Team Green - Why?

[mkissa]

We are currently Team Green though not sure if that will change at the AS or not. For me its two fold: 1st I am one of the worst secret keepers ever and this is the biggest secret and I love that aspect of it. I love the idea of DH telling me what we have had and then going out to tell our families and friends at the hospital. 2nd I am a big fan of neutral everything. We plan on having one more and I really want to reuse.

[mkissa]

Jan 21, 2015 16:03:01 GMT -5 hurricaine said:

My husband and I are terrible at surprises. We usually wind up giving each other Christmas and birthday presents early. So in addition to not wanting gender specific stuff - we're far more liberal when it comes to roles in our family and while I'm very much the woman and he's very much the man, my family finds it very confusing that I know more about tools and he knows more about cooking - I also didn't want to deal with the gender stuff any earlier than we had to.

It was a lovely surprise and we'll be TG this time around again (though I'll admit the term TG kind of annoys me a bit, I can't even figure out why).

THIS IS ME!! I try to give people their gifts early or just try to tell them what it is!

[kmartturtle]

Jan 21, 2015 14:11:19 GMT -5 joi922 said:

I've said before that my husband and I were lying liars about this. I wanted to be team green. He wanted to find out. We were still talking about it as we went into the anatomy scan, but it immediately became moot because my son's penis was pretty much the first thing we saw at the scan. After that, my husband decided he didn't want to tell anyone else and wanted to keep it just between us. I was fine with that since I had wanted to be team green anyway.

My primary motivations were 1) I liked the idea of finding out at the birth (oh well) and 2) I am really not a fan of the all pink/all blue mentality. We knew we wanted at least one more child, so we wanted to get neutral stuff we could use again.

Most people in our families didn't bat an eye when we said we were team green, but there were two who said, in complete seriousness, "but then how will you know how to decorate the nursery?" Uh, the same way anyone else does? With baby stuff? Anyway, we're still debating whether to be team green this time around.

I've been fearful of this happening. We are going to be team green, but I had already decided that at our 20-ish week ultrasound, we wouldn't even look at the screen until we got the "all clear." I would hate for the tech to put it just on the right spot and automatically without trying, figure out that it was a boy/girl. I hate that that happened for you.

[divinemsbee]

We're Team Finding Out, just because we can. There's no super frilly or manly man nursery in the works, although there are a couple of different fabric choices that I have as specifics. We're not particularly restrictive in our sex roles either. Mainly it's to nail down names and possibly monograms (because Southern).

Also, and flame me if you must, I think both H and I have a teeny-tiny microscopic bit of sex preference (yes, boys can dance and girls can play sports, I know all of that). So, I'd like us to know so we can have that millisecond of 'oh, okay, cool' and then move forward with planning and buying stuff and getting super excited. Obviously with what we've been through, healthy baby is paramount, but I know it's there and I'd rather just deal. In a way, since we've been waiting so long there are so many expectations and wants that we've been wishing for 2 years. It's complicated.

And, while this might, and I hope does, change by 20 weeks, I'm feeling pretty disconnected. Not a lot of symptoms and nothing else, so it's hard for me to reconcile 'baby' as a concept. I'm not unhappy, just kind of like it's still not real. So I think being able to give the blump a name will help with the connecting.

[abvintage]

Jan 21, 2015 13:55:06 GMT -5 quietdownfish said:

Jan 21, 2015 13:53:19 GMT -5 gidgetgirl08 said:

We found out with DD and DS. I want this one to be a surprise and we have boy and girl stuff so we'll be "ready" either way. only thing I'm going to miss is having a super cute picture/take home outfit for LO.

You can find a lot of super cute unisex things. 

We found this at BabyGap --

Do they still have this? I tried (briefly) and couldn't find it.

[hurricaine]

Jan 21, 2015 16:07:03 GMT -5 mkissa said:

Jan 21, 2015 16:03:01 GMT -5 hurricaine said:

My husband and I are terrible at surprises. We usually wind up giving each other Christmas and birthday presents early. So in addition to not wanting gender specific stuff - we're far more liberal when it comes to roles in our family and while I'm very much the woman and he's very much the man, my family finds it very confusing that I know more about tools and he knows more about cooking - I also didn't want to deal with the gender stuff any earlier than we had to.

It was a lovely surprise and we'll be TG this time around again (though I'll admit the term TG kind of annoys me a bit, I can't even figure out why).

THIS IS ME!! I try to give people their gifts early or just try to tell them what it is!

Oh man, I managed to give my husband a surprise birthday once. I thought I was going to explode. It was his 30th, I was due right around his birthday so a month in advance I had all of his guy friend show up at our house and kidnap him for a day of paintball, then I met him with a bunch of other people to watch the fights in a private room at a club. It was awesome and so so manly, and I don't think I'll ever pull something like that off again. 

The TG thing really forces us to be surprised by something, which is probably good. 

[quietdownfish]

abvintage let me talk to DH. If you can't find it I'm totally willing to donate it to you. It was cute for a coming home outfit but we never put it on again because so.many.buttons.

[boox191]

I have wanted to be Team Green since I was a little girl! I've entertained this fantasy with every single boyfriend I've ever had, and thought about how they'd sound saying "it's a girl!" or "it's a boy!". I was thrilled when Fiance was immediately on board with the sex being a surprise, and I get a little teary reading all the replies and stories. I'm also not a fan of pink for girls, and would rather err on the side of my daughter playing with boy toys than getting her a "girl version" any day. I'm going to be just fine putting my baby in neutrals and/or more 'male' outfits. . . I'm all about Baby rocking the black/grey/neutral look for a few months.

[abvintage]

Jan 21, 2015 16:34:52 GMT -5 quietdownfish said:

abvintage let me talk to DH. If you can't find it I'm totally willing to donate it to you. It was cute for a coming home outfit but we never put it on again because so.many.buttons.

That's sweet but I'd hate for you to go to the trouble. I found something similar that just has baby written in grey cursive on the front. Might order that. It's kind of pricey but cute for an announcement.

[daffodil428]

I am also team green and it's for all the reasons previously stated plus one extra reason. Our last loss was right after we found out the sex. We want to seperate this pregnancy as its own and one way is by being team green.

We've waited for this baby for so long. I tear up just thinking about the moment we are finally meeting our rainbow baby and I hear "ITS A..."

[melohdy]

I want to do it this time for the surprise aspect. However, my h wants to find out and no way can he keep a secret.

[cubberss]

We're team green! We have three other LOs, and have found out each time. This will be our last, so I want to try something different this time.

[anaberry]

We're team green
1. Because I don't want to hear
What's the name?
And see their faces crinkle. I'd pomel them.
2. It'll make me push harder because I'm a curious cat, and it'll kill me not knowing.
3. My DH has to be the one that tells me
And 4 we want two babies, and I plan to save on room decorations.
Oh, and I kinda love the romantic vintage feel of doing it like they did back then. So long as my baby is healthy, I'm gonna be one lucky assed mom when I see my koala bear!

[runningmommy519]

Jan 21, 2015 16:11:50 GMT -5 kmartturtle said:

Jan 21, 2015 14:11:19 GMT -5 joi922 said:

I've said before that my husband and I were lying liars about this. I wanted to be team green. He wanted to find out. We were still talking about it as we went into the anatomy scan, but it immediately became moot because my son's penis was pretty much the first thing we saw at the scan. After that, my husband decided he didn't want to tell anyone else and wanted to keep it just between us. I was fine with that since I had wanted to be team green anyway.

My primary motivations were 1) I liked the idea of finding out at the birth (oh well) and 2) I am really not a fan of the all pink/all blue mentality. We knew we wanted at least one more child, so we wanted to get neutral stuff we could use again.

Most people in our families didn't bat an eye when we said we were team green, but there were two who said, in complete seriousness, "but then how will you know how to decorate the nursery?" Uh, the same way anyone else does? With baby stuff? Anyway, we're still debating whether to be team green this time around.

I've been fearful of this happening. We are going to be team green, but I had already decided that at our 20-ish week ultrasound, we wouldn't even look at the screen until we got the "all clear." I would hate for the tech to put it just on the right spot and automatically without trying, figure out that it was a boy/girl. I hate that that happened for you.

My OB is very liberal when it comes to ultrasounds.  I had many of them in my pregnancy last time.  Almost every appointment. We always made it a point to tell him that we didn't want to know.  DS was never showing the goods so we got lucky but my doctor always checked first then he showed us the screen. 

[runningmommy519]

I had always wanted to be team green. So it was easy last time.


This time finding out appeals to me but when I ask DH about it he says, "whats the point" which is his way of saying that he doesn't want to find out. So we're team green again this time.

I like being able to annoy people. I also think its fun having people guess the whole time.

[2dumbdogs]

Jan 21, 2015 18:21:18 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I had always wanted to be team green. So it was easy last time.


This time finding out appeals to me but when I ask DH about it he says, "whats the point" which is his way of saying that he doesn't want to find out. So we're team green again this time.

I like being able to annoy people. I also think its fun having people guess the whole time.

I think I like the added benefit of driving people crazy as well. Why do they get so worked up over it! !

[ampaints]

DH and I both just assumed we would be team green. Is it bad that I'm really enjoying irritating my MIL. One if my best friends didn't find out and actually waited a few days to announce. It was amazing to get a chance to go to the hospital and really find out.

[shellyr]

We are Team Green for now because we are likely One and Done and we are excited for the surprise. I reserve the right to change my mind, however, if further complications arise.

[Deleted]

We are Team Green this time around bcse I'll be having a RCS and I need something to focus on that isn't the surgery! We're really excited to find out what this LO is on the day-of, but with DH's family history, it's really likely it's a boy lol;)

[annabananabomb]

We are finding out. H thinks it will help him bond with the baby and feel like things are a bit more "real".

I totally get that, he isn't physically reminded constantly like I am.

I wanted the surprise and I wanted to put off all the "gendering" for as long as possible. But I'm keen to support H to bond with bubs so I relented.