Labour worries!

[wormgerm]

May 4, 2015 13:50:22 GMT -5 silv3rlining said:

May 4, 2015 13:32:53 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

My sister pushed for 4 hours. He was born with his hand up by his face so that really slowed progress down. But still, she pushed him out! It can be done.

My fear builds off of that they will let me push for like 3 hours, so I'll get all the vaginal trauma, then they'll decide to do a c-section.

My DS had his hand on his forehead when he was born. Vaginal delivery, about 1 hr 45 mins of pushing, and no tearing.

Dang girl. Nice work! She was in rough shape but healed up just fine.

[silv3rlining]

May 4, 2015 13:57:36 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

May 4, 2015 13:50:22 GMT -5 silv3rlining said:

My DS had his hand on his forehead when he was born. Vaginal delivery, about 1 hr 45 mins of pushing, and no tearing.

Dang girl. Nice work! She was in rough shape but healed up just fine.

My OB was awesome doing perineum massage during. LOTS of lube. DH said "I didn't even know you could stretch that far!" In my case his hand there was beneficial bc his wrist stopped the cord from wrapping around his neck. But he was also facing sideways...which sucked! (Extreme hip pain)

[lalamomma]

Just the general fear DH wont be here. With him being gone right now and only being here two weeks and then trying to fly back in time when I do go into labor (unless I go after 39 weeks). DD came slowly but who knows how this one will go. I worry about it all the time.

Pre-eclampsia. I also developed some PP and they are watching for it this time DD came early (37 week safe zone, not super early) or my OB said she would have induced me shortly after if I had gotten more symptomatic . I was high risk with her so I was often t the doctor twice a week anyway.

Early labor. DD came at 37 weeks and I just worry this little one will try to come earlier.

[honeybunches101]

Worried about still birth, it's very rare but happened to a friend of mine. But I think everyone is worried about that.

I'm really getting nervous about finding someone to watch DS when I go into labor. We have lots of friends who have offered and my mom will come to town around my due date, but I am still paranoid no one will be able to make it and I'll have to give birth with him in the hospital room! Relatedly, I'm worried I won't know when I'm really in labor and will wait too long to call DH/mom/friends to watch DS. My water broke first last time so I knew it was coming, but I have friends who were sent home from the hospital several times with false labors and I don't want that either! I don't care if my water breaks in the middle of a restaurant, I'll take it!

Also terrified of a huge baby. DS was only 8lb but I had tons of tearing and pushing him out was awful. This baby is measuring bigger and I don't know how I will survive another recovery like last time. I am sure it will be fine, but ouch.

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May 4, 2015 12:48:03 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

May 4, 2015 10:19:31 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

We had another post like this recently. At the time I said my fear was having a baby in the NICU. Others mentioned stillbirth, which of course is everyone's worst nightmare.

One of the moms in May '15 posted about a sudden onset of HELLP with her birth story. Any form of eclampsia or pre-eclampsia remains on my list. My cousin's wife suffered a pretty severe case of HELLP. I also had a mild case of post-partum pre-eclampsia with DD. I also know someone who died during childbirth, but I'm pretty much blocking that out of my mind.

This is why I'm hesitant to read birth stories or read any pregnancy books. I probably shouldn't have read this thread! Sometimes, knowing too much is too much for me.

I completely agree. A few weeks ago I watched one of those reality shows about women that give birth in strange places. One of then was in a car at a gas station and a police man driving by delivered their baby because 911 tool to long to get there. The other girl was on a music audition of all places and was in denial about the fact that she was having constructions. She kept singing on stage until her water broke. I finished watching the show so anxious afterwards and told myself I just can't watch anything like this while so close to EDD.

[txngrl31]

May 4, 2015 14:52:00 GMT -5 @poppyc8 said:

May 4, 2015 12:48:03 GMT -5 txngrl31 said:

This is why I'm hesitant to read birth stories or read any pregnancy books. I probably shouldn't have read this thread! Sometimes, knowing too much is too much for me.

I completely agree. A few weeks ago I watched one of those reality shows about women that give birth in strange places. One of then was in a car at a gas station and a police man driving by delivered their baby because 911 tool to long to get there. The other girl was on a music audition of all places and was in denial about the fact that she was having constructions. She kept singing on stage until her water broke. I finished watching the show so anxious afterwards and told myself I just can't watch anything like this while so close to EDD.

Yea, we both probably need to stay from those type of shows. After reading or watching horror stories and stories with complications, I get very anxious at the doctor and have to have her reassure me a thousand times.

[stinybean]

May 4, 2015 9:44:59 GMT -5 @kej0004 said:

Pretty terrified of going in to labor at work. Can you drive when you're in the very beginning stages of labor? Because I work 45 minutes from my house/hospital...

+1 exactly I'm leaving work a week before my edd and already have a plan setup that I will be having my friend drive me to and from work the week before I leave. I also told her that she needs to drive me home/hospital if need be. She's had three kids so she's plenty experienced.

[ladymouse]

1. Not being able to get hold of DH when I go into labor, and having to drive myself to L&D with DS in tow. He has been away from his phone WAY too often.

2. Going into labor too quickly for my mom to get here to look after DS. (A friend has agreed to be our back-up, but it still bugs me. I'd be tempted to try to have DS with me.)

3. Not knowing LO's position in there (I could tell with my son through the whole third trimester) has me freaked about her being transverse/breech. I don't want to go in to L&D too early if I can at least have a TOLAC, but I don't want to wait too long if it's basically a guaranteed c-section. And there's judging what's too long... Do I wait for the 5/1/1 to be sure labor is actually underway? Silly one, I know - it'll be clearer as my due date approaches.

4. Pre-Eclampsia diagnosis (no reason to think I'd have it. My BP has been good, no swelling.) I suppose a few questions could settle my concerns here. How quickly after a pre-e diagnosis will they wait to do a c-section (I can't be induced this time)? Can it wait ONE day (to allow my mom time to get here to look after DS)?

5. Not having freedom of movement... again. Just let me stand/squat/bend/sway. Don't keep me on my back for hours on end. I don't like feeling trapped in hospitals, and the whole "you have to lay there and not even get up to go pee for no better reason than we said so" makes me feel manic (for lack of a better word)... which isn't exactly conducive to labor. Not really a fear, but it's kind of a nagging annoyance of a thought.

6. Bleeding out. My midwife last time had a way higher cut off for iron than this practice does, and I was on the verge of needing a transfusion last time - and they said my midwife's iron supplements were the thing that made the difference. So now I have to try to up my iron levels without the benefit of having it tested every week. (One of the OBs there is kind of known among the nurses for all the c-section patients having hemorrhages, due to being too eager in pulling out the placenta.) This is, fortunately, something I can actually DO something about.

7. Tearing. According to my midwife last time, I'm highly likely to tear. Enough said. Though... post-c-section contractions probably outweigh that worry.

[mrskblack11]

I am really not worried about labor. I am usually not a worrier about things I have no control over.

I am more freaked out about caring for a baby after labor.

[silv3rlining]

ladymouse I hate being confined to the bed! When I was induced last time my OB broke my water at 2 cm....no way I'm letting that happen again! I didn't realize iron level could affect bleeding (makes sense though. I will also up my iron)

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I'm mostly worried about where DS will be when I go into labor. He is very sensitive and very worried about me being in pain and my worst nightmare is that I have a fast labor in the middle of the night while he is with us, when we have to wait for my mom to wake up, get dressed, drive to the hospital, etc. and in the mean time DS has to come with us and see me in pain while we wait for her. It would be best if he was with his dad or at school/day camp when it starts to go down. And, of course, this is just completely out of my control.

[daydreamernyc]

Very worried about the possible tearing. I've been trying to look up stats. You hear these horror stories of women with permenent damage and it scares me!!!

[mcp6286]

I am most worried about going into labor before my scheduled c-section and progressing so fast that I have to give birth vaginally, sending me into a full-blown GI attack that renders me unable to push. I just want her to be safe!

I was 2 weeks early and my mom's longest labor (12 hours)...my youngest sister arrived 45 mins after her water broke. So the fact that so many people say that the best indicator of your labor is family history scares me...

Other than that the scariest thing for me is prob the catheter...how stupid is that? Although a friend recently freaked me out about how much it hurts to let your milk dry up if you're not breastfeeding. Now I'm worrying about that, too!

[musicfrk2002]

1. I've pretty much convinced myself that my water will end up breaking at work, leading to a phone call to my manager saying "sorry, gotta go, you'll have to come here and finish my work yourself" (I work off-site at a customer location, no co-workers around me)

2. Terrified of anything happening that will lead to having a c-section, such as baby being breech, or lack of progress, etc.

[cnumbers]

I'm reading this thread with the duvet kinda over my eyes but not quite.. gah! This thread is arising new fears that hadn't even occurred to me. Yet I can't stop reading as I'm so curious to see who else has the same fears. Turns out a lot of us have the same fears.

[Bluedaisy]

My only true fear is going into labor before 33 weeks because that would mean baby and I would be sent by air ambulance to a bigger specialized hospital a 5 hour drive away. As long as I make it to next Monday my life is good and baby and I can stay here!

[mathistm]

My biggest fear is that DH won't be here when I go into labor. We live 45 mins from the hospital and all of my family lives at least an hour and a half away. My h has to go to Atlanta in a couple of weeks and possibly Switzerland in early June. I'm not due until the 21st but it really bums me out. He is still working on getting out of Switzerland and I hope he can. Atlanta wouldn't be too bad because there are always direct flights to the city I am delivering in. I feel like if he's there everything else will be fine.

[teenybird]

I am still worried about PTL or missing signs that something else could be wrong. I was pretty clueless when it turned out I had BV, and I was already evaluated for PTL once. The weekly monitoring and the midwives stressing the importance of kick counts to me are making me paranoid about hypothetical complications or stillbirth. Bub seems to be doing okay right now, but I hate not having control over everything.

I'm also worried about going into labor at work. I'm a pretty private person in the workplace, and I really don't want my coworkers to see me during such an intimate/inwardly-focused time. The good thing is about half of them are RNs, so I'd probably be in pretty good hands if shit hit the fan.

I think I'm also inordinately worried about SIDS already…