Who still sends them? I was really good at sending them for each gift after my baby shower this summer and for gifts we received after baby girl was born. But, Christmas was a whirlwind, and I didn't keep track of who gave her what! And, she unexpectedly received a bunch of gifts for her baptism, too, which was 2 days before Christmas. I'm super grateful for the generosity of family and friends, but tackling thank you notes right now seems super overwhelming. I'll likely just suck it up and do it slowly (and try my best to remember and/or send a generalized note), but I'm curious what others do.
Post by penguin129 on Jan 21, 2015 14:25:17 GMT -5
I sent a thank you on facebook messenger the other day for a Christmas Gift. That reminds me I want to send an actual thank you note. I guess it'll go on the list. I think I did Thank You notes with a wallet sized pic of DD smashing her B-day Cake and Thank You notes with a wallet sized pic of her from he dedication, but I'm not sure. If we see the people in person on Christmas it is a word of mouth thank you and if not I try to send notes in the mail.
I sent them after my showers, but probably won't for Christmas gifts. We verbally thanked everyone. I do want LO to send them after his birthday parties when he's big enough.
Yes, I send thank you notes at least for stuff the kids get. I don't care if I get thank you notes. I have one aunt (doesn't have kids) went on a rant once about thank you notes. I make sure to always send her one at least....
I sent thank you notes for bridal shower, wedding, and baby shower gifts. I also sent them out for her birthday, but they were more along the lines of thank you for coming and also for the gift. I don't think that will be a normal occurrence though.
Post by thechickencoop on Jan 21, 2015 15:06:53 GMT -5
For Christmas, I only sent Thank You's for gifts that DS couldn't thank people for in person (a few family members dropped of stuff for him at my parent's before-hand). If they handed him the gift and he opened it and thanked them then, then no. No note. Any showers I would think written Thank Yous would be the most appropriate. Birthdays fall under Christmas to me too though, thanking in person is enough.
I send thank you notes for anything that was a gift from a shower, a gift after either LO was born, or just when we get a thoughtful unexpected gift. I don't send thank you notes for Christmas gifts or birthday presents. I try to just personally tell the person than you.
I think thank you cards might be a thing of the past. Last year my DH and I went to five high school graduation parties and gave a monetary gift at each and never received one thank you card, or had any of them say thank you. I was just a little surprised. Now I feel like some old lady typing this, these darn kids nowadays!
Like many PPs I sent out thank you notes after my bridal shower, wedding, and baby shower. Now I will sent out thank you notes for any gifts we receive in the mail. For the rest we just thank the gift giver verbally when we receive the gift.
In my area, thank you notes are typically for showers, graduations, weddings, and any other "major life event" type thing I may be forgetting at the moment, as well as for a more unexpected gifting (such as the person who plowed my driveway for me recently if I can figure out who it was or the bottle of wine we received from a business associate). Christmas, birthday, etc are all typically more intimate affairs where gifts are often from family and close friends, and no one I know does thank you cards for that because it is easy to thank each person verbally. When gifts are opened in person, the giver is thanked at that time. When gifts are shipped by out-of-towners, a video chat or at least a phone call are the go-to methods for thanking.
I send a thank you note when one of us is given a gift that isn't opened in front of the gift giver. Usually that's for showers and weddings. I admit, I do get a bit upset when I don't get a thank you. I don't need a note, but being thanked tells me that the recipient actually received the gift!
Post by bakingbetty on Jan 21, 2015 18:13:37 GMT -5
Pretty old-fashioned here, I really appreciate a thank you note and make my kids write them **IF** they have birthday parties where guests bring gifts. We don't send notes for Xmas gifts because it's just our family exchanging them and we're all in the room. Same with birthday gifts. We always have family parties.
I will write them out, address them and then forget. I literally have dozens of thankyou notes in a box that just need stamps (and probably some updated addresses)
I always thank people after i receive a gift in person/next phone call. (So like at christmas we would tell DS who got him the gift and make him say thankyou to that person- but given how sick we have been since thankyou cards probably arent happening and if they did the stamps. Why cant they have drive through stamps!!!!!!)
I do them for the kids birthdays but not Christmas. Birthdays usually involve people coming to see us to celebrate on top of a gift so I think it makes more sense. Christmas is a whirlwind with family so it seems a bit more unnecessary.
They are a must for showers or other big events IMO.
I'm pretty traditional--I send them for everything, even if I receive the gift in person and thank the giver then. Gifts, dinner parties, overnight visits, etc. My mom all but beat it into my sister and me over the years, but we both get compliments on how well-written and prompt our notes always are. Thanks, Mom
I think it's sad that personal correspondence is falling by the wayside. But I also still write in cursive and I'm mad that it's no longer taught in school. So clearly I'm a 75-year old in a 30 year old body!
Post by babygsmommy on Jan 22, 2015 0:53:53 GMT -5
I send them for everything. My mom always made us send them for birthday, Christmas and any other time we got gifts. It's burned in my brain to send them! Lol
I send them for almost everything. This year I videotaped DS on my phone thanking the person for his Christmas gift and sent that via email. I like sending actual cards but also send notes via email.
Post by strawberrytree on Jan 22, 2015 11:29:10 GMT -5
I send for shower and new baby gifts, but if a Christmas or birthday gift is opened in person I don't send one. If it's not opened in front of the giver I send something, although for my friends/sisters/our generation I usually send a text, email, or FB message. I send a note in the mail to older generations.
I do think it's rude to not acknowledge a gift at all. If I send you (theoretical you) or your child a gift in the mail and you don't acknowledge it- a text, fb message, email, phone call saying "hey your gift arrived, thanks so much! LO loves it"- I'm probably not going to put a huge amount of effort into future gifts.
I sent them for wedding shower, wedding, baby shower, and new baby gifts. If it is sent via mail or the giver isn't there in person, I send one. Otherwise, it'sjust verbal thank-yous.
Personally, I'm very passionate about thank you notes. I might even judge you as a human being on whether or not you send one and if the content is generic. I spent the time going to the store, wrapping it, showing up at your house, etc, that the least you can do is show that you appreciate it by taking five minutes to write a note. That being said, I don't see the need to send a card if you received the gift in person and thanked them at the same time, such as relatives at Christmas.
I send thank you notes for anything that was a gift from a shower, a gift after either LO was born, or just when we get a thoughtful unexpected gift. I don't send thank you notes for Christmas gifts or birthday presents. I try to just personally tell the person than you.
I think thank you cards might be a thing of the past. Last year my DH and I went to five high school graduation parties and gave a monetary gift at each and never received one thank you card, or had any of them say thank you. I was just a little surprised. Now I feel like some old lady typing this, these darn kids nowadays!
Nope, those folks are r-u-d-e. As my grandmother said "Tell David to call and say thank you or the checks will stop coming" (It's a little specific to our situation, but you get the point.)
I send thank you notes for anything that was a gift from a shower, a gift after either LO was born, or just when we get a thoughtful unexpected gift. I don't send thank you notes for Christmas gifts or birthday presents. I try to just personally tell the person than you.
I think thank you cards might be a thing of the past. Last year my DH and I went to five high school graduation parties and gave a monetary gift at each and never received one thank you card, or had any of them say thank you. I was just a little surprised. Now I feel like some old lady typing this, these darn kids nowadays!
Nope, those folks are r-u-d-e. As my grandmother said "Tell David to call and say thank you or the checks will stop coming" (It's a little specific to our situation, but you get the point.)
I was surprised for it to come out 0-5. I would have been alright if maybe one or two didn't send one, but all 5 just floored me. I even checked my bank statement a few months later just to make sure they all cashed their checks, and sure enough they did. If any of them invite us to a college graduation party/shower/or wedding I might include a self addressed envelope with a blank thank you card inside.
Post by BostonKisses on Jan 23, 2015 16:17:30 GMT -5
I do a verbal thank you, or have my kid do a verbal thank you, to the gift giver when the gift is received. I only write thank you notes for big events like showers or for my wedding. I'm ok with not getting a note if the receiver already thanked me, and I'm also ok with getting a text, email, or FB message if they can't give a verbal thank you.
Nope, those folks are r-u-d-e. As my grandmother said "Tell David to call and say thank you or the checks will stop coming" (It's a little specific to our situation, but you get the point.)
I was surprised for it to come out 0-5. I would have been alright if maybe one or two didn't send one, but all 5 just floored me. I even checked my bank statement a few months later just to make sure they all cashed their checks, and sure enough they did. If any of them invite us to a college graduation party/shower/or wedding I might include a self addressed envelope with a blank thank you card inside.
I generally always send a card and have my older son do some coloring on the card as well. We talk about why we send them, etc. If it's an exchange situation, like on Christmas, I don't always send them anymore. For grandparents, I will often text or email a picture of the kids playing with the gifts.
My brother and sister-in-law never even acknowledge the gifts I send their kids. Like not even a confirmation that the shipment arrived. Not an email, text, FB message or anything. I think it's incredibly rude especially because I always make sure they know we appreciate what they send us, and I get nothing but crickets back about our gifts to them.
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