.
Unless I'm in an accident and can donate my organs, I plan to donate my body to a med school to be used in the cadaver classes.
I work with geriatric patients and I have a few who have designated this as their wish; whatever medical school they've chosen gives them stickers that are all over their chart and they have an instruction page with what to do when they pass. Every time I see one of their charts I just want to give the patient a little hug for doing this.
Post by tatersalad on Apr 30, 2015 18:02:21 GMT -5
I've got another one.
I think breaking up in to due date check-ins by week is ridiculous. Babies rarely arrive by their due date. They are highly likely to be a week + early or late. If you are going to break up into due date groups, at least do front of the bus, middle, and end.
Post by caseyathebat on Apr 30, 2015 18:05:14 GMT -5
Ok I tried to keep quiet but I just can't I have to put my two sense in. As a mother of a child who is in school this whole debate about peanut allergy is kinda rediculous. My 8 year old goes to private school so im talking from that stand point not public. I have no idea what they do in public school here in cali. There is a peanut free table at DS school and for party's we are not aloud to bring any type of peanut. I'm room mom for my son's class and there are also 2 kids who are gluten free. When there is going to be a party we inform the parent and they normally bring something for their child. Seriously the kids aren't crying over a lack of peanuts at there party. It never bothered me. By 8 each child who has an allergy knows what he or she should or shouldn't have. I always bring a fruit salad to every party because thats something that all kids can have. I just don't understand why this is such a big deal. I think that our kids who don't have an allergy need to be respectful and the kids with an allergy need to be respectful. I haven't ever seen a child have an issue where it was spread. I also have never seen a child be made fun of or looked at differently. At lunch the kids who don't have an allergy can eat peanut butter and jelly.
Re airplan snacks: When we were in South Africa a few years ago we got complimentary full meals on all SA Air flights. I flew from Port Elizabeth to Cape Town (maybe an hour) and got a sandwich and a beer. I loved it there.
Just wanted to add a +1 for SA having amazing service! We were on an overnight flight so I didn't want my first meal and the flight attendant said he would keep it warm and bring it to me later it I wanted it. They spoiled us rotten.
I don't mean to offend, but I think this comment is a little extreme... nobody is saying peanuts need to be banned in a park or something... It's an issue to smaller confined indoor places.
Honestly... this issue is complex and will probably never have straight-forward answers. I understand both sides of the issue, and there have been questions posed on here that I just don't know the answer to. But in my opinion, the bottom line is that if people's lives are at stake, it's worth the "inconvenience" that is placed on people. It's just not a question in my mind, and not worth the risk.
It was supposed to be extreme. That was kind of the point. "Smaller confined indoor spaces" are not the only places people have allergic reactions. PPs have noted being allergic to someone's breath after a snack. So do all cashiers now have to eat peanut free snacks because they might have to check out someone with a peanut allergy?
What I was trying to get at is that is nobody else's responsibility to keep you from having an allergic reaction. If you or your child is at risk of dying on an airplane because Joe Shmoe bought some trail mix at the Hudson News before the flight, it is up to YOU to have precautions in place.
They discovered the food allergy was so severe on the airplane and did not know beforehand. But thanks for the assumptions.
Post by sidneyvicious on Apr 30, 2015 21:23:53 GMT -5
Basically, what I got from this thread is, if it doesn't affect you, then fuck it. Allergies today are like nothing we've seen in the past. Why? I don't know, and I don't care. I'm no scientist. What I care about is never, ever again having my nephew taken out of school on a stretcher and taken by ambulance to the ER because some selfish asshat decided to say fuck it to school rules and give their kid Peanut butter for lunch. Just because it wasn't necessary when we were kids does not mean it's not a valid issue for kids right now. The fact that anyone would shout from the rooftops that it's not fair to make kids go without PB and J at lunch but at the same time has no problem eradicating nuts from an airplane for herself shows a disgusting lack of compassion. For children for fuck's sake. Here's my unpopular opinion: I'm pretty sick of the Demanda Show. It's a never ending shit show of entitlement.
I don't mean to offend, but I think this comment is a little extreme... nobody is saying peanuts need to be banned in a park or something... It's an issue to smaller confined indoor places.
Honestly... this issue is complex and will probably never have straight-forward answers. I understand both sides of the issue, and there have been questions posed on here that I just don't know the answer to. But in my opinion, the bottom line is that if people's lives are at stake, it's worth the "inconvenience" that is placed on people. It's just not a question in my mind, and not worth the risk.
It was supposed to be extreme. That was kind of the point. "Smaller confined indoor spaces" are not the only places people have allergic reactions. PPs have noted being allergic to someone's breath after a snack. So do all cashiers now have to eat peanut free snacks because they might have to check out someone with a peanut allergy?
What I was trying to get at is that is nobody else's responsibility to keep you from having an allergic reaction. If you or your child is at risk of dying on an airplane because Joe Shmoe bought some trail mix at the Hudson News before the flight, it is up to YOU to have precautions in place.
Okay, I'll chime in. I have a kid with an anaphylactic peanut allergy, ingestion only. Her classroom (kindergarten) is peanut free. I did not request it, and she is very careful about what she eats. She has an epipen in her backpack, one in the office, and the teacher, principal, and classroom aids all know how to use it. So does her bus driver.
HOWEVER, the school district, along with the school nurse, made the decision to make the classroom peanut free. Why? Because in a class with 25+ kids that eat lunch in their classroom, shit happens. They don't want the added stress. Our district has also, at times, had a banana-free middle school (500 kids), and a peanut free middle school. I used to think it was silly too, til I was the mom calling 911.
Post by ombradellarosa on May 1, 2015 4:20:02 GMT -5
I actually had an unpopular opinion and I forgot to post it on Thursday! Blast. I'm going to post it now anyway just in case.
I don't understand the fuss over "thigh gap". How skinny do your legs have to be for your thighs not to touch? I can't remember the last time my thighs didn't touch. And I don't particularly think it's attractive to have a space between them.
Basically, what I got from this thread is, if it doesn't affect you, then fuck it. Allergies today are like nothing we've seen in the past. Why? I don't know, and I don't care. I'm no scientist. What I care about is never, ever again having my nephew taken out of school on a stretcher and taken by ambulance to the ER because some selfish asshat decided to say fuck it to school rules and give their kid Peanut butter for lunch. Just because it wasn't necessary when we were kids does not mean it's not a valid issue for kids right now. The fact that anyone would shout from the rooftops that it's not fair to make kids go without PB and J at lunch but at the same time has no problem eradicating nuts from an airplane for herself shows a disgusting lack of compassion. For children for fuck's sake. Here's my unpopular opinion: I'm pretty sick of the Demanda Show. It's a never ending shit show of entitlement.
I just want to add that your logic skills are incredibly subpar if this is what you got from my posts. There is a huge difference between a PB&J in a school cafeteria and nuts on an airplane (which, by the way I said was dangerous for anyone with a nut allergy, not just me). So you can fuck right off with your unsubstantiated, and quite frankly stupid, comment about my disgusting lack of compassion for children.
Wow, no. I have a feeling people flame you not because your opinions differ but because instead of a having an adult debate you put yourself high up on your pedestal and insult their intelligence when they don't agree with you. Good riddance.
Allergies have increased because of immunology. It's an interesting biological response that you can read a ton about if you're interested. Basically because of vaccines (and this isn't an anti-vaccine rant) our bodies immune systems have become stronger - we are less likely to get things like consumption and small pox. And to oversimplify, this gives the immune system less to do and it becomes hyper reactive/vigilant to allergens. This is also why there's in increase in asthma.
I can't support the whole "no peanut butter wha-wha" tears. It's such a minor thing. My son's best friend is allergic to eggs, tree nuts, and seeds. And I've never had any issue with sending in lunches that are allergy friendly. I feel much worse for friend's mother who has to be hypervigilant about everything her kid comes in contact with. She can't even buy regular bread because it's so hard to find something that is made in an egg-free facility. And for 2 years he had to miss out on birthday parties because it's hard to explain to a toddler that they can't eat any food, or have cake.
If you need ideas, let me know, but it's really not that hard. My kid doesn't even know the difference between peanut butter, sunflower seed butter, or soy butter.
I have not read the rest of the thread yet, but I have to agree with this wholeheartedly. As a teacher who has watched a child go into anaphylactic shock from peanut butter residue that was left on the table when she came in to sit down for lunch, it's not something to mess with. I think we all agree to follow safety rules that reinforce safety in life and death situations in other areas, and that's why schools are so strict about this.
Thank you! As a teacher the amount of extra stress in my day because I have control of someone's child who could have a reaction like this is very very real. I know we have an epi-pen but I never want to use it and would far rather prevent than have to jab a kid and then call an ambulance. In classrooms kids share everything so if one of my students were to get residue on a pencil or eraser it could cause a life threatening situation. All of my students are aware of the allergy and try their best(with adult help) to avoid the allergens in our classrooms.
I just want to add that your logic skills are incredibly subpar if this is what you got from my posts. There is a huge difference between a PB&J in a school cafeteria and nuts on an airplane (which, by the way I said was dangerous for anyone with a nut allergy, not just me). So you can fuck right off with your unsubstantiated, and quite frankly stupid, comment about my disgusting lack of compassion for children.
Wow, no. I have a feeling people flame you not because your opinions differ but because instead of a having an adult debate you put yourself high up on your pedestal and insult their intelligence when they don't agree with you. Good riddance.
@demanda88, I have to agree with this one. It's the language that is used when trying to to convey your opinion. I immediately shut down when someone starts to tout off their education, colleges attended and insults that belittle others. Many women on here are highly educated, intelligent and successful in their fields- when you got it, you don't flaunt it or throw it in others' faces . There is a difference between a healthy,educated debate and belittling others via debate. Know when to "agree to disagree" and laugh things off. Just like you, everyone is entitled to their opinion, even if you feel it is ridiculous and "unsubstantiated."
I hope you stick around, as we are near the end and have all been on this journey together. It's quite ridiculous to get ruffled over something so minuscule.
Hmm, well I guess I don't know. I have a child without any allergies so it's hard to put myself on the other side, but I can't imagine expecting a school to ban huge lists of things to accommodate us. Peanuts is easy to work around was all I was saying.
Again, haven't read the whole thread, so my apologies if I am redundant. Most classrooms are provided with a list of severe allergens for their students, and those items are typically prohibited, and there are rules about sharing food. Unless the allergy is airborne, such as nuts, there should be no reason that you can't send that item in with your non-allergic child.
You (and others) may find it difficult to go back and read the thread, since most of the posts on the subject were deleted.
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