Win: Our room will finally be done on Wednesday and we can stop living in such a cramped space.
Whine: Henry always succeeds in acting like a complete asshole every time I try to do something nice with him. Which then makes me look like the asshole parent that can't control her kid. Then Cecilia is also screaming and those other parents/people probably think that I am just a fucking mess and have no business having multiple children.
Post by snickers4everyone on May 4, 2015 10:14:45 GMT -5
WIN!!!!: both kids STTN Saturday night and last night!!!! I don't think that's ever happened before, let alone two nights in a row. We had two huge days Saturday and Sunday (zoo and Busch Gardens) so I don't know if it will happen again tonight. I'm just excited to see it's possible!
Whine: I'm totally wiped and hurting from said huge weekend, even with being in a wheelchair. And I have to do a grocery run today. Boo.
Win: Our room will finally be done on Wednesday and we can stop living in such a cramped space.
Whine: Henry always succeeds in acting like a complete asshole every time I try to do something nice with him. Which then makes me look like the asshole parent that can't control her kid. Then Cecilia is also screaming and those other parents/people probably think that I am just a fucking mess and had no business having multiple children.
If the other people have children they are silently congratulating you for leaving the house with your toddler and newborn situation at all. If they aren't parents their opinion is completely and utterly meaningless.
Win: Our room will finally be done on Wednesday and we can stop living in such a cramped space.
Whine: Henry always succeeds in acting like a complete asshole every time I try to do something nice with him. Which then makes me look like the asshole parent that can't control her kid. Then Cecilia is also screaming and those other parents/people probably think that I am just a fucking mess and had no business having multiple children.
If the other people have children they are silently congratulating you for leaving the house with your toddler and newborn situation at all. If they aren't parents their opinion is completely and utterly meaningless.
Perfectly said! I bet all those parents are thinking "I remember the last time I was in that situation!"
Win: Our room will finally be done on Wednesday and we can stop living in such a cramped space.
Whine: Henry always succeeds in acting like a complete asshole every time I try to do something nice with him. Which then makes me look like the asshole parent that can't control her kid. Then Cecilia is also screaming and those other parents/people probably think that I am just a fucking mess and had no business having multiple children.
If the other people have children they are silently congratulating you for leaving the house with your toddler and newborn situation at all. If they aren't parents their opinion is completely and utterly meaningless.
Thanks jodielyn10 I just wish Henry would give me a break every once and awhile. He makes me cry multiple times every single day.
He may not give you a break...but here's hoping he puts his drama too good use and becomes a movie star. He can buy you a house to repay you for the shit storm of his toddler life.
junkytrunk, Ingrid asked to go home for a couple of days after we moved, then it felt like she forgot about our old house completely. Suddenly, a few days ago, however, we were driving near our old neighborhood and she asked to go to the other house.
Whine: Saturday night I was leaking like crazy, it had me a little worried... Yesterday was OK, and then last night I leaked a lot again (not quite as much, but still lots).
Win: my fluid levels have replenished and are nearly the same as Friday, which is still in normal range. Whew!
Win: U/S today we did full growth again (forgot to Friday) and baby is estimating at 5lb 4oz!! Everything else looked pretty good too, but I haven't heard from the doc yet with the actual numbers.
Win/Whine: H painted both kiddos rooms at the new house (I didn't make him change them), and yesterday his dad painted our room while H and our moms took down wallpaper in the LR and got it 2/3 done! The whine part, I have only seen pictures and I want to be there.... Well except the wallpaper part, they can totally do that, haha!
I posted the egg roll in a bowl recipe a few weeks ago. I'm on the phone now and it's a pain to find it. I can post it later.
Basically it's browned crumbled sausage (like the jimmy dean breakfast kind), a bag of coleslaw mix, soy sauce , garlic and ginger, serve over rice. Yummy!
Win: I just got an 8% raise. Nearly everyone else n the office did not from what I was told. Yeehaw.
THAT IS AWESOME!!!!!!
Agreed, definitely awesome xanthepants! Could this also be added incentive to maybe move? Not to bring up a sore subject, but maybe more pay would make a move easier for your H? At least it can't hurt, right?
laurski81, hugs, girl, you are a great mom, we all have been in those situations. It will get better soon. Henry is probably jealous and screams for your attention, even if it is a negative attention. Hoping it is just a phase and he will give you a break soon.
Post by xanthepants on May 4, 2015 11:19:34 GMT -5
summergirl1211, More pay will get him settled down about the $$spent on the dog. It was discussed that I can go back to FT anytime I want but I'm not sure I want to share that with him yet - because honestly I don't want to go back to FT yet. I can get addl. hours in and that will help build our saving back up quicker. That would be another means to getting there too. So it all becomes part of that discussion yes. It's honestly going to take a year to get him there if ever. I'm still working on it.
summergirl1211, More pay will get him settled down about the $$spent on the dog. It was discussed that I can go back to FT anytime I want but I'm not sure I want to share that with him yet - because honestly I don't want to go back to FT yet. I can get addl. hours in and that will help build our saving back up quicker. That would be another means to getting there too. So it all becomes part of that discussion yes. It's honestly going to take a year to get him there if ever. I'm still working on it.
Ah yes, I forgot about the dog $$ (seriously, how could I forget?)
Hang in there lady. I'm glad you got some good news today though!
laurski81, Sending lots and lots of hugs. Henry better pay you back a million times over someday. Or own a winery so you have unlimited access to free wine. We love you and know you're doing the very best you can.
FFMC: I have the IKEA mattress as well and noticed a small gap from the front to the mattress but nothing too bad. I'm 3 hours away from an IKEA I will probably just leave it :/
jodielyn10, poor Eli! If it kept happening to me, my kid would have just been in a diaper and t-shirt. Too much laundry!
laurski81, I'm so happy your room is almost done... but girl, you need a break! I really hope you can have a relaxing day on Sunday. You deserve an afternoon alone for Mother's Day!
xanthepants, holy cow - that's great! It's about time. I know you had asked for one awhile back but it was a very underwhelming outcome. You deserve every penny! I wanted to love-tit your post 100x!! At least this can help your savings again, and the discussion of moving, even if in a year or two... while Coco is young is better than never!
aimeefarrahfowler, thanks! Not sure what thread it was, but I can try to search... sounds delish and pretty easy too! Cookie can always link it for me
Post by cookiesandwine on May 4, 2015 11:53:44 GMT -5
Win/Whine: It's super slow today and I have a dull, never-ending headache so I'm going home early today. Bittersweet. Maybe I'll at least pay bills while I'm home alone.
Thanks Cookie!! That does look delish. Pinning now! (that's just going to be my nickname for you now... cookiesandwine)
Whine/FWP: I can't decide what I want to order for lunch... what I really want is an Italian Sammy from Potbelly's. I could splurge and order in from the outside world, but I don't want to.
Thanks jodielyn10 I just wish Henry would give me a break every once and awhile. He makes me cry multiple times every single day.
Giiiiiiiirl, Sorry to hear things are tough. Is he doing preschool at all? That might give you a break, even a few days a week!
No. My sister has been taking him on Tuesdays and Wednesday's and my Mom will take him on Thursdays. So that helps but my sister will be having her baby in the next couple of weeks so that will go away. It doesn't help that she (my sister) has been picking up extra shifts before her baby comes and then asks me last minute to also take her kid for her. I already have my niece on Fridays but then I have been getting her most Monday's too. I'm at a breaking point. I feel like I can't say no to her because she does take Henry 2 times a week for me so I don't know what to do.
Edit: we have looked into preschool but that won't start until September and I'll already be back at work.
Giiiiiiiirl, Sorry to hear things are tough. Is he doing preschool at all? That might give you a break, even a few days a week!
No. My sister has been taking him on Tuesdays and Wednesday's and my Mom will take him on Thursdays. So that helps but my sister will be having her baby in the next couple of weeks so that will go away. It doesn't help that she (my sister) has been picking up extra shifts before her baby comes and then asks me last minute to also take her kid for her. I already have my niece on Fridays but then I have been getting her most Monday's too. I'm at a breaking point. I feel like I can't say no to her because she does take Henry 2 times a week for me so I don't know what to do.
Edit: we have looked into preschool but that won't start until September and I'll already be back at work.
So wait... you can watch Henry, Cece, and her kid but she won't be able to do the same in return (just watching Henry and her two kids)? Or am I reading it wrong laurski81?
No. My sister has been taking him on Tuesdays and Wednesday's and my Mom will take him on Thursdays. So that helps but my sister will be having her baby in the next couple of weeks so that will go away. It doesn't help that she (my sister) has been picking up extra shifts before her baby comes and then asks me last minute to also take her kid for her. I already have my niece on Fridays but then I have been getting her most Monday's too. I'm at a breaking point. I feel like I can't say no to her because she does take Henry 2 times a week for me so I don't know what to do.
Edit: we have looked into preschool but that won't start until September and I'll already be back at work.
So wait... you can watch Henry, Cece, and her kid but she won't be able to do the same in return (just watching Henry and her two kids)? Or am I reading it wrong laurski81?
I was just thinking the same thing! It would be nice even once a week to swap with her so she knows the crazy that you've had the last few weeks, plus you could swap days so you each get a partial break at least.
Post by xanthepants on May 4, 2015 12:43:57 GMT -5
trixi282, I'd be ordering in every single day. Sigh - I'd be enormous. This week is crazy after work but next week I can swing by and bring you dinner some night if you want company again.
@laurski Are there any drop-in daycare sorts of scenarios maybe you could try out? Ugh. I'm sorry that you aren't getting a break. I really do hope he starts to mellow out a bit for you soon as he starts to adjust. I know my friend hired a "mother's helper" - a teen that came over in the summer for about 4-5 hours a couple days a week to take on her toddler twins while she worked from home. Could you look into something like that? Someone to entertain/wrangle him for a few hours a day maybe once or twice a week to take some pressure off. Then you could sneak in a nap with CeCe or at least a little decent bonding time.
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