I'm always interested to see why people choose not to find out the sex of the baby. I'm firmly Team Green. I just hate buying into the whole "girls are pink boys are blue" "princesses vs. baseball" dichotomy. I hope that not finding out at least holds off SOME of the pigeon-holing of my child into a "type." I also LOVE surprises.
Post by bibliothecary on Jan 21, 2015 13:40:57 GMT -5
This is my first and hopefully not my last. My mother will certainly be buying me A LOT of items. I don't want a bunch of gendered items that I cannot reuse.
Post by quietdownfish on Jan 21, 2015 13:46:23 GMT -5
TBH, we did it for the surprise aspect. Also, to go against the grain. Finding out is exciting at any point, whether via US or labor. I loved, loved, loved the moment I held up my son and found out. Then MH getting to tell our families with tears running down his face. It was a beautiful moment that I look forward to reliving one more time.
Plus, we can reuse all the big stuff. Not that it matters if we had a pink swing or bouncer... but we are also moving our son to a new room and don't have to repaint the nursery so that is also a plus
Post by gidgetgirl08 on Jan 21, 2015 13:53:19 GMT -5
We found out with DD and DS. I want this one to be a surprise and we have boy and girl stuff so we'll be "ready" either way. only thing I'm going to miss is having a super cute picture/take home outfit for LO.
Edit to add: I'm 1/2 way to member! this is harder than I thought.
We found out with DD and DS. I want this one to be a surprise and we have boy and girl stuff so we'll be "ready" either way. only thing I'm going to miss is having a super cute picture/take home outfit for LO.
why can't this one have a cute outfit? because it's not blue or pink so therefore not cute?
We found out with DD and DS. I want this one to be a surprise and we have boy and girl stuff so we'll be "ready" either way. only thing I'm going to miss is having a super cute picture/take home outfit for LO.
We were team green with my last and it was so fun! I loved keeping everyone waiting and hearing the comments of "how do you do it?!". I think there are so few things in life that are truly a surprise anymore. I can say though, it was though after birth calling my son a "him". I would go back a forth with he and she being that you don't have those few months of knowing and a customizing yourself to say he or she! We haven't decided what we will do this time around.
Post by elvenqueen on Jan 21, 2015 14:02:25 GMT -5
I'm worried I'll be disappointed. I know how that sounds, but I really think that as I'm most likely only having one, I'll have a short moment of "oh but I'll never have a ____". I don't actually have a preference either way, but I don't want to have that wistful moment at all. It probably still sounds silly. But I think it'll be an awesome moment when LO is plonked onto my chest and I find out "who" it is instead of "what" it is. Am I being cheesy now? Should I go sit in the corner?
This is my first and hopefully not my last. My mother will certainly be buying me A LOT of items. I don't want a bunch of gendered items that I cannot reuse.
This exactly. And "for the surprise." But I get the idea that whether you find out at the A/S or at birth, it's still a surprise.
Something I really liked it, my sister did it with her last kid, and it was SO NICE NOT KNOWING. With her first, because I (we) knew it was a girl, I (and my family) spent WAY too much money before the kid was here on so much crap. This time, with the last one, I didn't spend one cent before the kid was born. Hell, I still bought her stuff, but I know I spent 1/200th on her, because I wasn't buying meaningless crap throughout her whole pregnancy.
I'm trying to prevent myself from doing the same. Don't get me wrong, I will probably buy a few neutral things along the way... but I anticipate spending a lot less than if I were to have known the sex.
I've said before that my husband and I were lying liars about this. I wanted to be team green. He wanted to find out. We were still talking about it as we went into the anatomy scan, but it immediately became moot because my son's penis was pretty much the first thing we saw at the scan. After that, my husband decided he didn't want to tell anyone else and wanted to keep it just between us. I was fine with that since I had wanted to be team green anyway.
My primary motivations were 1) I liked the idea of finding out at the birth (oh well) and 2) I am really not a fan of the all pink/all blue mentality. We knew we wanted at least one more child, so we wanted to get neutral stuff we could use again.
Most people in our families didn't bat an eye when we said we were team green, but there were two who said, in complete seriousness, "but then how will you know how to decorate the nursery?" Uh, the same way anyone else does? With baby stuff? Anyway, we're still debating whether to be team green this time around.
I've said before that my husband and I were lying liars about this. I wanted to be team green. He wanted to find out. We were still talking about it as we went into the anatomy scan, but it immediately became moot because my son's penis was pretty much the first thing we saw at the scan. After that, my husband decided he didn't want to tell anyone else and wanted to keep it just between us. I was fine with that since I had wanted to be team green anyway.
Post by tmclawchick on Jan 21, 2015 14:20:31 GMT -5
DH was alllll about being Team Green when we were expecting DS. I was totally against it at first, thinking I needed to plan every last detail out he ended up talking me into it and I'm glad I agreed to it! Knowing the sex ahead of time would have maybe been nice in some aspects, but I'll never forget hearing him say "It's a boy. It's a BOY!!!"... I can hear it right now: the inflection and the elation, ahhh... such an amazing moment. We're going to remain TG with all of our pregnancies: since we have all gender neutral newborn gear, we're set! And the moment in the delivery room is flippin' awesome and totally worth the wait!
I've said before that my husband and I were lying liars about this. I wanted to be team green. He wanted to find out. We were still talking about it as we went into the anatomy scan, but it immediately became moot because my son's penis was pretty much the first thing we saw at the scan. After that, my husband decided he didn't want to tell anyone else and wanted to keep it just between us. I was fine with that since I had wanted to be team green anyway.
Oh I think this would make me so mad!! Ha!
I actually said "well damn, there's no mistaking that!" I thought it was serendipitous because our compromise was DH looking and me not, and I thought it was really unlikely he could keep the secret from me for 20 more weeks without accidentally slipping up (turns out he could since he didn't breathe a word to anyone else).
These ladies talked me into Team Green back on TB. I am still all for it. Convincing DH is another story. We are still debating the issue. I want to be Team Green to avoid all the gendered gifts and for the woderful surprise! After going through all the stress and pain of birth, I want that beautiful moment where I finally find out what my rainbow is!
I envy all of you that are Team Green... IDK if I'd ever be able to do it! Not that I am a control freak, plus EVERYTHING for DD was gender neutral to begin with, I just have the UURRGGGEE to know!
This is me. It kills me that I don't already know. I also really liked testing out DS's name for the 20 some weeks before it was actually on the birth certificate. I'm all for people doing whatever though so to each their own.
We had planned to be team green with DD. I really wanted the delivery room surprise and DH was whatever about it. About a week before our ultrasound I realized that DH never really was enthusiastic about being team green so I sat down with him and let him make the decision. He said he really wanted to find out and so we did. However, we led everyone to believe we were team green ands kept the sex a secret until our baby shower. We planned a gender neutral nursery, got gender neutral items and our was great. We revealed that we knew at the baby shower and got the greatest reactions!
This time I bright up being team green with DH and he immediately turned it down. For some reason he has a big preference for another girl and he said he needs time to come to terms with it if we are having a boy.
TBH, we did it for the surprise aspect. Also, to go against the grain. Finding out is exciting at any point, whether via US or labor. I loved, loved, loved the moment I held up my son and found out. Then MH getting to tell our families with tears running down his face. It was a beautiful moment that I look forward to reliving one more time.
Plus, we can reuse all the big stuff. Not that it matters if we had a pink swing or bouncer... but we are also moving our son to a new room and don't have to repaint the nursery so that is also a plus
this made me tear up picturing your h crying and announcing that it's a boy..(yes he kind of looked like brad pitt in my head since I have no clue what he looks like).
This is exactly why I want to be team green this go around. But we are not, we are finding out because H wants to find out. And I can't not find out if he is finding out, because he can't keep a secret. We found out with the first and I figure it would be found to wait and find out this go around.
I envy all of you that are Team Green... IDK if I'd ever be able to do it! Not that I am a control freak, plus EVERYTHING for DD was gender neutral to begin with, I just have the UURRGGGEE to know!
This is me. It kills me that I don't already know. I also really liked testing out DS's name for the 20 some weeks before it was actually on the birth certificate. I'm all for people doing whatever though so to each their own.
Me too. I felt like knowing the sex, and calling the baby by name, helped with the bonding and making it "feel real".
We were team green for our first and are again with this one. For us, we had undergone 2 years of IF treatments. Everything was calculated and planned and everyone was in our business. I don't mean that in a harsh way but that nothing was private or ours alone. So when we finally got pregnant after a bazillion dollars later, we wanted to be surprised at the end of our journey. For us to finally be having a kid, I could have cared less if we brought them home in a ratty old t shirt! After we brought our son home we broke Amazon with our orders!
TBH, we did it for the surprise aspect. Also, to go against the grain. Finding out is exciting at any point, whether via US or labor. I loved, loved, loved the moment I held up my son and found out. Then MH getting to tell our families with tears running down his face. It was a beautiful moment that I look forward to reliving one more time.
Plus, we can reuse all the big stuff. Not that it matters if we had a pink swing or bouncer... but we are also moving our son to a new room and don't have to repaint the nursery so that is also a plus
this made me tear up picturing your h crying and announcing that it's a boy..(yes he kind of looked like brad pitt in my head since I have no clue what he looks like).
This is exactly why I want to be team green this go around. But we are not, we are finding out because H wants to find out. And I can't not find out if he is finding out, because he can't keep a secret. We found out with the first and I figure it would be found to wait and find out this go around.
I cry when I think about it. It was just amazing. MH is emotional as it is, so this threw him over the edge.
He doesn't look much like Brad Pitt, but does look a little like Leonardo DiCaprio!
I do envy those firmly in the Team Green camp. I'm also full gender neutral with just about everything, I'm not into the whole pink vs blue. I'm far too nosey and impatient for all that, though. This time, we are not telling anyone else until the baby shower. I can't tell you the amount of pepto-pink blankets I have from my pregnancy with DD. We will likely donate it, but I haven't brought myself to look at it yet.
Post by quietdownfish on Jan 21, 2015 15:34:55 GMT -5
I also want to add that being team green did not help with shower gifts.
We have exactly 2394023984023 rubber duckies and got hardly anything we needed. Not that it matters because we were prepared to pay for everything, but just so everyone knows. Just because you are team green, does not mean you will get the things you really need. People see baby shower and they want to buy all the cutesy wootsey baby things.
Post by lawndog1216 on Jan 21, 2015 15:39:06 GMT -5
We're Team Green, Take 2 still (but there MAY be caving at the anatomy scan). The primary reason was the sheer surprise factor -- I was all for my husband being the one to tell me what we had, and it was one of the best moments in my life to hear "Dad, you want to call it?" and to see my husband's stunned, over joyed face with the tears starting saying "Am I seeing what I think I'm seeing? OH my gosh it's a girl!"
This time around we're still down with Team Green - everything was neutral-ish with boy-leanings (we have a pale blue crib - I saw no reason why a girl couldn't have a pale blue crib and dammit I just liked it, and we had a navy car seat that I gave away about a month before my BFP). However (maybe this should be on FFFC), the main concern at this point is that we don't want to know (morbid morbid morbid) in case something awful happens. MH doesn't want that "bond" yet - and I do believe knowing creates a different type of prenatal bond for everyone. I say we may cave at the anatomy scan, but I still love the surprise element. We'll see.
Post by hurricaine on Jan 21, 2015 16:03:01 GMT -5
My husband and I are terrible at surprises. We usually wind up giving each other Christmas and birthday presents early. So in addition to not wanting gender specific stuff - we're far more liberal when it comes to roles in our family and while I'm very much the woman and he's very much the man, my family finds it very confusing that I know more about tools and he knows more about cooking - I also didn't want to deal with the gender stuff any earlier than we had to.
It was a lovely surprise and we'll be TG this time around again (though I'll admit the term TG kind of annoys me a bit, I can't even figure out why).
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