So I was thinking it might be good to get a few worries you might have about the labour out there. It might be nice to see others have the same worries you might have.
So for me DS labour was relatively quick (4/5 hours from when we arrived at the hospital). Because of this I'm afraid I'll have this baby on the side of the road. Also I'm worried about being home alone with DS when I do go into labour, even though my husband ensures me he will get home in record time and we have family close by.
+1!! I have the exact same fear @hazeldublin! I had a suuuuper fast labor, so I also have fears of not making it to the hospital, but also not being able to get my epidural in time, which I ALMOST had happen last time... I'm also afraid of timing being bad that someone can't come to be with DS when I go to the hospital!
For me it's mostly a timing thing too. We live about an hour from the hospital, 80% of that being highway so at least traffic isn't a huge worry. But I was only in active labour about 2-3 hours last time. I'm not too worried about making it for an epi because I didn't last time. Mostly just that my husband is going to be in meetings in another town that kind of completes the triangle (he often is there) an hour from me and an hour from the city because it makes things a little more complicated regarding DS. Luckily family is close though and they are the plan, so I just won't overthink it because it's all what ifs and logistics of driving that I cant control anyway.
Pretty terrified of going in to labor at work. Can you drive when you're in the very beginning stages of labor? Because I work 45 minutes from my house/hospital...
This is mine too. I'm going to ask my boss if I can work from 38 weeks on from home because we live 10 minutes from the hospital but my office is 45 minutes away. I am usually the only one in my office anyway (satellite office) so I'm worried I'll be alone here anyway if it did happen.
1- we have small families- just my mom. No siblings or anything. I'm worried my hubby won't be able to get off work in time and no one will be able to come get me and I'll have this baby at home alone, or in an ambulance alone, or with my other two kids watching...
2- I'm also worried about the opposite as above, where my labor is slow and painful and they won't admit me (last time this happened) until I practically beg and then think I'm crazy so they admit me based off of fear I'll go home and have a heart attack..
We had another post like this recently. At the time I said my fear was having a baby in the NICU. Others mentioned stillbirth, which of course is everyone's worst nightmare.
One of the moms in May '15 posted about a sudden onset of HELLP with her birth story. Any form of eclampsia or pre-eclampsia remains on my list. My cousin's wife suffered a pretty severe case of HELLP. I also had a mild case of post-partum pre-eclampsia with DD. I also know someone who died during childbirth, but I'm pretty much blocking that out of my mind.
1. DH doesnt currently have a job, but he has a few 2nd and 3rd interviews lined up...one of those if he were to get it would take him out of state for a week for training... So scared that hes going to get that one and be in some other state. I dont want anyone in the Delivery Room but him... If he isnt here I will just have to have the baby alone. (His mom keeps offering to come to any Dr's appointments with me. But my mom hasnt come to any so im not going to have his mom) And if I have to go into labor by my self then I will 2. That I go into labor while driving home or something!
DH has one last trip planned before LO arrives (he vends at various conventions and LARPs). I'll be 36 weeks at that point, so it shouldn't be an issues, but I'm worried I'll go into early labor with him 3+ hours away.
We had another post like this recently. At the time I said my fear was having a baby in the NICU. Others mentioned stillbirth, which of course is everyone's worst nightmare.
One of the moms in May '15 posted about a sudden onset of HELLP with her birth story. Any form of eclampsia or pre-eclampsia remains on my list. My cousin's wife suffered a pretty severe case of HELLP. I also had a mild case of post-partum pre-eclampsia with DD. I also know someone who died during childbirth, but I'm pretty much blocking that out of my mind.
Wow that's scary as you tend to think it like never happens nowadays.
Preeclampsia has been a big fear for me all along. I just want a normal healthy labor. We all do, right? Redundant. But I'm so anxious that they will be like you have a serious condition we need you to deliver right now.
I want to go into labor on my own between 37 and 41 weeks and get through it complication free. Push him out, only minor tearing if I'm being realisticly optimistic, and both be in a healthy state after birth. Bond and breastfeed right away. Live happily ever after. My fears revolve around having the gist of that ripped away.
Oh another irrational fear is that I will have a Guinness world record style 13 lbs baby. My last one was 9.8 and I'm terrified of having one over 10 tbh.
Yep. This. Mine was 9.4 and due to that I had to have a c-section. I'm TERRIFIED to have a RCS & I want a VBAC so bad it's insane. I'm soooooo scared she's gonna be big.
1- i'll go into labour whilst driving. I know it a slow process and I'll have warning signs before hand but it's still a fear. Ideally if my water is going to break on its own I'd rather it be in the house or on the toilet.
2- that I'll be too exhausted and worn out to push as my labour will be long.
3- that something happens to baby or that he goes into distress.
4- I feel bad that I'm putting my lady bits through this & im scared of stitches and healing afterwards. Also not looking forward to all the blood..
But whilst I have those fears, my due date can't come soon enough and whilst I'll probably go early or overdue just having that date come closer is both exciting and scary for me.
My fear may not help some of y'all, but my labor with DD went from 0 to 60 in no time flat. Like, from annoying cramps/backache (typical for me in pregnancy) to hands-and-knees with contractions 2mins apart within an hour. I'm scared/worried that I'll tip into that insta-labor again while at work. How can I drive with those contractions? (Yeah, I can't.) Will DH have time to come get me, *and* drive us to the birth center? (DD was birthed within 6 hours from the onset of insta-labor.)
But, I just keep telling myself that if I feel even remotely crampy, I'm staying home for the day, lol.
islandgirl14 it's funny I'm not worried about not getting the epidural in time even though I was 7cm when I begged them to check again (2cm 30 mins before) and I loved the epidural. I think the safety of the baby's arrival is on my mind more. DS heartbeat was dropping through the last few contractions so I needed forceps. So if I was in the car having the baby how would I know it was ok or not.
It sounds like we had a really similar labor experience... I went from a finger tip dilated to 7cm in an hour... from the time they sent me home from L&D telling me I wasn't far enough along, to the time we got back after my water broke at home! I do agree though the safety of the baby is most important! G's heart rate also dropped, but for whatever reason, getting on all fours seemed to help that, and no forceps were needed. I do still want that epidural though, that's for sure... haha!
Post by islandgirl14 on May 4, 2015 11:02:31 GMT -5
I worry about that too noeliav. I can't imagine how you could possibly drive when labor is that far in... Very early labor is one thing, but when it progresses that fast? I can't imagine! I also worry about DH being gone or something, but I also think worst case situation, I can get a coworker, or a neighbor or something to drive me in an emergency. Obviously not what I want, but I'm sure it can be done if need be.
islandgirl14 I don't know why it doesn't worry me more, you know? I'm still sort of in la-la-land, like, the odds of that happening (the insta-labor at work part) are super-remote, right? Right? lol
Although it worries me, I'm actually a bit zen about it.
I'm worried my husband won't be reachable when I go into labor, and also worried that I'll go early. There's no indication I'll be early, but I want to be right around (if not on) my due date.
Also, I'm worried about inductions and cascading interventions in general.
I'm kind of petrified of tearing. I know that a lot of women have a few stitches down there... I think I am almost more stressed out about that than the pain from contractions.
Also, why do people keep telling me their labor horror stories? It's one thing if I am one the 'net searching for info or on here, I'm braced for it then... But I've had 3 or 4 conversations lately that go like this...
Them: how are you doing? Me: pretty good, a little tired... Them: 5 minute long story about their 36 hour labor, pain meds that didn't work right, and how long it took before they could walk up the stairs without moaning in pain. Me: ... Thanks for that.
We had another post like this recently. At the time I said my fear was having a baby in the NICU. Others mentioned stillbirth, which of course is everyone's worst nightmare.
One of the moms in May '15 posted about a sudden onset of HELLP with her birth story. Any form of eclampsia or pre-eclampsia remains on my list. My cousin's wife suffered a pretty severe case of HELLP. I also had a mild case of post-partum pre-eclampsia with DD. I also know someone who died during childbirth, but I'm pretty much blocking that out of my mind.
This is why I'm hesitant to read birth stories or read any pregnancy books. I probably shouldn't have read this thread! Sometimes, knowing too much is too much for me.
I don't have any super anxiety over labor yet, but I've mentioned before in similar threads that I'm scared of dying during childbirth. I don't have any specific reason for this fear, it's just something in the back of my head.
Post by ThePalindromicOne on May 4, 2015 13:23:03 GMT -5
I'm worried that every phase of labor will be on the long end of things. Like pushing, anywhere from 30 minutes to 4 hours.... well I could handle the early end of that, but really couldn't handle the long end of that. And it's so unpredictable!
I think my biggest fear is tearing again. I had a third degree tear and the recovery was absolutely awful. Sometimes I wonder if the pain was more due to the 2+ hours of pushing (I had an otherwise quick labor), but I'm not sure. I just don't want to be sitting on a donut for 6 weeks again.
My sister pushed for 4 hours. He was born with his hand up by his face so that really slowed progress down. But still, she pushed him out! It can be done.
My fear builds off of that they will let me push for like 3 hours, so I'll get all the vaginal trauma, then they'll decide to do a c-section.
My sister pushed for 4 hours. He was born with his hand up by his face so that really slowed progress down. But still, she pushed him out! It can be done.
My fear builds off of that they will let me push for like 3 hours, so I'll get all the vaginal trauma, then they'll decide to do a c-section.
My DS had his hand on his forehead when he was born. Vaginal delivery, about 1 hr 45 mins of pushing, and no tearing.
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